To feel bad for Helen Flanagan here?

[mumofoneAloneandwell]

https://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/helen-flanagan-furiously-hits-out-36599678.amp

she’s being made to sell their home and work, taking jobs she wouldn’t normally, and being away from her kids?

I know some of you are gonna be like ‘poor little rich girl’ 😂😂😂 but honestly, what kind of man is this?? Feel for her a little (from my own, much lower, tax bracket)

He could be trying to pick up a short contract abroad to get some money. The rant she had about him going to F1 in Middle East in December he may have been on a jolly, may have been talking to clubs/having medicals.
Ironic if what she was criticising him for buys her a house.

I thought I'm A Celeb was considered quite a good gig, reality TV wise? I know it's unpleasant but it has a big audience and presumably pays more than the less popular stuff. She seems to have successfully used it to generate more work.

Then she can make money for herself instead of expecting her ex to pay for her lifestyle.

That’s fine, you don’t have to like what I’m saying.

The two aren’t remotely comparable though, this guy isn’t a mentally ill woman, he’s a man who started a family that now require looking after. And imo he’s not going to go bankrupt ensuring she keeps her kids house.

and yeah she isn’t Helen mirren but soap acting is still respectable acting, which she stopped to raise his kids

these people are richer than most which means their lifestyles differ to most, which is why the house that she has raised their family in doesn’t seem like much of an ask to me tbh

Was that a while ago though? Recently she was on Celebs go dating, which is quite the step down 😬

Well, he's going to be paying a lot since he's got 3 kids with her and clearly isn't doing anything close to an equal share of the childrearing. Unless he wants to move to Bolton.

But I agree, she'd be better accepting the paid off property offer and focusing on her own earnings.

She would have a forever roof over her an her kids heads

and she would own it

I read an excerpt of her book on the mail site today, all I will say is David Haye = 🤢

A very important factor in this situation is the fact that although he earned well at one point he is soon going to have no job at all. A footballers wages have to pretty much sustain them for life because their earning as a player ends in their 30s and there's only so many coaching/manager jobs available and it's not easy to retrain. If they ve blown it all on the upkeep of 2 too big houses, financially supporting 2 adults and a too expensive lifestyle they're screwed. If they are on the super high wages for 10/15 years fair enough but he won't have been on that level

I do feel sorry for her because she has been stupid to not get married before she had 3 children with him. Many on Mumsnet seem to believe there is such a thing as 'common law wife' so it's not unreasonable to think that she maybe thought the same.

However he's offering to put a house in her name so she'd be wise to accept that. I'm assuming he'd still have to pay maintenance to the children.

When she gets another bloke he probably won't be so accommodating!

Have a look at her.
Oh, yes, she'd definitely get an acting gig where they were looking for eye candy ie 90% of films, it would seem.

Thing is he could decide to move back to his house in Bolton tomorrow. Ask her to
leave his house or if she’s being difficult change locks while she’s out.
Her arguments about it being the childrens’ family home and near their school are a double edged sword. He’s not playing so could do the sahd with income from property, bit of punditry or whatever retired footballers do.
She’s now the one potentially needing to be away for work.
She should be biting his hand off to have a home for the children in her name. Then with maintenance plus whatever influencer/acting income she makes she’s fine. Not lavish but a nice lifestyle.

It's work, yes. It's not a job.

I think he said he’d buy the house and cease maintenance payments

He even looks gross 😂

something Wayne linekar about him

I think that he can afford more 🤷‍♀️ which is why she’s holding out

I mean how much more is their 6 bed than selling and buying a 4 bed, after the relevant fees

i think he’d also cease cm payments - I think that’s a raw deal

It’s an 8 bed not a 6 bed

you have no idea how much money he has and I doubt she does either!!

however, if they are thinking of making money by selling tit for tat stories she’s made a good start

She said he said that, I’d take with pinch of salt. He’s presumably been paying under a private arrangement for last 4yrs. She could make a csa claim but if he’s not earning or not earning highly then it may not be much and there’s risk he goes abroad so couldn’t be enforced. Obviously she needs advising by her lawyer but a lump sum of say £700,000 now for a 4 bed house may well be more than she’d get in maintenance for the 3 kids paid over next 14 years. Remember he has no legal obligation to house her.

You can think coulda, woulda, shoulda as much as you like but the rest of us are talking in REALITIES. Helen could have taken legal advice on her position at any time. Instead, she chose to have three kids with a man who wouldn't marry her.

Now he wants her out of the six bedroom house he pays for. This is entirely reasonable. His earnings do not support the kind of lifestyle Helen appears to think she's entitled to. He's offered to buy her a 4 bed - she should bite his hand off for that. And start bringing in a regular income herself and resolve never, ever to leave herself at the mercy of a man again. And teach her daughters the same.

Of all the single mothers I can think of whose plight would induce pity and compassion, this woman is near bottom of the list.

i mean, it’s my opinion ? That I feel for her and think this guy is unfair

women don’t have to be on the breadline to recieve sympathy imo. And tbh I don’t think that his financials will be terrible. And I think that’s forcing her to downsize is about taking away something she clearly loves, their family home, to hurt her 🤷‍♀️ - which is what men do in lots of cases

the cost of downsizing and giving her a home, I don’t think is a huge saving. I think he could simply put the current home in her name. I also don’t think it’s fair to tell her he will be ceasing maintenance payments

yeah she should’ve married him, but married women don’t always fare so well either, just look at aibu

i feel for her and hope she gets to keep her family house

And he absolutely should be paying maintenance for the children, and ideally be nearer to them but suspect lack of options may be impacting that. A paid of mortgage would be great and means she doesn’t have to stress about that at least.

I mean, none of us have any idea about their lives 😂, hence the speculation and debate

and it’s a 6 bed, with a decent size wardrobe

This type of property is hardly slumming it. 5 bed new build with high end finishes on a private gated development of 7 houses. £565,000.

I personally think she should bit hand off to have a property in her sole name.

She only need 4 bedrooms so it seems sensible to move anyway as this will reduce the running costs.

i mean, it’s my opinion ? That I feel for her and think this guy is unfair

Of course it's your opinion (and Helen's). And you've posted it here for people to engage with.

You are doing an awful lot of "I think he has this" and "I think he earns that" about a bloke you supposedly don't know from Adam.

I suspect it is highly unlikely she will be able to stay long-term in a 6 bedroom home at his expense. And nor should she, imo. A 4 bedroom home is ample for a woman with 3 kids.