To feel bad for Helen Flanagan here?

[mumofoneAloneandwell]

https://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/helen-flanagan-furiously-hits-out-36599678.amp

she’s being made to sell their home and work, taking jobs she wouldn’t normally, and being away from her kids?

I know some of you are gonna be like ‘poor little rich girl’ 😂😂😂 but honestly, what kind of man is this?? Feel for her a little (from my own, much lower, tax bracket)

She needs to get a grip. Both her parents worked FT, dad up to his elbows in grease at the garage and mum stitching knickers all day in the factoreh.

On a serious note, the vast majority of footballers are retired by 35. You cannot expect a lower league player to be raking it in.

I think that her ability to work ceased because she bore and raised his children - she’s not 21 anymore and no doubt that’s affected the ability to get work

sorry girl, I lost track of the thread and didn’t realise I’d already quoted you 😅

Hard agree

😂😂😂 you had me in the first half

But maybe he had raked it in and now has investments? 👀

She’s the mother of his kids though so kind of a de facto wife

she put her career on hold for his kids so he could work - I think that means he stays responsible for her and the kids 🤷‍♀️

So legally, what can she do

isn’t there a cohabitation law that recognises her as his wife

😂 re whining in the media

her career has taken a back seat while she raised those kids though - she can’t work like she used to

Poor woman was in a throuple with David Haye she’s currently selling her story to the Daily Fail . Nope don’t feel sorry for her

That's bollocks. She was not his wife, de facto or otherwise. Nor is he responsible for her. All he actually has to do is pay CM.

No not in England there’s no ‘common law’ or de facto.

She was unwise to make decisions to her financial detriment. He never had any financial responsibility to her legally.

England have an opt in system. Want legal rights you enter into a legal contract either a marriage or civil partnership. They could have sorted it for under £200 at local register office. Presumably one or both didn’t want to marry/civil partnership (I’d guess him)

What can she do? Support herself as an adult. As he’s a higher earner take court action under pt1 of children’s act 1989 to try and ensure he makes adequate provision for the children. But ultimately a court will decide what is reasonable. A 6 bed house and being supported for next 14 years as a sahm to school age healthy children won’t be seen as reasonable.

Oh for the love of Mike. Her and Una Healy, what absolute chumps they have been. And if they didn't want to get married why the christ get engaged?

So presumably a man who does the childcare when the kids are young is entitled to financial support from his female ex partner for as long as he likes then OP? Thought not.

As for “great mum”. She has a 10 year old girl and she’s bleating in the press about her sex life and how much she hates the kids’ dad and how he’s a dickhead. Will be lovely for her daughter having the piss ripped out of her by classmates at school I’m sure.

She’s a thick narcissist and needs to grow up and get a job.

no not a de facto wife just a girlfriend I’m afraid there are no laws or courts for the nearly married. what career she only did corrie. He isn’t responsible to take care of her just his kids and paying for the roof over their heads is part of taking care of his kids.

Why is going to work like sent to the stocks?

So effing WHAT???
Millions of women around the world go to work each day. They don’t bitch about it.

And they’d be absolutely mortified if they learned that somebody was taking up for them online & making a huge deal about it without asking first.

Have you thought that perhaps she doesn’t WANT you defending her, @mumofoneAloneandwell??

Just like every other couple under the sun it should be 50% mum & 50% dad.

Fair is fair.

Life changes. Relationships change. There's no reason she can't work.

Having kids shouldn't make you dependent for life.

People must learn to adjust when needs must.

If they’re doing this children’s act thing for a house and no maintenance isn’t the house almost just in lieu of maintenance? OP is saying it’s wrong for him to stop paying maintenance but isn’t this essentially her just getting all her maintenance up front.

Obviously becomes an issue if she has absolutely zero income and can’t afford other monthly expenditure but on the whole isn’t it swings and roundabouts.

This made me chuckle

Exactly she can’t rely solely on him to take care of them all he’s a footballer they aren’t well known for having long careers. She is going to have to put on her big girl pants and get a job. If she wanted more protection she should’ve got married there’s a reason why there are courts for married couples and not for
boyfriend and girlfriend, she needs to keep their private business out of the media and lay off calling the person footing the bill for her house a dickhead because at the minute that dickhead is holding all the cards and she put herself in a very precarious position.

Is the OP actually Helen Flanagan? I've skim read, but it seems possible.

Why should he fund lifestyle when they aren't together. His job is to provide for the kids.

How come she's in a play then?
She must have found childcare for that, it's not family friendly.

Erm I do. My mum helps with a bit of childcare after school but, other than that, everything is down to me. I don’t have a cleaner or any paid help. I do it all, like a hell of a lot of other people in my situation do. I have barely any time to myself, unlike SAHMs when the kids are at school. Tell me again how I don’t do as full a job as a SAHM? My kids are amazing and I’d do it all again in a heartbeat btw, I’m not complaining, just proud of myself.

It’s a 6 bed house but must be a cheap area because it was on the market for under £1M. This is a guy who was on 1.7M/year earlier in his career, and is currently still a v high earner. It wouldn’t kill him to just let them stay where they are settled. It’s not like he’s gifting it to them, he can reclaim and sell when the children are grown up. I realise he has no legal obligation, but it would be a kind thing to do. If they’d been married, he’d be far worse off.

That’s not the case when the children are under school age. Then the SAHM is providing childcare during the working week that the working parent would otherwise have to outsource.