To want to rehome my dog

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Please read before judging as I know a lot of people adore their dogs. I love my dog too but I think for his sake it would be better to rehome him. I work full time far from home so he is alone all day every day. I spend a few hours in the evening with him and when I go to bed he whines until I get up and sit on the couch with him again. This can go on all night so he is obviously having separation anxiety or something like that. Also he has the house absolutely ruined from weeing all the time. I don’t give out to him I just clean it up but my house is beginning to stink from him. I’m wrecked when I get home from work and in the morning facing a long journey and cleaning up after his night and day of peeing on everything is just too much. I think he deserves a home where he is in company most of the day and lives with someone who can take him out during the day. There are no dog walkers in my area so I can’t avail of that service. I can’t let him out the back while I’m away as I live on a main road and he would get knocked down. Also my teenager, 14 year old, doesn’t want me to rehome him even though she rarely interacts with him and spends every second week with her dad anyway. She doesn’t clean up after him but she just has a kind heart. I do love my little dog but I really think he needs something more than I can give him. He’s ten now and so may only have a few more years. Am I bad for thinking about rehoming him? Thanks for reading

You shouldn't have a dog. You are neglecting this poor animal, he is being left alone for 12 hours and not even being walked by the sound of it, even when both of you could do this after school/work.

Please rehome him safely with a decent local charity that will do due diligence on finding a suitable home. How dare you treat an animal like this and then come on here saying don't judge.

I’m sorry but your family are NOT the dog lovers they think they are, if they cannot see that this poor dog is suffering.
And that’s not a judgement on you, my lovely - I know your circumstances have changed beyond your control.
In fact, it’s YOU who’s showing to be the true dog lover as I think you’re right, re homing would be best for both of you.
I know it’ll hurt, but truly, it is.
I wish both of you the best.

I don't understand how the dog can be alone 7 until 7.

Where is your teenager during those hours?

No wonder the dog is pissing everywhere. Try not giving yourself access to a toilet for 12 hours.

Because the OP sadly separated, had to go back to work full time and didn't think about the impact on the dog until the poor dog has become a nervous wreck due to neglect, and won't rehome him because her kid, who does nothing to care for the dog, will be sad.

I know I'm coming across harsh here. But we have just rehomed our 5th dog from yet another family of naive owners. These thought getting a high energy, large breed puppy with a new baby was a good idea, and then went into a foster family where the severely ADHD child was constantly roughhousing with him. Our 7 y o collie cross was crated 7hrs a day before coming to us through a similar change in circumstances and lazy teenagers who wouldn't even let her out to pee after school, and our beloved Border x, who passed in December, was locked in one room in the house all the time and had no input beyond feeding and toileting after the owners had a baby.

I've rehabilitated 5 rescues and several fosters over the years that have been neglected and abused because people don't see having a dog as the 10+ year responsibility it is, don't plan ahead or think about the impact of an upcoming significant change in circumstances on their pets, blame their pets for not adapting to unacceptable conditions and would rather spend months or years neglecting their pets than give them up before the damage is done and it's even harder to rehome them. So I have absolutely zero sympathy for people who do this to their dogs. Thankfully, OP has come to her senses and realised this isn't right, and I hope she does the right thing even if it's hard, and that this poor baby finds a home for his senior years.

I know from experience that once a dog is in the right place and taken out regularly it can break the habit and they do get clean. I have also seen many older dogs rehomed. There are many reasons why dogs of any age, breed. Size even colour get overlooked but it doesn't mean the right home isn't out there. Whatever happens OPs situation isn't working so something needs to be done and this poor dog deserves a chance

Then it's a no brainer rehoming him. You cannot leave a dog shut up on their own 12 hours a day. That's horrible.

Our dog is on her own 8am til 3.30pm 3 days a week but she is 12 years old and sleeps!! She likes the quiet!

He pees in the house because nobody takes him out. He has no option but to do that. The dog has no life as it is, he is shut away on his own day and night, he should at least be given the chance of finding a loving home. I volunteer at a dog's home, although not in Ireland, and elderly dogs often end up in foster homes. They aren't owned by the person who they live with, but they live as part of the family and usually with other dogs.

You can't criticise someone for leaving their dog too long then add that you leave your own dog too long too! 8 til 3.30 is far too long to regularly leave a dog.

Do you know my dog?

She is 12 (nearly 13) has a 1 hour off lead walk in the morning then another 1 hour in the evening.

On the 3 days she is on her own she has free run of the house and garden but chooses to SLEEP as she is knackered.

If my DH has gone home in the day, she glares at him, then goes back to her bed to sleep.

She is very stubborn and independent and will go to her bed if she has had enough of people.

Every dog is different and after 12+ years we known what our dog needs and wants, but its nice to know that people who have never even met our dog and didn't ask any further clarification know best.

The OPs dog is clearly bored and needs attention.

Just because some older dogs find new homes doesn't mean they all do. Imo it is not as easy as people seem to think it will be.

Holier than thou, springs to mind.

You don't know any of that... i doubt you are psychic!
The dog could be cute and snatched up by a lovely person and given the best few years of is life.

Aww OP, it's not working for any of you anymore. Tough decision and will probably be emotional but you know the best course of action ❤

I actually do love my dog. When I wasn’t working every day I had lots of time with him. I don’t ignore him when I come in in the evenings I spend all my evening with him. My circumstances changed a few years ago and in the last 6 months I have had to return to work full time. I now live an hour from my job. If me and my daughter could live on fresh air then I would gladly stay at home with my dog

I’ve just handed in my notice at work so I can stay at home all day. My daughter and I won’t have heating or food but I’ll be with my dog. Seriously what a stupid thing to say 🙄

Yes it’s time to re home your dog. Don’t be sad - it’s the right thing to do.

Can you show me where I said he’s not walked please

'A few years ago I separated from my ex and had to move to a different area.'

You are just excusing her neglecting her dog.

It is perfectly fair to judge her for leaving her dog all day. This 'recent change' was actually a few years ago. There is nothing recent about it. She could of sorted this a long time ago instead of leaving the dog to piss its self all day in the home and then come on here and have the audacity to complain about it! What was she expecting exactly when she doesnt let it out for a wee for over 12 hours?!

She's made the dogs life miserable for years and doesn't even do the basics for it such as walk it before and after work. She is selfish, cruel and neglectful and she should of rehomed the dog years ago.

Where did you say you walked him? You just moaned about him wanting company and about him pissing in the house?

Poor dog. Yes, rehome him. He's suffering.

Yes, you should rehome your dog. If your family criticise your decision can any of them help? You could advertise locally for someone to help but it would be a sticking plaster for a massive wound.

Jesus Christ get a grip

If this is even real and you leave your dog alone all day long 7-7. I’m not buying the no dog walkers in your area, there must be a doggy day care you can drop off at on your commute? Even if it means taking a detour. If you don’t mind me asking how did you ever get in this situation? What possessed you to get a dog? Or did you not work when you got the dog?

If you read back over my messages before presuming up there on your high horse you will see for yourself

@Pumpkinmagic

Put your specs on or perhaps stop being so lazy and read the OPs replies

Again you obviously have not read all my messages and are judging without knowing the whole story