I squirted my hungover husband in the face with water

[Hormonallyblessed]

Im 8 weeks pregnant with DC #3 and really struggling with pregnancy sickness, tiredness and headaches - i agreed my DH could go out last night with work colleagues for his leaving do while i picked up DCs, took them swimming, fed and bathed them and put them to bed (and cleaned up then straight to bed myself).
He got back drunk at 1am and didnt get up in the night when 1 DC fell out of bed and then when the other DC needed covers pulled up then later wet themselves. All this i can deal with.
This morning kids wanted to get up at 6am and DH completely refused to get up. Said he wasnt getting up and to leave him alone. I said no way he had to get up with us as im on the verge of vomiting and he needs to be with us to help. He kept refusing. Kids tried to get him up he refused. Told us to fuck off etc. So I took my Evian water bottle and squirted his face and upper back while he was in bed. This made him sit up (he was furious) but he then lay back down so i squirted him again and said id keep doing it until he got up. He did then get up.
I'm not planning to apologise. Was this unreasonable?!

oh sod off with your pick-me/cool wife shit. That is such a 'waaaaah, no-one agreeeeees with meeeeee' cop out.

I would tell my H to fuck off if he tried making me get up at 6am after an agreed night out, there is fuck all 'pick-me' about it.

As I've asked a PP, in that scenario would your H be pregnant and suffering with morning sickness?

What does that have to do with it? We've all (most of us here) been pregnant.

Stop using pregnant as an excuse.. she chose that state, fucking get on with it.

If you can't cope with the two kids you've got, don't have a 3rd.

As a rare occurrence or one off, feeling so rough from a night out that you can’t get up (and I’m quite sure had he been solely in charge it would probably have been different) and mind your kids at 6am knowing their other parent is there does not constitute neglect.

Hopefully OP will return soon to give some more context/background

Yea that morning sickness and pregnancy thing …Pregnancy … so what?

Morning sickness - perhaps OP should have made other arrangements for childcare that evening if she knew this would mean she’s unable to sole parent the am after a pre arranged and therefore known quantity of her partners night out?

He also chose that state, do you understand how pregnancy works? Bottom line is a normal and reasonable person would have helped her out rather than swearing at her and the kids, I know my DP would! It's so gross what people are happy to let men get away with so they can say they just 'get on with it'.

Do i understand how pregnancy works. Good grief.. no.. i've had two and never understood a thing about it, despite having morning sickness while looking after one who was disabled and a husband who worked mornings.

Patronising me isn't going to make me agree that what the OP did wasn't abuse, and isn't something ANYONE should tolerate from their spouse.

This yes I am also shocked at what most women let men get away with! Must just feel stuck I guess 🤷🏽‍♀️

Or maybe it’s just the women on mn!

In what way did I patronise you? It was very strange to refer to pregnancy as something OP 'chose' as if her DH had no part to play. OP's DH was verbally abusive to her and their children, spraying water on him does not even come close to that.

Meaning of neglected - "suffering a lack of proper care"

Yes, they lacked proper care FROM HIM
Are you saying children wake up and don't need their parents?

She IS pregnant - and was feeling sick, she said that in her OP, why shouldn't it be pointed out?

He "deserved" a night off? From what? Being a husband and father?

I notice you didn't (couldn't) take issue with the verbal abuse.

No wonder men use the term "babysitting the kids", with enablers like you as their cheerleaders

I'm shocked at this thread! Women everywhere truly need to raise their standards, the bar is not even on the floor it's underground.

The whole paragraph!

Particularly the use of 'neglected' and 'verbally abused'.

🤣

Raise what standard? Caring for the man i married enough to know that if i 'agreed' for him to have a night out to celebrate his leaving do, that the least i can do is let him sleep it off the next morning?

Since when was it ok to punish your spouse for an agreed night out?

It’s the “f yous” here. TBH I wouldn’t date a man who spoke like that to me or my kids or anyone Tbf. But I guess it’s too late now.

Care for him sure, how about having him care for you too? OP's DH has had the night out celebrating his leaving do whilst OP cared for the children, why wouldn't he give her a bit of respite the next day? OP didn't even say she didn't want to care for the kids in the morning, just that she wanted him to get up too to help her out a bit.

If I post "oh do fuck off you idiot" to you, the post would get reported and deleted.

Why?

Because it is verbal/written abuse.

Yet you think a man had the right to say that to his pregnant (ooh there I go again, pointing it out) wife and children??

Vile

Yes, can't believe this is being so glossed over, I hate angry/sweary/shouty men.

So what she wants makes it ok for her to tip water over him?

Except the people agreeing have mostly said they agree with the DH because they, the woman, would be the one having the lie in after a night out, and there's no way their DH, the man, would expect them to get up at 6am.

I'm pretty happy with my standards thank you, I've made sure I'm with a man who respects me enough to have a decent sleep after a rare night out.

The only reason I can think anyone would disagree with that, is if their standards were low enough they'd accept it as a regular occurrence. Absolutely nowhere does the OP suggest that and the OP agreeing to the night out suggests it is a rare thing.

Yep! So uncouth.

Yup parentS, one was perfectly capable of looking after the kids.

What does she do when hubby is at work and has sickness? Does he have to rush home?

Probably deserved a break from the physical abuse that some folk feel is ok

Verbal abuse? Oh you mean a tired person said the F word? I bet no mothers on here would say that naughty word.

Cheerleader, that made me giggle thanks :)

Did you miss the part where he told OP and their children to fuck off?