People who don't read the WHOLE thread before commenting

[ExpatInSlavikLand]

Unless you're completely new to commenting on MN and therefore aren't aware you can:

a) see how many pages of comments have already been made, and therefore check them before commenting, and:

b) click to read all of the OP's responses and updates

Why do you blithely ignore (what are often) reems and reems of comments and relevant responses from the OPs to put your two penneth'orth on a long-passed or clarified original post, usually parroting what multiple others have already written?

We've seen a great example of this yesterday, on the post written by a poor lady in the ME whose husband had clearly not really been in a barber shop for the two hours he'd said he'd be. We're currently on 36 pages of comments on this particular post, and we still have people commenting on the OP's original point, ignoring everything else she's since written (and in many cases being extremely unfair and nasty to her), promoting dozens of other people to kindly leap to her defense and ask these latecomers to read the entire thread before commenting.

What a mess.

Absolutely me 💯, Hrft here either.

Truly don't have time to read every comment, but will post on those that I think have a relevant point to make.

Discounting people who don't have time TRFT is almost discriminating, as many will be working people who having caring responsibilities in some way.

Cancel the cheque

To be honest, if there are 30 pages, I'm not reading every comment. The issue sometimes is that the OP drip-feeds the story; if all the information is upfront, not sure it's necessary to read every single comment.

So they are not interested in giving helpful advice. They just want to post.

I don't mind if people don't read every comment, it may even be useful if lots of people say the same thing.
But not reading the OP posts and commenting when something has moved on is kind of pointless. If you care enough to comment, then you should care enough to see if OP situation is resolved before you do.

She most likely does or she wouldn’t have posted about it. Strangely enough there are some people who actually care, even about strangers or people they don’t know, when they see them getting a rough deal. I’m one of those people who cares too. It’s just inbuilt in me to give a shit, sometimes I wish it wasn’t, but I guess, that’s just how some of us are 🤷‍♀️

Was busy with work to pay my bills. Pp’s earlier responses- which I read and where OP concedes on important points, was informative.

i had a far more important point to make on behalf of genuine ops in need of advice. My post clearly proved my point.

Now, continue read the rest if the thread, will you. My point - very important- has been made. You are not even the op.

I find people who quote the op far more annoying tbh.

I'm not the OP well spotted. I think it's a very very important point for people to aware if they need urgent advice to tread carefully with the advice given. The amount of people who don't understand nor read the opening post could be a problem if people needed that urgent advice and took it seriously.

Anyway I'm off to work, my service to MN done.

This place is a free for all. I'm here, like everyone, to entertain myself. I approach that my own way. You approach that your way. Who really cares that much? If it's so important to someone that they have having emotions about how other people post, then I suggest they get a life outside Mumsnet.

Obviously more thought is needed when posting on 'heavy topic' threads.

Beowulf?

The Middle East barber thread #3 having been removed for a bit of the old ‘looking at’ by MNHQ seems somehow ironic (in the very modern sense) right now.

Will it be back? Will it not? Is this someone’s life? Is it trivial? Is it not? Meta stuff.

Has thread 3 of the lady in the ME been deleted? I can't see it now

See my post at 21.12.

Although apparently it’s back again. It must have hit a report limit which automatically removed it for moderation.

Thanks

I read the OPs comments, because they may add more info or responded to someone who asked the same things I initially want to.

But I never intentionally read other comments, I dont care what other poster's opinions are in terms of what mine are.

Who the hell has the time to read all the comments? Are you insane? Get a life, its just a chat forum. It doesn't actually matter. At all.

You do realise what you're describing doesn't apply to the thousands of ppl who are reading it on Facebook. You would have to scroll through hundreds and hundreds of comments to find the ops comments. You are describing what ppl who are signed into mumsnet can see. The rest of the world doesn't get an option to see just the ops comments. NOT THAT IT MATTERS. AT ALL.

I usually read OP’s posts but don’t bother with the rest.

It’s particularly bad when it’s a sensitive topic. My own worst example was an OP who was pregnant with a baby who was likely to have disabilities. There were various complications re her relationship with the father and around other children he already had, and the OP updated the thread saying that she had definitely decided to have a termination. She was absolutely clear about it.

Despite that, a poster came on to talk about the fact that she herself had the condition that the baby would have had, and to talk about what sort of life the child might have in a positive way. Lots of information about support networks and that sort of thing. In another context, fine, but not, imo, in the light of OP’s updates.

And when I said as much, the poster got very sharp with me, saying things like ‘do you think I can’t read because I’m disabled?’. It was all quite unpleasant.

Fucking hell, you sound demented.

It’s still pretentious to assume that your post is essential reading.

If it doesn't matter at all, why are you posting repeatedly about it?

Again, the entitlement that you're allowed to voice your opinion but everyone else should find themselves something better to do.

Just commenting to see what happens.

I haven't rtft.

I doubt a single person here thinks their posts are essential reading. Mostly it's just fluff or snippets of life and experience. Nothing at all essential. Some posts might be helpful to the OP but, in general, nothing would be lost by the absence of a single poster here.

How dare you post that! Sorry, just getting into the spirit of things around here. ;-)