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Sorry long post alert - misled by landlord..

117 replies

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 10:20

AIBU to feel completely misled by our landlords after being promised long-term tenancy and now being served notice after 4 months? What can we do?

I’m honestly at breaking point and need some perspective (and possibly legal knowledge).

We moved into a 4-bed rental in Surrey at £3,000 pcm after being absolutely clear — repeatedly — that we were only looking for a long-term home. We have three children (now 5, 9 and 14). My eldest is approaching GCSE years, my middle child has learning difficulties and will be transitioning to secondary school next year, and stability was non-negotiable for us.

Before we agreed to take the property, we had an in-person meeting with the landlords, where they met our children, walked them around the house, asked which bedrooms they wanted, discussed decorating, putting things on walls properly etc. We explicitly asked for a minimum of 5 years.
The landlords told us they wanted long-term tenants, and that the first year would be to ensure both sides were happy, after which a longer contract would be signed.

This was reiterated to the estate agent we viewed with — they knew we were only looking long-term because we’ve already had two previous tenancies end through no fault of our own (one due to Covid/job loss, one because the landlord decided to sell following new tenant legislation).

On the day of signing, we were told the landlord wanted a 4-month break clause. I thought this was unusual (I’d only ever seen 10–12 months), but we’d already had the verbal assurances, the children were emotionally invested, and we trusted what we’d been told. So we signed.

Fast forward:
After just two months, we were told they would be serving notice at month four, meaning we must leave by April.

The only reason given for this is that the landlords’ adult daughter is going through a messy divorce, and they now want to give her the house to live in. She has one child aged 5.
This situation was never mentioned prior to us moving in, and the landlords had specifically said they were seeking long-term tenants.

So effectively, we were encouraged to move our family into a large, expensive property under the promise of long-term security — only to be asked to leave almost immediately due to a change in the landlords’ personal circumstances, not because of anything relating to us as tenants.

Financially, this has been devastating.
Because the property has very large windows, we had to buy multiple sets of extra-long curtains (hundreds of pounds — including one bay window costing over £400 alone). I tried to budget with Dunelm/IKEA, but it still added up fast. When the notice came in, I had to return what I could, pack things back up, and now we’re living in a half-empty house paying £3k a month knowing we’re being forced out.

We’d also put all our savings into a business project we believed we were secure enough to do — we won’t see a return for at least 18 months. We now have no savings to fund another move.

Emotionally, this has destroyed our sense of safety.
The children are upset about losing their bedrooms again. This is the third time in a row we’ve had to move due to landlords’ decisions. The stress has been so severe that my partner and I have temporarily separated under the strain.

On a practical and physical level, this move is especially hard for me. I have fibromyalgia and arthritis, and I find moving extremely difficult physically. It’s taken months for my body to start settling after the last move, and the thought of packing, lifting and relocating again is overwhelming.

On top of this, the property itself has had significant issues since we moved in, including boiler problems and ongoing repairs that required repeated chasing. It often felt like the house wasn’t truly ready for tenants, yet we were paying full rent throughout.

Housing have told me that if we can’t secure somewhere else, I may be placed in temporary accommodation — potentially a one-bed unit in Wembley for myself and three children. We wouldn’t be able to take our furniture or belongings. Given my health conditions and the children’s needs, the thought of this is genuinely terrifying.

It now feels like the landlords wanted someone to cover winter costs, council tax (Band F), and keep the house occupied while repairs were done — then move us on.

My questions:

  • AIBU to feel this is deeply unfair and misleading?
  • Does a verbal agreement / assurance of long-term tenancy count for anything here?
  • Is this something worth pursuing legally or via the agent?
  • Has anyone successfully challenged something like this, or negotiated a withdrawal of notice?

I feel completely broken by this and don’t know what options we realistically have.

OP posts:
JHound · 21/01/2026 12:32

You are right to feel mislead and annoyed but experience tells me the only things landlords care about is getting a tenant in the property and they / their agents will say whatever it takes (including lying) to ensure that happens. The amount of work required and them not telling you is also normal too.

