To want to rehome my dog

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Please read before judging as I know a lot of people adore their dogs. I love my dog too but I think for his sake it would be better to rehome him. I work full time far from home so he is alone all day every day. I spend a few hours in the evening with him and when I go to bed he whines until I get up and sit on the couch with him again. This can go on all night so he is obviously having separation anxiety or something like that. Also he has the house absolutely ruined from weeing all the time. I don’t give out to him I just clean it up but my house is beginning to stink from him. I’m wrecked when I get home from work and in the morning facing a long journey and cleaning up after his night and day of peeing on everything is just too much. I think he deserves a home where he is in company most of the day and lives with someone who can take him out during the day. There are no dog walkers in my area so I can’t avail of that service. I can’t let him out the back while I’m away as I live on a main road and he would get knocked down. Also my teenager, 14 year old, doesn’t want me to rehome him even though she rarely interacts with him and spends every second week with her dad anyway. She doesn’t clean up after him but she just has a kind heart. I do love my little dog but I really think he needs something more than I can give him. He’s ten now and so may only have a few more years. Am I bad for thinking about rehoming him? Thanks for reading

I always think it's odd when people talk about 'rehoming' as if a load of cosy homes are just there awaiting an abandoned dog. The reality is they are left bored, bewildered and very sad in kennels. Yes the op has now added someone at the vets is miraculously sorting out a new owner but if that was an option why start the threat.

The answer would be the 14yr old pulling their weight. They might not want to help, they are often lazy and selfish at that age, but you bargain with them. 'Take it out when you're in from school at 3pm and I'll pay for your phone', that kind of thing.

Please RTFT. Her DD is only with her every other week and sone charities do home to home. Not every DDog goes to kennels when they are rehomed.

Oh sorry I read it as every other weekend my mistake no need to be so rude.

I wasn’t being rude.

I thought rtft was read the fucking thread meant in a ffs kind of tone but ok.

It was meant as read the full thread and I even said please. I wouldn’t dream of been as rude as you’ve imagined

My apologies @Gloriia. I’ve just looked at the MN abbreviations and you are right. Well I never knew that!

It's ok I'm generally quite thick skinned with mn comments but did misread the every other week thing so stand corrected

Very easy to judge if you are not in OPs position. She is responsibly rehoming him now though. I was in a less than perfect situation many years ago, I feel really guilty when I look back at my own dog being left for too long. I considered giving her up but just couldn't part with her. Fortunately my life changed for the better and so did hers. She lived to a ripe old age and had a very good life surrounded by love and all the enrichment a dog needs. Sadly it doesn't sound like such a change is on the horizon for OP and it must be a dreadful situation to be in.

Can he not go to a family member during the day?.or to.work with you? Is there a doggie day care near work? Its a sad situation but sounds miserable for you both

I think a few people have made the same mistake, easy to make I suppose as that would be a more common shared custody arrangement

Poor dog. 7-7 alone is lonely life for him and if can’t go outside he will wee and poo in the house

I get your circumstances have changed and now working full time

is there really not any dog walkers or neighbours /friends who can pop in

For the poor dogs sake - rehome!

Although not intentional, this dog is being neglected.

Excuse me how DARE you assume I let my 14 year old alone to get herself to and from school. I was actually going to explain the situation but I won’t. My daughter leaves the house and returns the same time as me that’s all I’ll say. I would love to be as brilliant as some of you on here 🙄 and for your information I am in no position to leave my job now or in the foreseeable future.

Im sorry to have offended you - but your comments about DD says she will help, then wont - led me to believe she was at home...
I thought the only thing you really needed help with is keeping him company during the day and letting him out for a wee? What other problems are you having with your dog that you'd expect a 14 year old to help you with?

It's such a shame that you feel you have no choice but to rehome you dog. If there isn't a doggie daycare near you is there a dog walking business that could call in once a day to interact with him & walk him for an hour or so? If you're rural check the nearest town as there maybe someone who does out of their area for a few clients & covers your area. 7am - 7pm isn't ideal & is too long for him to be on his own. Are there any neighbours you could ask to pop in to let him out for a wee or maybe put an ad in the local shop asking if anyone would be willing to walk him for you. encourage your Daughter to spend time with him when she's home & maybe ask your ex if he can look after the dog when your DD is staying over at his. I'm assuming you were together when you got the dog so really he should be pulling his weight in caring for it as it should have been a joint decision to get him & now circumstances have changed shouldn't all fall on you to get care or arrange walks etc.

The OP has already addressed the issue of Doggy Daycare and Dog Walkers.