Partner doesn’t shower enough

[anonymous73181921]

my partner doesn’t shower often enough, I mean he can go days without showering and putting clean boxers on,
I’ve mention it so many times but his excuse is he doesn’t have time as he has the gym then work but there is time and I just lost it today and told him he’s being lazy and it’s off putting cos he smells.
he thinks I shouldn’t have called him lazy cos he really doesn’t have time but he does have plenty time.

More a case of bad briefs than good grief

He should be washing before work and after the gym the disgusting cretin.

wouldn’t let him share a bed.

It takes less than a minute to wash your bits and put on clean pants. He just can’t be arsed. Imagine the poor people at the gym- they must dread it when he turns up

is he Going into the office stinky?!?

That takes me back.

I’d have a random itch or a pain or something odd happen with my body - and I WAS a regular bather due to mum - but anyhow, I’d say “My elbow itches” or “My shin hurts” - and dear old Mum would always say, ”try a little soap and water.” It never failed lol.

I would offer to help him pack his things ooh bad hygiene is a massive turn off for me both myself and DH shower daily and depending on our schedules and plans it’s twice a day I couldn’t cope and brushing teeth is twice a day I’ve actually got a toothbrush and toothpaste at work as I work with clients face to face I will often brush my teeth after lunch OP it has to be a deal breaker

Except shower!

And he doesn’t brush his teeth if he doesn’t shower. For the love of god some women have got to raise theirs standard.

Urrgghhhhh, my STBXH was like this. I noticed during Covid he didn’t shower for nearly two weeks once. He also had gut issues and absolutely stank. He was also often perplexed as to why I didn’t want to have regular sex with him.

In reference to OP comment that there’s not a thing he wouldn’t do for her.

Gross. The “no time” excuse is bollocks.

So if he doesn’t bother to shower I bet he doesn’t bother to wash his hands after the toilet either, as he doesn’t have the time. Does he help
to prepare food?

Would you eat moldy, rancid food?

Similarly, you shouldn't date moldy, rancid men.

Why are you putting up with this? He desn't even have enough respect for you to shower.

Gross

So does he sleep in his boxers, or just put the same ones back on? If the latter, simply kidnap his clothes as soon as he takes them off and bung them straight in the washer- probably with an extra glug of Zoflora. Personally I wouldn't share a bed with him. 🤮

This is really dirty. I'd not want him on the furniture let alone anywhere near me! I don't know how you cope with this OP.

Someone will jump in and ask if it’s mental health related soon.

it’s fucking disgusting is what it is. Only brushing teeth when he showers?

why are you allowing this? Get rid of this crusty man

He can’t complain if you called a spade a spade. If he’s lazy he gets called lazy

I wouldn't date a man who was too fucking lazy to shower. That's gross.

His poor coworkers. He goes to work after the gym and no shower. You can leave, you choose to be around a stinkman, they can't leave. They're stuck.

Doesn't scrub enough, by the sound of it 🙂

That's foul.
He'll end up with a nasty fungal, or other, skin infection and poor dental hygiene is associated with all sorts of serious diseases inc heart disease and diabetes. Try and have a word from a health perspective. If he doesn't change his ways, ditch him.

If he doesn't have time to shower or brush his teeth he certainly doesn't have time to go the gym. Showering and brushing teeth are absolute necessities, they are ended that should be prioritised over almost everything else. He could get up 10 minutes earlier, or spend 10 minutes after the gym.

"nothing he wouldn't do for you" except for maintain a basic level of hygeine?

He's lazy and gross.

there's not a thing he wouldn’t do for me

Other than have a shower.

Oh come on ladies, I’m a bloke so can provide a male perspective.

After careful consideration of all the factors, my conclusion is that this gentleman is a disgusting pig with no respect for anybody, including himself. I suggest that if the OP wishes to continue the relationship, that she installs a pigsty in the garden for him to live in. He clearly has no place in, or appreciation of, a civilised household. He would be happier outdoors.

Is that a helpful insight? 😃

Yet he won’t shower for you? Unless you meant ‘except the obvious’?

Is it a sensory thing? I love being in the shower and the feeling of being clean afterwards but really hate actually getting in the shower and then out again.