It sucks but it’s the norm. And there is nothing you will be able to do legally. It’s why the private rental sector is a complete shit show.

WulyJmpr · 21/01/2026 12:36

When I was a landlord we had the opposite situation. Approached by tenants wanting to move in with their "unmoulting cat" and install a catflap etc. However despite these downsides they did say they'd be there for 5 years minimum, so we thought, ok then.

After 7 months they've moved out leaving cat hair everywhere and previously pristine carpets scratched up by said cat.

So it works both ways unfortunately. I wish people were upfront and honest but unfortunately they rarely seem to be.

nevernotmaybe · 21/01/2026 12:37

GoldDuster · 21/01/2026 12:18

OP mentions having invested a lump sum after the most recent tenancy began into a business proposition, and having enjoyed the money they'd earned over the years, also enjoying the freedom and flexibility renting has provided.

You cannot have your cake, and eat it. You can't spend your money, and also save for a deposit for a house. You can't have flexibility and mortgaged bricks and mortar.

There are two sides to everything. This is the flip side to renting, lack of control and agency, and paying through the nose. Take the emotion out of it, you chose the big house, the new sofas, the carpet, the curtains, none of this will be reimbursed and nor should it be. You're winding yourself up listening to anyone advising you to rip up a square of carpet, you've got far bigger fish to fry currently. Perspective is your friend here, and a plan on how you're going to move forward and out of this position. I say this not as a landlord, but as someone who's self employed, and has spent the majority of the past fifteen years as a single mum. No generational wealth. Home owner as an absolute priority because the benefits of renting don't outweigh the pitfalls, for me.

The landlord propaganda is hilarious. I wonder if they think anyone other than other parasi . . . er, landlords are the ones nodding along, rather than laughing at the nonsense.

JHound · 21/01/2026 12:38

TheHedgehogCannotBeBotheredAtAll · 20/01/2026 10:41

On top of this, the property itself has had significant issues since we moved in, including boiler problems and ongoing repairs that required repeated chasing. It often felt like the house wasn’t truly ready for tenants, yet we were paying full rent throughout.
This constant chasing is very likely the real reason. Landlords don’t really like being bugged constantly about issues. You have to pick your battles.

Oh poor landlord. Having to properly maintain a property you are renting out.

JHound · 21/01/2026 12:40

TheHedgehogCannotBeBotheredAtAll · 20/01/2026 10:44

Bloody hell you made them pay for a new roof then complained about noise and that the kids couldn’t use the garden for a week?!?! That’s record time for a roof replacement! I’m sorry you need to find a new place but you sound like a nightmare.

They had to pay for a new roof clearly. If they don’t want to keep the property in a fit state for human habitation they should not be in the landlord business.

Hankunamatata · 21/01/2026 12:42

I'd be tempted to up.stick to a cheaper area op

JHound · 21/01/2026 12:43

I will say OP - in the long term it’s for the best. This was clearly a shit landlord who did not maintain their property (you should not have had to deal with boiler issues and a leaking roof so soon).

So although it’s such a faff to move hopefully you get a better landlord next time.

JHound · 21/01/2026 12:46

Chiseltip · 20/01/2026 10:59

This what the new Renters Rights Bill has done to tenants like you OP. The LL simply can't rely on STC or verbal agreements anymore. The government banned them, tying the LL's hands and giving him no option but to evict you as legally he can't offer any other rental terms.

You'll just have to find another place to live. Technically, you could just refuse to move out, he would then have to take you to court. This would give you a few months extra, if you don't need a reference from your current LL it's an option I guess.

This is nothing to do with the RR bill you are talking nonsense.

Verbal agreements have always meant exactly zilch in renting.

mamabeth · 21/01/2026 12:56

She hasn't made anybody do anything, she's, raised concerns about roof repairs needing to be done on a house she's paying three grand a bloody month for! I wouldn't want roofs leaking of I was paying one grand a month, let alone three.

