To feel bad for Helen Flanagan here?

[mumofoneAloneandwell]

https://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/helen-flanagan-furiously-hits-out-36599678.amp

she’s being made to sell their home and work, taking jobs she wouldn’t normally, and being away from her kids?

I know some of you are gonna be like ‘poor little rich girl’ 😂😂😂 but honestly, what kind of man is this?? Feel for her a little (from my own, much lower, tax bracket)

Those are good points, @CommonlyKnownAs .
I used to watch Corrie and was very uncomfortable with what they did to her character, and I do wonder about the impact of that.
This new play sounds good, and I hope it helps her to get back on track.

Yes I think a lot of people forget she was a child actor - and we all know how well life can end up for them!!

I think it would be good for her to work seriously as I think it would also be a good model to the kids

She has a book coming out, which I assume is the reason for all this.

I absolutely agree that she shouldn’t expect her ex to bankroll her lifestyle, but equally I don’t think she should be expected to walk away from the relationship with nothing to show for it either - when she has made all the inevitable sacrifices to bring their 3 children into the world. It would be completely different if there were no children involved. Legally I realise she hasn’t got a leg to stand on but morally I think the man in this case does have an obligation. Another example of why it is important to get married before having children I suppose.

I'd say buying them a house to live in is a reasonable amount to 'show' for the relationship, no?

My guess is the pp upthread who said there's probably Schedule 1 Children Act proceedings on the go was correct. It's possible for unmarried partners to make applications for money and assets to raise the children after a split, it's just that because it's so expensive it's of no practical use to most separated cohabitants.

He’s been paying for everything since they separated and is offering a house outright in her name

i wouldn’t say she’s walked away with nothing

Why can't she work in M&S? Obviously if she can get better work then great, but if not then what is her plan to fund the next four or five decades of her life?

As I understand it he hasn’t bought them a house. He very much still owns the house, he’s merely allowing them to live in it for the time being (or not, as it turns out). I don’t think that is in any way comparable to walking away from a marriage with a share of the capital and being able to start a new life independently.

If you read the article you'll see he wants to buy a four bedroom house that will be theirs, in her name.

Good lord, why? Who cares!?

Fuck knows.

what kind of knobhead dad is he wanting to boot the kids out of their home?!)

Probably one who can’t afford to keep paying for a 6 bed house?!

To answer the op, no I don’t feel sorry for her. And the idea that a man should keep paying for a former partner to not work for as long as she chooses is one of the most absurd I’ve read on MN, ever…

Oh I apologise I didn’t realise that. Well if that’s really the case she’d be an idiot not to bite his hand off.

isn’t there a cohabitation law that recognises her as his wife

Yes, it's called MARRIAGE. And they didn't bother with that. Sheesh.

I'm not just talking about this thread, but it is concerning how many people think that co-habitation in the UK equals common law marriage or something similar - and conveys rights.

okay

I think that her being the mother of his children should afford her better treatment and should allow her to stay in the house. I get that people think she should suck it up, but I don’t - he should be a better man 🤷‍♀️ and keep the family in their home.

Why? He isn't making them homeless, he is offering her a house in her name, to belong to her outright. There certainly are deadbeats out there, but on the evidence, he isn't really one of them. She needs to grow up.

There’s something quite mysogynistic about this thread that I can’t quite put my finger on

anyway they are their children - not his - they both have responsibilities towards them and it sounds like he is financially willing to give her a lot more than she is legally entitled to. We don’t know what the child arrangement order is but footballers have long holidays.

she needs to be very careful what she puts out there - I think it was Liz Hurley in court this week saying how horrified she was about the stories published about her sons parentage because she knew he would read them one day

He’s offering her a much smaller home than her family reside in

imo, the whole point of her trusting him to look after her and her family was so that their lives would be protected. She should’ve married him, yes, but they were an established family.

if it were me, and it isn’t because I’m not that lucky/silly enough to not marry the footballer, I’d want the home to be put in her name, maybe minus the difference between the cost of the current home and a 4 bed

and for him to carry on paying maintenance for her and the kids

also, if I were her, I’d solely stick to the influencer thing tbh 🤷‍♀️

I think misogyny is saying ‘well, your marriage failed, back to work you go’ to women who’ve trusted a man and had his family 🤷‍♀️🥺

Why though?

It's not her house. She isn't financing it. She has no claim on it on any grounds.

He's offering to buy a different house for her however.

Absolutely no one, regardless of marriage status, has a right to stay in a house they once lived in but now can't afford.

Maybe she will be able to. It sounds like they've made different proposals and are negotiating. There isn't enough information in the public domain for us to have an idea what might be a realistic outcome.

But that doesn't mean it would be the best thing for her. He's a 36 year old professional footballer whose earnings are going to reduce within a few years, and she has probably 15 years tops of being entitled to anything for the children. I'd rather take a property of my own now than a time limited, rented lifestyle in a house I can be turned out of once I'm about 50.

your attitude to mothers is just weird - they’re not some special breed that deserve to be put on a pedestal and funded at all cost.

she doesn’t need a house with a floor for her clothes/dressing room. That is not benefitting ‘his’ children

maybe she would prefer he go bankrupt 🤷‍♀️. Sure that will work well for her kids

He is asking her to move out of the 6 bedroom house and offering to buy her another 4 bedroom house for her in her name. That's what the article says