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Sorry long post alert - misled by landlord..

117 replies

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 10:20

AIBU to feel completely misled by our landlords after being promised long-term tenancy and now being served notice after 4 months? What can we do?

I’m honestly at breaking point and need some perspective (and possibly legal knowledge).

We moved into a 4-bed rental in Surrey at £3,000 pcm after being absolutely clear — repeatedly — that we were only looking for a long-term home. We have three children (now 5, 9 and 14). My eldest is approaching GCSE years, my middle child has learning difficulties and will be transitioning to secondary school next year, and stability was non-negotiable for us.

Before we agreed to take the property, we had an in-person meeting with the landlords, where they met our children, walked them around the house, asked which bedrooms they wanted, discussed decorating, putting things on walls properly etc. We explicitly asked for a minimum of 5 years.
The landlords told us they wanted long-term tenants, and that the first year would be to ensure both sides were happy, after which a longer contract would be signed.

This was reiterated to the estate agent we viewed with — they knew we were only looking long-term because we’ve already had two previous tenancies end through no fault of our own (one due to Covid/job loss, one because the landlord decided to sell following new tenant legislation).

On the day of signing, we were told the landlord wanted a 4-month break clause. I thought this was unusual (I’d only ever seen 10–12 months), but we’d already had the verbal assurances, the children were emotionally invested, and we trusted what we’d been told. So we signed.

Fast forward:
After just two months, we were told they would be serving notice at month four, meaning we must leave by April.

The only reason given for this is that the landlords’ adult daughter is going through a messy divorce, and they now want to give her the house to live in. She has one child aged 5.
This situation was never mentioned prior to us moving in, and the landlords had specifically said they were seeking long-term tenants.

So effectively, we were encouraged to move our family into a large, expensive property under the promise of long-term security — only to be asked to leave almost immediately due to a change in the landlords’ personal circumstances, not because of anything relating to us as tenants.

Financially, this has been devastating.
Because the property has very large windows, we had to buy multiple sets of extra-long curtains (hundreds of pounds — including one bay window costing over £400 alone). I tried to budget with Dunelm/IKEA, but it still added up fast. When the notice came in, I had to return what I could, pack things back up, and now we’re living in a half-empty house paying £3k a month knowing we’re being forced out.

We’d also put all our savings into a business project we believed we were secure enough to do — we won’t see a return for at least 18 months. We now have no savings to fund another move.

Emotionally, this has destroyed our sense of safety.
The children are upset about losing their bedrooms again. This is the third time in a row we’ve had to move due to landlords’ decisions. The stress has been so severe that my partner and I have temporarily separated under the strain.

On a practical and physical level, this move is especially hard for me. I have fibromyalgia and arthritis, and I find moving extremely difficult physically. It’s taken months for my body to start settling after the last move, and the thought of packing, lifting and relocating again is overwhelming.

On top of this, the property itself has had significant issues since we moved in, including boiler problems and ongoing repairs that required repeated chasing. It often felt like the house wasn’t truly ready for tenants, yet we were paying full rent throughout.

Housing have told me that if we can’t secure somewhere else, I may be placed in temporary accommodation — potentially a one-bed unit in Wembley for myself and three children. We wouldn’t be able to take our furniture or belongings. Given my health conditions and the children’s needs, the thought of this is genuinely terrifying.

It now feels like the landlords wanted someone to cover winter costs, council tax (Band F), and keep the house occupied while repairs were done — then move us on.

My questions:

  • AIBU to feel this is deeply unfair and misleading?
  • Does a verbal agreement / assurance of long-term tenancy count for anything here?
  • Is this something worth pursuing legally or via the agent?
  • Has anyone successfully challenged something like this, or negotiated a withdrawal of notice?

I feel completely broken by this and don’t know what options we realistically have.

OP posts:
RabbitsEatPancakes · 20/01/2026 12:33

Why would you rent such an expensive property with such a supposedly precarious financial situation and then invest so much in curtains?

Move to a cheaper area, Perfect time if you were starting a new business project.

The nature of renting is that you are paying to uses someone else's property. If they want or need it back then they should get it back.