JHound · 21/01/2026 12:59

KaleidoscopeSmile · 20/01/2026 16:15

I love the way people on here are saying that it's only to be expected when you rent like you're not actually paying for something.

Most private landlords are the pits in my opinion and their threats to sell up when the renters bill comes in are the best thing that could happen for renters. They don't have the empathy or wit to realise that having your home taken away on a whim is one of the most crushing things that can happen to someone.

You're much better off with a multiple property-owning landlord when you rent, not one of these inheritors who think they're doing you a massive favour, when actually the lack of security of tenancy they provide is soul-destroying..

I think it’s only to be expected because most landlords are trash people and only care about getting tenants in and will say what it takes to do that.

I do feel sorry for OP but nothing she has said surprised me (including them leaving her without heating and hot water for a week because they did not want to pay £2) and a verbal agreement meaning nothing. Seen it a million times before. And worse too.

I think a tenant should just work on the premise that a private rental will always be insecure and landlords will always throw a strop at needing to maintain their property and that way you will never be disappointed.

KaleidoscopeSmile · 21/01/2026 13:24

GoldDuster · 21/01/2026 12:18

OP mentions having invested a lump sum after the most recent tenancy began into a business proposition, and having enjoyed the money they'd earned over the years, also enjoying the freedom and flexibility renting has provided.

You cannot have your cake, and eat it. You can't spend your money, and also save for a deposit for a house. You can't have flexibility and mortgaged bricks and mortar.

There are two sides to everything. This is the flip side to renting, lack of control and agency, and paying through the nose. Take the emotion out of it, you chose the big house, the new sofas, the carpet, the curtains, none of this will be reimbursed and nor should it be. You're winding yourself up listening to anyone advising you to rip up a square of carpet, you've got far bigger fish to fry currently. Perspective is your friend here, and a plan on how you're going to move forward and out of this position. I say this not as a landlord, but as someone who's self employed, and has spent the majority of the past fifteen years as a single mum. No generational wealth. Home owner as an absolute priority because the benefits of renting don't outweigh the pitfalls, for me.

You're talking specifically about the OP. I'm not.

I'm talking about the hundreds of thousands of poor bastards who will never be in a position to afford to buy a house and will spend their entire lives at the whim of someone who can make them homeless if they feel like it

Xkk · 21/01/2026 15:18

KaleidoscopeSmile · 21/01/2026 11:22

I'm not talking about me but how often do you think it's possible for the people that it DOES happen to, to "be prepared" - once, twice, ten times?

What does this preparation involve and if they had the sort of money they'd need to KEEP having to be prepared don't you think they'd perhaps be owning their own property anyway?

All the time! You are prepared all the time. The OP invests money in a property after she signed a contract with alarm bells! She then proceeded to spend vast amounts of money on curtains and improvements.
When we moved in (mortgage) we had the living room empty. Other rooms with charity things, I scoured sue ryder for curtains. It took us 2 years to properly furnish the whole house. We did have money but we set it aside in case anything went wrong. Better pay the mortgage then nice new furniture. Common sense, at least for me.

ByLemonFawn · 23/01/2026 12:44

Gosh the amount you pay in rent alone is well over our monthly income!! Just goes to show money doesn’t buy sense. With that kind of mega money coming in, you could obviously buy but put all your money into a business project?! You spent a fortune on somewhere you only just moved into, with an unusual 4 month clause….

Personally I think all rentals should be government / council owned… Enough of greedy private landlords. Landlords aren’t fair. There’s not the infrastructure for this to happen any time soon, but my point is, I do not side with landlords at all. However, you’ve been incredibly daft and I don’t have much sympathy for entitled wealthy people like you who go round making stupid decisions expecting everything to fall on their laps!

In answer to your questions:
My questions:

  • AIBU to feel this is deeply unfair and misleading? You aren’t unreasonable to feel that way. You’re feeling whatever you’re feeling.
  • Does a verbal agreement / assurance of long-term tenancy count for anything here? No.
  • Is this something worth pursuing legally or via the agent? No.
  • Has anyone successfully challenged something like this, or negotiated a withdrawal of notice? No.

