Giving the ring back - Settle a debate?

[ChicJoker]

Hypothetical, debating a friend. If a couple are engaged and then breakup, should the ring be given back? Does the value of the ring influence your decision?

But couldn't you or somebody else wear it as a dress ring on a different finger?

When I broke off my engagement I kept the ring and sold it. I was quite young though, 22. He didn’t cheat but did behave badly towards me.

@ChicJoker depends on who made the decision, if the lady wants the break up, she shoukd give it back, if he cheats or ends the relationship, shd shoukd get to keep it.

Exactly what I did. Well, not exactly, it wasn't public but I did throw it and without meaning to hit directly between the eyes.

I was engaged before and called off the wedding so I gave the ring back, as it was the right thing to do (despite him being a douche bag and owing me money). He eventually paid the money back. He wouldn’t have if I’d have kept the ring.
I think if you call the engagement off, you give the ring back. If they call it off, you keep it.

If you’re married and get divorced, you keep it.

@ChicJoker i havd always thought thst was mad, married 28 yeats in my day it was supposed to be a months salary. My £299, ring is lovely dont need a ring that costs thousands. My now husband bought ehat he could afford as a mature studrnt.

Hideous abusive ex proposed shortly after id just had our 1st child, despite knowing I never wanted to marry and the reasons why. Did it in front of all his family so I felt pressured to say yes.
When I was thankfully out of it, a year after my 2nd was born, I kept the ring (cost approx £2K), sold it and took my children out to do nice things with the money.
He has nothing to do with them and pays no maintenance so I figure that was more than fair.

This if you are no longer engaged you give the ring back and you keep it because it's an expensive item.

Hate the idea of engagement rings anyway. It feels a bit like the woman has been bought and owned. So old fashioned.

Depends on the reason for the break up. In my case, I had to pay rent arrears he had run up. Don't think that's scruff behaviour just survival.

100% yes you give the ring back. It’s the right thing to do.

I can’t work out which way the vote is set.

Normal to keep it and there is minimal resale value anyway.

I kept my engagement ring, but he cheated on me so 🤷

It depends who broke it off, and why.

If you break off the engagement, you lose the right to own the ring. Why would you keep it?,

I think this is ridiculous to say you should spend 3 months salary it should be about the ring not the value I’m glad I chose style over value I still love it now and would choose this regardless of his or her income.

I gave mine back to my kids dad. Why would I want that haha

If it’s an engagement you’re not obliged to return the ring legally but it would be better to morally - unless, perhaps, if you’ve been together for years engaged and it feels like it’s yours now.

What if he breaks the engagement?

An engagement ring is in promise of getting married. If the engagement is broken off, the ring should be returned, (This is assuming the groom-to-be had bought it originally).
Obviously each situation can be considered on its merits.

I was always taught that if she broke it off, it was honourable to offer it back...if he broke it off or cheated then he had no rights to it ( obviously unless it was a familily heirloom) and it was up to the girl to decide whether to give (throw) it back or keep it as jewellery. But I admit I am old, and when I was young it would have been considered tacky to insist on value to earnings ratio.

In my opinion, it depends why the couple breaks up their engagement, if f for example the guy cheats,i think she should keep the rong, if she cheats she should give back the ring

I’d want nothing to do with the X . No reminders at all! They could keep their ring and shove it up their ar…..either way.

Legally you don't need to as it was a gift.

If only engaged yes. But that all depends on what a twat they've been. If married no.

My ex asked me for both my engagement and wedding rings back, said he wanted to keep them for the memories. I said no and promptly sold them for spending money for a holiday to Ibiza. Absolute cheek of it he was always after anything money related.

I found his whilst sorting through some stuff the other year and went and sold that too. He obviously wasn't bothered about it otherwise he would have taken it with him.