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 12:34

Cattyisbatty · 20/01/2026 12:12

its shite but probably due to the renter’s rights bill coming in to force in April. Going to be massive changes for landlords, removing section 21 is huge.
We have rented out a property for about 25 years - maybe we’ll have to look in to selling up at some point although atm it’s still a good income and we have decent tenants.

We are very fair landlords - we had one awful tenant in 25 years who we had to serve section 21 on (no fault eviction) - she was trying to defraud us and we caught her out.

It is a business and if you weren’t happy about the clause then you should’ve not signed the contract and looked elsewhere.

Yes my partner thinks the same it’s because of that and managing agents have mentioned the same. It is a shit situation on both ends. Definitely

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mondaytosunday · 20/01/2026 12:35

Normally if there’s a four month break clause that is when the LL can serve notice to you, meaning you leave month six. It is unusual (illegal?) to have a break clause allowing them to evict at the four month mark. Your lease does not trump the law, so read it carefully.
@FerrisWheelsandLilacsyes a landlord can serve a section 21 notice to evict (at six months). It doesn’t ‘cancel’ the lease and make it rolling, it ends it. That’s the whole point of a break clause. The difference is the tenant can give one months notice but the landlord must give two. (To change after May obviously).
OP verbal agreements mean nothing and there well could be a genuine change in their circumstances, as unfortunate as that may be for you. I would have insisted on a two year lease with either no break or a one year break. I’m always trying to get tenants to commit to longer leases, but only once did I get one to go for 18 months. Mainly as I have to pay a renewal fee each time I get a new term signed (how agents will now make up for this charge as there will no longer be renewals - which typically counts for 25% of their revenue- remains to be seen). I’ve just served notice to a tenant that I will not renew her lease (term ending in a couple months), mainly as she has been a pita and still owes me a month for last year!
Your next agreement will be different and there will be no fixed term, and the landlord will have to give four months notice for very specific circumstances, so you should hopefully be better protected.
And @MegMezI get £3000/month for my small two bed flat on a busy street. Why? It’s in London - location is everything!

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 12:37

millymollyminging · 20/01/2026 11:11

This is exactly what happened to my DS/DDIL - they moved in in October - long term tenancy but rolling 6 months. It was their first home together. Out in April. We think the LL wanted rent over the winter before selling. It was heartbreaking for them. Hopefully the new legislation might stop this kind of thing.

It is heartbreaking sorry to hear hope there ok x

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shellyleppard · 20/01/2026 12:42

@SeenItAllMostly i really feel for you. Unfortunately you are at the mercy of landlords. Ultimately you are just borrowing their property. Can you contact your local council or shelter and ask for advice?

Shedeboodinia · 20/01/2026 12:44

I hope you get some good legal advice.
In terms of aomewhere to live thats not a one bed in Wembley, air bnb and booking.com has a good selection of houses often can be rented for many months while you find somewhere more permanent.

NutButterOnToast · 20/01/2026 12:47

I think you need advice regarding the break clause/ needing to move out.

A 4 month break clause does not sound right to me at all.

You may have more time than you think to secure a new property, please ring Shelter for advice.

nevernotmaybe · 20/01/2026 13:04

mondaytosunday · 20/01/2026 12:35

Normally if there’s a four month break clause that is when the LL can serve notice to you, meaning you leave month six. It is unusual (illegal?) to have a break clause allowing them to evict at the four month mark. Your lease does not trump the law, so read it carefully.
@FerrisWheelsandLilacsyes a landlord can serve a section 21 notice to evict (at six months). It doesn’t ‘cancel’ the lease and make it rolling, it ends it. That’s the whole point of a break clause. The difference is the tenant can give one months notice but the landlord must give two. (To change after May obviously).
OP verbal agreements mean nothing and there well could be a genuine change in their circumstances, as unfortunate as that may be for you. I would have insisted on a two year lease with either no break or a one year break. I’m always trying to get tenants to commit to longer leases, but only once did I get one to go for 18 months. Mainly as I have to pay a renewal fee each time I get a new term signed (how agents will now make up for this charge as there will no longer be renewals - which typically counts for 25% of their revenue- remains to be seen). I’ve just served notice to a tenant that I will not renew her lease (term ending in a couple months), mainly as she has been a pita and still owes me a month for last year!
Your next agreement will be different and there will be no fixed term, and the landlord will have to give four months notice for very specific circumstances, so you should hopefully be better protected.
And @MegMezI get £3000/month for my small two bed flat on a busy street. Why? It’s in London - location is everything!