You must have an insane income, rent a sensible modest house or flat (2 bedrooms with triple bunks of kids are same sex depending on room size. If not 3 but also you and husband could get a sofa bed so 2 bed still fine) and you’ll have the money together for a mortgage soon. Many would love to be in your position and would end up in a much better situation in the end….! Take the silver spoon out of your mouth and be sensible.

SeenItAllMostly · 26/01/2026 12:43

ByLemonFawn · 23/01/2026 12:44

Gosh the amount you pay in rent alone is well over our monthly income!! Just goes to show money doesn’t buy sense. With that kind of mega money coming in, you could obviously buy but put all your money into a business project?! You spent a fortune on somewhere you only just moved into, with an unusual 4 month clause….

Personally I think all rentals should be government / council owned… Enough of greedy private landlords. Landlords aren’t fair. There’s not the infrastructure for this to happen any time soon, but my point is, I do not side with landlords at all. However, you’ve been incredibly daft and I don’t have much sympathy for entitled wealthy people like you who go round making stupid decisions expecting everything to fall on their laps!

In answer to your questions:
My questions:

  • AIBU to feel this is deeply unfair and misleading? You aren’t unreasonable to feel that way. You’re feeling whatever you’re feeling.
  • Does a verbal agreement / assurance of long-term tenancy count for anything here? No.
  • Is this something worth pursuing legally or via the agent? No.
  • Has anyone successfully challenged something like this, or negotiated a withdrawal of notice? No.

You must have an insane income, rent a sensible modest house or flat (2 bedrooms with triple bunks of kids are same sex depending on room size. If not 3 but also you and husband could get a sofa bed so 2 bed still fine) and you’ll have the money together for a mortgage soon. Many would love to be in your position and would end up in a much better situation in the end….! Take the silver spoon out of your mouth and be sensible.

@ByLemonFawnYou’ve made a lot of assumptions here, and most of them are wrong.

Paying a high rent does not mean we are wealthy or “entitled” — it reflects local rental prices and a lack of suitable long-term options. We are not buyers yet, and we do not have spare income. Any security savings we had have been put into a sensible build project, expected to give us a sizeable return next year, at which point we should be able to buy our own home. That is precisely why we needed a secure interim rental, not another forced move.

The comments about downsizing, bunk beds, sofa beds and family arrangements are irrelevant and frankly inappropriate. That is not what I asked about.

My question was whether it is reasonable — or challengeable — to rely on repeated assurances of a long-term tenancy, only to have a highly unusual 4-month break clause exercised almost immediately for reasons entirely unrelated to us as tenants.

If the legal answer is “no”, then fine. But personal judgements, insults and assumptions about our finances add nothing to the discussion.

OP posts:
Boomer55 · 04/04/2026 16:34

He is within legal limits to evict you. I wouldn’t start playing hard ball as you’ll want references. Just try to find somewhere else. The new Labour inspired Renters Bill has started to create chaos. 🤷‍♀️

Theverylasttwo · 04/04/2026 16:37

"Any security savings we had have been put into a sensible build project, expected to give us a sizeable return next year, at which point we should be able to buy our own home. That is precisely why we needed a secure interim rental, not another forced move."

Not sure why this thread has been activated again but even a skim suggests you have changed your argument. Initially you stated you wanted to live in the rental property long term (five years) but now you're hoping to buy your own home next year. Sounds like the Landlord would have been justifiably upset too

WizdomE · 24/06/2026 06:58

I am a LL and I think it’s a shit move by their LL. yes they can legally do it. I would advise the tenant to see if they can negotiate for more time, moving expenses and a pre agreed good reference, the LL may pay to secure a smooth transition.

also consider what questions you need to ask about the LL moving forward, are they a professional LL with multiple properties or a ‘hobby’ LL. Hobby landlords will be wanting their properties back the RRA make the risks too high as they can’t balance risk across multiple properties. I’m often shocked that tenants never ask questions about the LLs situation, whereas the LL asks loads of questions about the tenants!!!

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