Would my house rules be unreasonable? #1 would be No Male Visitors overnight

[GreenFriedTomato]

I'm female and 55. My flatmate may be moving out this summer so I'm considering getting another flatmate/lodger at some point in the future.
I'm a quiet person and generally easygoing but I would have couple of main rules.

No parties. Very occasional small gatherings would be ok like a birthday dinner but no big house party events.

Most importantly, no male visitors (meaning boyfriends/ ONS). Obviously male relatives or a friend coming by for coffee fine. I'm talking about men/dates staying over

I understand the 'no men staying ' may seem old-fashioned but it's related to me having PTSD and the fact is I would be uncomfortable having random guys staying and coming in and out of the home. It's a small 2 bed flat with a small lounge area.
Many single women have partners/boyfriends so they wouldn't be interested in such an ad anyway, but would it even be realistic or acceptable to stipulate a flat share with this condition?

I would probably enjoy the occasional company of a female flatmate, but she would have a life too and I'm not sure many women would accept to live in a place where they couldn't bring any male friends around. On the other hand, I have female acquaintances who flatshare and never take guys back.

I can't recall ever seen an advert stating 'woman wanted for flat share. No male visitors overnight allowed'. Not in this country anyway. Maybe I should forget the idea entirely.

Any thoughts?

Was this in Victorian times? She sounds like a petty tyrant.
I've certainly heard though of things like people advertising a room but with no use of the kitchen permitted, all the lodger's belongings must be removed from the room when they're not there etc (this is for Mon–Fri/p-t lodgers).

I've lived with lodgers for 27 years. About 100 different people have lived here. I have a rule about this: no casual pickups can be brought back, but if a person is in a long term stable relationship I do not object to the partner staying overnight occasionally - provided there is no noise that keeps others awake. But then again I have a spacious, 3 storey, 4 bed house. In a flat as small as yours, no, I would not allow it at all.

Just make it clear when anyone applies. Don't put it in the ad, though. And advertise on spareroom - it's free.

You can word things like

it’s a lodger contract not a AST. Please ensure that you understand the difference

it’s not a party house

are you the sort of person who has lots of friends around

do you wfh

no drugs, no smoking,

Your house, your rules and I think it’s prudent to not allow random men visitors. Word it carefully though, I worked with a woman in her 30s who couldn’t get a housemate because her ad made her sound like a diktat nun who wanted someone to pay half the rent but not actually live there..

Gosh, that was harsh. Wanting to keep your privacy in your own home isn't a whim, it's a right.

I think it sounds fine. Maybe put the part about wanting a quiet flatmate, no parties on the initial advertisement and then elaborate at the interview. I am also a middle aged woman and would love this arrangement.
Another angle in the insurance. By the time you get to our age you tend to have a few valuables and insurance doesn't cover theft for people invited to your home.
The weekday longer is a good idea. Maybe even a student who goes home every weekend if you live near a university.

I think it's perfectly reasonable. I would not want random strange men in my home at any time.