In thinking morbidly obese women should not be trying to concieve?

[anotherfatty]

I think it is incredibly selfish and feel that if they cannot (or will not) lose weight they should not have a baby. Much like smokers, alcoholics and drug users - if they cannot make an effort to be healthy for a pregnancy things will not improve once the baby is born.

I also don't think anyone with any other kind of health problem should try to conceive either:

diabetes, high blood pressure, mental health issues, family history of cancer, short sightedness, deafness, dyslexia, low IQ, heart conditions, varicose veins, wonky teeth, ...

I mean all these can affect the baby and it's really shocking how selfish people can be.

at "wonky teeth".

well wonky teeth can cost the NHS money as well, I guess

About the health risks, I am not in the overweight category even after two children and an unhealthily sedentary lifestyle. When I conceived dd I was a good deal slimmer. But I was still the one stuck for weeks in the ante-natal ward with high blood pressure and pre-eclampsia and IUGR and heaven knows what else, while women twice my size sailed through their pregnancies. You just can't tell from looking at people who is going to be a health risk. Most of the women on the ward with me were a healthy size; that doesn't mean you are immune to pregnancy problems. The second time we tried for a baby, we knew I was a health risk; should we not have had ds? The doctors seemed quite happy with just monitoring my pregnancy.

I would normally apologise for swearing at the op, but I said feck off, which isn't technically swearing.

What I meant was FUCK OFF, UP YOURS, PISS OFF and any other unarticulated expletives you can think of.....

The funny thing is that I actually LOST 2 stone whilst pregnant as I was sick every day and I ate the healthiest I had in years.

You lost 2 stone whilst pregnant???? That is soooooooo unfair.

Well THANK YOU VERY MUCH margoandjerry! I was going to say that!!
(will say it anyway). I used to work for an org that worked with disabled parents. This is the sort of donkeypoo that disabled parents get all the time. Blind people shouldnt be allowed to have kids its cruel. Deaf mothers wont be able to hear their babies cry, Dads with MS wont be able to play football with their sons oh sob sob at the sadness of it all!

If fat lasses want to have kids why shouldnt they. They are the ones who have to deal with any added complications and discomfort.

Poor poor little child who has to cope with having a big mummy. Oh how sad.

being sick everyday was not a nice way to lose 2 stone though!...

And rather disapointedly DD is now 4.5 and I have put it back on....

I don't think ignorant, rude, hugely judgemental, nasty morons should have kids

oh dear, that's you out then

morbidly obese women are probably very unlikely to conceive anyway.

Morbid obestity is something quite specific you know.

lol califrau.
Monkey, I got pregnant within a month of trying so ner.

oh, dear.

Me too Monkey. First time out with no parachute...wham, back of the net!

FOR FUCK SAKE what a horrible thread! I HATE HATE HATE threads like this. No, im not morbidly obese......ignorant fecker

I was going to feed the troll, but having read the post felt she had enough on her plate.

Ellideb - because morbid obesity and drug addiction are both self inflicted health issues.

Haven't read all the replies, just the OP, but an ex-boss of mine had a benign brain tumour, the medication for which made her extremely overweight. She had also been told that this medication would make it impossible for her to conceive, so she was very surprised, but delighted, when she discovered she was pregnant. She managed to conceive again 18 months after the birth of her first dd.

Wot bollox you speak anoterfatty!!

self inflicted??

Medications for all sorts of illnesses can pu weight on.

PCOS can put weight on

Diabetes can put weight on

Steroids for asthma and other problems can put weight on

Mental health illnesses can put weight on

It is not black and white

You are a twat (and calling yourself anotherfatty doesn't mean you can be so rude about fat people)

I'm morbidly obese and I did have preeclampsia in all 3 of my pregnancies BUT my consultant said that I was high risk for preeclampsia anyway because my Mum had eclampsia when she had me (she was 8 stone at the time)
I'm assuming that this thread has something to do with the programme about britains biggest babies which was completely crap. I loved this statement on it "shockingly, 50% of women who died in pregnancy and childbirth were obese" which could also be said "shockingly, 50% of women who died in pregnancy and childbirth weren't obese"
Being morbidly obese does not make me a bad mother, my kids are very fit and healthy (and not fat), they are very active and most importantly they are happy, so the OP can just fuck right off!!

So do you think they should be sterilised in case they conceive accidentally

I think even before I start engaging with the argument seriosuly, we need to establish what the OP means by 'morbidly obese' and also that the people self identifying actually come under this catagory.

FWIW, nobody should have the veto on anyone elses fertility. That is a human right; plump, fat, obese, drug addicted or no.

But the devil is in the detail here. So shoot Anotherfatty...

Lots of people on here have bragged about being obese and giving birth to healhty babies! No-one has bragged about being a parent of an obese child So I presume from this it's ok to be obese as long as your kids aren't?

piss off will you?

No-one has to justify themselves to anyone else.