DH thinks he should have an office space kept clear at home

[RazedBeds]

I am in a job where I visit establishments or work from home. In effect this means I am in and out of my home all the time and WFH about 3 days a week.

DH works in an office, but has the odd evening call to do at home - maybe 2 a month.

He's thrown a strop because I usually work upstairs but move to the basement room when it's very cold, as it's warmer down there and there's an electric fire. I plugged in the fire and in doing so I unplugged DH's monitor that he attached his laptop to when he does these occasional evening calls. He says I should leave one desk completely clear and set up for him and that it's inconsiderate of me not to. If he tells me he has a call I will clear the desk btw, but if I am WFH and will be tomorrow I do leave my laptop set up.

I feel like since I work at home almost every day and he does do very occasionally, it's not unreasonable for me to spread myself across the workspaces at my convenience as long as I clear a desk whenever he wants. He says that's not fair and one desk should always be set up and available for him, that I don't need to use two. For clarity I work at one or the other but it varies depending on the weather and my mood!

AIBU?

I think he's being perfectly reasonable. He's happy for you to continue to have the use of three work spaces, he just asks that if you use the basement office you leave it as you found it when you stop using it or if he needs it. It's really not difficult to do.

But get another power point put in in the basement, it sounds like one socket is in danger of being overloaded.

I think DH is unreasonable if he only works at home rarely. In addition he has a desk set up solely for his use at work so by insisting on one kept just for him at home , he has two desks. Why is the OP using two desks depending on the season seen as unreasonable but DH having two permanently set up as acceptable and necessary. If she has to always leave it ready for him to use then she always has to plug/unplug etc to save the stress of plugging his monitor in -double standards?

Surely it is going to cost a fortune to run the heating all day in the loft room if you make it your FT WFH desk.

Lay claim to the basement and tell DH he is being unreasonable about his occasional use and needing to plug in a monitor.

There are four desks, she wants all of them
She's the insanely selfish one, and you're supporting her in this insanity

That's not true. She wants to be able to use two of the desks based on weather. The third one is free. And he can still use the first and second one as well, just not in dedicated office mode.

Is he controlling in other aspects of your relationship? He sounds horrible frankly!

No, he is lovely actually. A bit anal about tidiness but he knows and accepts he married a messy woman and loves me anyway.

I started calling myself "Jenny two-desks" (but using my actual name of course) and we had a good laugh about it. He's my pal and I'd be lost without him. Like every other couple, we sometimes disagree.

It's making me laugh that I apparently command 3 or even 4 desks and deny my poor husband a space, but am also coercively controlled by a horrible bully. Threads kind of go off on their own meander sometimes.