I squirted my hungover husband in the face with water

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Im 8 weeks pregnant with DC #3 and really struggling with pregnancy sickness, tiredness and headaches - i agreed my DH could go out last night with work colleagues for his leaving do while i picked up DCs, took them swimming, fed and bathed them and put them to bed (and cleaned up then straight to bed myself).
He got back drunk at 1am and didnt get up in the night when 1 DC fell out of bed and then when the other DC needed covers pulled up then later wet themselves. All this i can deal with.
This morning kids wanted to get up at 6am and DH completely refused to get up. Said he wasnt getting up and to leave him alone. I said no way he had to get up with us as im on the verge of vomiting and he needs to be with us to help. He kept refusing. Kids tried to get him up he refused. Told us to fuck off etc. So I took my Evian water bottle and squirted his face and upper back while he was in bed. This made him sit up (he was furious) but he then lay back down so i squirted him again and said id keep doing it until he got up. He did then get up.
I'm not planning to apologise. Was this unreasonable?!

Yes, I mentioned it. Because it's the same type of 'assault'. You're embarrassing yourself. One would think you'd have the self awareness to stop.

Given his decision to socialise does require the OP to take on all his parenting responsibilities (both night before, during the night, and apparently morning after) whilst she is very ill herself, then yes of course permission is needed as he could not make that decision in isolation. Women are not the default parent!!!

OP, you know you were wrong to squirt him with water, but equally he is absolutely taking the piss to refuse to parents because he has caused himself to have a hangover, whilst you undoubtedly feel as bad if not worse. Telling the kids to fuck off is abysmal too. Does he ever parent his own children?

If he was going out like you ‘let him’ you probably knew he would be hungover so why not just let him have his night out and his hangover and deal with the kids yourself? You’re having another child, you sound like you can’t cope!

This acceptance and normalising of drinking and getting drunk is so wrong. I am baffled is so common.

Where does it say she 'let him'? I thought she said she 'agreed'.

And it’s ok to feel like that, but 80 percent of people consume alcohol and occasional nights out, having some booze is normal. It isn’t being normalised, it’s been normal for centuries.

Why would you expect him to be hungover?
Many people manage to get out and enjoy evening without getting terribly drunk.

We don’t say “I’m charging you for “tipping milkshake over your partners head” no.. we would say “you’re being charged with common assault”…… the circumstances would be made clear to them prior to being charged for it, so I wouldn’t need to outline them again.

its really not hard to grasp - it’s common assault, I HAVE charged people for common assault, it happens on a daily basis. But clearly you know far more than someone that does it for a job. I’m so sorry 😂😂🤡🤡

Driving hungover IS drink-driving. If you were hungover that you felt you had impaired judgement, you were still over the limit from the alcohol the night before. You drove your 2yo whilst still under the effects of alcohol.

Not even remotely comparable at all to a man that's celebrated his own leaving do and not being ready to get up at 6am (while it's still dark outside).

For starters, one is illegal, the other is not.

He didn't 'have some booze' though... he had enough booze to be totally incapable the next morning, and couldn't help his unwell, pregnant wife with their two very young dc.

I drink alcohol, I'm not teetotal. I'd consider it pretty embarrassing and irresponsible to get drunk like a misguided teenager when I'm a 40yo mother of 4.

This guy needs to grow up.

In the UK, deliberately throwing a liquid such as water or a milkshake over someone can be a criminal offence, even if no injury is caused.

1. Assault / Battery (most common)

Under English and Welsh criminal law, this conduct is usually charged as battery, which is a form of assault. Legal basis

• Common law offence of battery, prosecuted under section 39 of the Criminal Justice Act 1988 (which sets the penalty).

Definition Battery is: the intentional or reckless application of unlawful force to another person. Key points:

• “Force” is interpreted very broadly.
• Physical injury is not required.
• Any unwanted physical contact, however slight, can qualify.

Case law

• Collins v Wilcock [1984]: even minimal touching can amount to battery if unlawful.
• R v Thomas [1985]: touching clothing can be sufficient.
• Courts have consistently accepted that throwing liquid onto a person is an application of force.

Result Throwing water, milkshake, or similar intentionally or recklessly will usually amount to battery. Penalty

• Summary offence
• Maximum: 6 months’ imprisonment and/or an unlimited fine

1. When it could be more serious

The offence escalates if:

• The liquid is harmful (e.g. acid, corrosive substance)
• There is injury
• There is racially or religiously aggravated intent

Examples:

• Harmful liquids → Offences Against the Person Act 1861 (sections 20 or 47)
• Aggravated by hostility → Crime and Disorder Act 1998

These carry much higher penalties.

1. Context does not usually excuse it

Even if done:

• As a “protest”
• As a “joke”
• Without causing injury

It can still be an offence if the contact was intentional or reckless and unwanted.

1. Civil liability (separate from criminal law)

Independently of any criminal charge, the person affected could also bring a civil claim in tort for battery, seeking damages. Summary

• Yes, throwing water or a milkshake over someone in the UK can be a crime.
• It is usually battery (assault) under common law.
• Prosecuted via section 39 Criminal Justice Act 1988.
• Injury is not required.
• Severity depends on intent, substance used, and consequences.

Maybe don’t have a 3rd child.

Can't get upset on his behalf tbh. What a jackass.

So helpful!

What he did was irresponsible. What you did was abuse.

Again, no cop is going to charge squirting with water or tipping a milkshake on someone with common assault. You may fool some, but you won't fool all with your lies. It's just pitiful now. 🤡🤡🤡🤡

Actually I think it is. It’d be a wise move not to bring another child into this mess

You sound horrific. Imagine if this was a woman posting this - they would be told their husband was abusive and to leave.

It is very plainly considered assault. I really dont know why you're having to argue this when it can be so easily googled.

This is the first thing that comes to mind on the subject of throwing liquid at people - https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c5ywp7lgwvro

Its batshit to think that assaults dont range in severity, of course they do.

Okay 😂 with so much knowledge of policing and the law, you really should apply. But you won’t, because you clearly hate the police.

You have been proven wrong and you cannot stand it. Or is it more you’ve been proven wrong by a female that’s upset you more? Awww 🥹. Diddums.

So... have you ever been so hungover that you told your toddler dc to fuck off?

Because that's what OP's husband did.

I don't think this is one-sided.

Err:
A woman who threw a McDonald's milkshake over Reform UK leader Nigel Farage during the general election campaign has been given a suspended prison sentence.
Victoria Thomas Bowen hurled the drink at Farage as he left a JD Wetherspoon pub in Clacton-on-Sea on 4 June, having just launched his candidacy for the Essex constituency.
Thomas Bowen has been given a 13-week jail sentence, suspended for 12 months, must pay the MP £150 compensation, complete 120 hours of unpaid work and pay £450 in court costs.
Following her sentencing, Farage posted on social media, external: "We now live in a country where you can assault a Member of Parliament and not go to prison."
Thomas Bowen, 25, from Clacton, admitted assault by beating and criminal damage at a previous court hearing.

Wow, lots of judgey, holier than thou responses. Your husband is a selfish irresponsible child and I'm impressed you showed such restraint, loud music and making sure the children were as lively as they could be round him would have been my response.

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/law-and-order/11360302/Woman-guilty-of-assault-for-throwing-water.html

The OP hasn't said that though. There's a glass too many drunk, and there's paralytic drunk, and the whole range between.

Not being ready to get up at 6am, after getting home at 1am, even stone cold sobar would be normal. If he was still in bed at 10am, yes, more would agree. But having a few drinks and not wanting to get up at 6am is not a pattern of irresponsible behaviour.