People who don't read the WHOLE thread before commenting

[ExpatInSlavikLand]

Unless you're completely new to commenting on MN and therefore aren't aware you can:

a) see how many pages of comments have already been made, and therefore check them before commenting, and:

b) click to read all of the OP's responses and updates

Why do you blithely ignore (what are often) reems and reems of comments and relevant responses from the OPs to put your two penneth'orth on a long-passed or clarified original post, usually parroting what multiple others have already written?

We've seen a great example of this yesterday, on the post written by a poor lady in the ME whose husband had clearly not really been in a barber shop for the two hours he'd said he'd be. We're currently on 36 pages of comments on this particular post, and we still have people commenting on the OP's original point, ignoring everything else she's since written (and in many cases being extremely unfair and nasty to her), promoting dozens of other people to kindly leap to her defense and ask these latecomers to read the entire thread before commenting.

What a mess.

In fairness, if people come on to a thread and say what others have said already without having read those comments, they're not 'parroting', are they? They're spontaneously expressing the same opinion as others.
Tbh I think it can be useful to get multiple comments expressing the same sentiment at it shows the OP that most people agree/disagree/see something in the situation. If one person says something a little challenging, then everyone else who agrees just reacts to the post, but doesn't post a comment that agrees, the OP has no way of knowing if the view is niche or reflective of what most people would say.
Letting the OP see people's reactions to other people's posts might be a useful alternative.

They don't have to though that's the point.

Some posters really take mumsnet very very seriously.

i wonder whether they pour as much effort into RL relationships

You don't know I don't have anything helpful to add. Sure, I have the option not to post, but you're not the thread police, it's open to anyone to post, so I can and will if I want to.

But you might have personal experience of the topic to contribute or just want to give the OP some encouragement. Sometimes you can't have enough of that. It's up to each person to decide how and when they post.

Oh fgs get a life , not end of world stuff is it really ?

Exactly this! Sometimes in the general business of, you know, having a real life, you respond to a post and then realise theres more to it. I did this on the barbers shop post and rectified it by adding a follow up, as did others, but the santimonious thread police clogged up the thread with all their passive aggressive 'read.the.updates!' posts with too many fullstops to add to the drama! 🙄 on at least 2 occasions both I and others already had, which we pointed out to then be told 'its not about you' 🙄 and now, because they havent got enough attention, a whole new thread has been started about it - bore off!

I completely understand and take much greater care on the relationship or other advice posts, but AIBU is often more lighthearted and a different vibe.

I think the barber shop post should probably have been in relationships but it is what it is.

Personally i commented, quickly realised i had not read the whole thread and added an update, thereby 'policing' myself like a grown up. If the OP wanted to call me out I'd accept it but the 'thread police' can jog on as far as i am concerned.

For me it's the equivalent on 10 people going shhhhhhh at a surprise party and making more noise than the original person.

Hopefully the op of this thread is happy now with the attention and drama 😆

Some people are very invested in this place it seems.

For some, it really does seem to be!

Yep, people tend to spin it and even put a different scenario or reason for something that’s been said or done. Whats also annoying is the LTB responses despite the couple having 1 argument about 1 thing they don’t agree on and the relationship being otherwise happy. People will literally think upending the lives of not just the posters but that of her children over a tedious disagreement

The other reason for pressing the "See All" button on the OP is so you don't waste your time on a drop and run post thats just there to rule up posters.

20 pages, no updates? No point going any further.

😁I have been told off a few times yesterday

really why are others so invested read the first few words and move on

That's a really unpleasant attitude to take towards the woman on the barber thread. There is clearly a significant issue in her marriage and you are accusing her of seeking attention and saying she should "bore off".

Oh, and you can edit your posts. You can also read before posting instead of reading afterwards.

I have NEVER needed urgent help on MN- so thank God!

However, if I was an OP distressed about DP behaviour, sick child- I would rather someone who thought their advice is what I needed, posted even if that advice may have already been posted before or even if it has already been eliminated.

people are busy working etc etc and therefore it’s unreasonable to impose such a draconian rule of reading whole thread first. The economy is already struggling so people are working or busy with whatever, but still feel they might assist op in some way.

yes, it’s annoying seeing it but that is just what it is. Kudos to those who always have ample time to read whole threads first!

You don't need to read the whole thread though that's the point. Just the OP posts usually takes a couple of mins max.

But if a thread is so long that you can’t be bothered to read it, why make it longer? Why assume what you have to say is special and important?

In many occasions it's the OP's fault.

Many posters don't even bother to read the title and/or the first sentence of the OP's post before putting in their two bob's worth.

That's why I suggest being able to report and have deleted the really egregious posts that very clearly are only posting about the first post and not the days' worth of updates. If it's deleted, less derailing!

On the app I can’t click to read all OP’s responses actually and cba to read whole thread

Let people post how they want and just ignore those that annoy you

If you think commenting on MN means you think it's "end of world stuff", that suggests you also think this is that important, as you have commented on MN about it.

So many posters love to engage in this hypocrisy - you shouldn't have commented, but it's fine for me to do so - and I find it funny every time!

What’s even worse is people who barely bother to read the opening post, never mind the updates. There’s a thread going on at the moment about the OP’s partner’s son not being invited to her nephew’s wedding. She says right at the start that she has checked with her nephew and it is not a mistake/oversight. Yet still people are lining up to say “Have you spoken to him? Are you sure it’s not an oversight?”

Also, check when a thread was started. I’m looking at you, posters on the “Should I let my friend in who arrived early?” thread. There are STILL people posting “Of course you should let her in - go outside right now and offer her a cup of tea!!” even though the thread started on Saturday. The OP never came back, suggesting it’s all made up anyway - but on the off-chance it really happened, the bloody woman isn’t going to be sat in her car two days later!

Yeah you can on the app - it’s the 3 little dots at the top right of the original OP message and then ‘see all messages by this user’. You can only do it for the OP as a non-premium user.

That thread was DULL 😆