Edited

A section 21 does not end a tenancy. Only a court can end a tenancy. Behaving otherwise is pushing surprisingly close to illegal eviction territory depending on how you act and they feel from that behaviour. A section 21 is a notice of intent that you will apply for a court to end the tenancy, if the tenant doesn't choose to end it mutually on the final day. If the tenant activates a break clause, that does actually end the tenancy interestingly and they really shouldn't stay as it can be costly.

Also verbal agreements can be binding, you can't say anything you want to get them to sign then laugh and say "psych". But it is complicated beyond more simple agreements. Technically if you verbally say sign it and I will charge you £10 a month less than is listed, that is legally binding. Hard to prove, but legally binding if proven.

FerrisWheelsandLilacs · 20/01/2026 13:08

mondaytosunday · 20/01/2026 12:35

Normally if there’s a four month break clause that is when the LL can serve notice to you, meaning you leave month six. It is unusual (illegal?) to have a break clause allowing them to evict at the four month mark. Your lease does not trump the law, so read it carefully.
@FerrisWheelsandLilacsyes a landlord can serve a section 21 notice to evict (at six months). It doesn’t ‘cancel’ the lease and make it rolling, it ends it. That’s the whole point of a break clause. The difference is the tenant can give one months notice but the landlord must give two. (To change after May obviously).
OP verbal agreements mean nothing and there well could be a genuine change in their circumstances, as unfortunate as that may be for you. I would have insisted on a two year lease with either no break or a one year break. I’m always trying to get tenants to commit to longer leases, but only once did I get one to go for 18 months. Mainly as I have to pay a renewal fee each time I get a new term signed (how agents will now make up for this charge as there will no longer be renewals - which typically counts for 25% of their revenue- remains to be seen). I’ve just served notice to a tenant that I will not renew her lease (term ending in a couple months), mainly as she has been a pita and still owes me a month for last year!
Your next agreement will be different and there will be no fixed term, and the landlord will have to give four months notice for very specific circumstances, so you should hopefully be better protected.
And @MegMezI get £3000/month for my small two bed flat on a busy street. Why? It’s in London - location is everything!

Edited

Sorry, I meant a s21 will end the lease, but activating a break clause won’t, and you can’t issue a s21 while you’re in a fixed term clause - so it’s not as easy as just the landlord activating the break clause.

Friendlygingercat · 20/01/2026 13:14

Just googled this: The Housing Act 1988 sets a 6-month minimum for landlords using Section 21, but a contractual break clause can allow earlier exit for tenants if agreed, So the poster above saying that the LL cannot use 4 months is correct. I would get specialist advice from Shelter of a solicitor before proceeding.

Friendlygingercat · 20/01/2026 13:24

As PP upthread have said look carefully at your lease. You can put what you like in a lease but the law trumps it. And for a section 21 your LL has to send you various documents up front or the section 21 is invalid. Lots of LLs and agents get it wrong and the judge throws it out in court.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 20/01/2026 13:49

Nothing you can do legally, though I would consider just sitting it out until you get evicted unless you can find something else. Ideally you do need to try and buy rather than rent.

It's really bad that youve been strung along and paid loads of money out.

shouldofgotamortage · 20/01/2026 13:58

Jellybunny56 · 20/01/2026 10:36

If OP wants to be unable to ever secure a tenancy again with that kind of stain on her record then yeah sure, otherwise this is bad advice.

It’s unfair OP but it’s absolutely legal and so you have no come back here. All you can do is plan to move.

No its not bad advice shes already said she will need to go through the council as no money. They will tell her to the exact same thing.

TinyCottageGirl · 20/01/2026 14:04

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 10:29

To add
some of the work that needed to be carried out since we moved in included:

  • We were without a working boiler for five days due to a broken seal. During this time there was back-and-forth between the landlord and the engineer about responsibility, which delayed the repair.
  • Within days of moving in, we noticed watermarks on the ceiling, which turned out to require a full roof replacement.
  • This meant scaffolding erected at the back of the house, so the children couldn’t use the garden.
  • The work took around a week, during which my bedroom (directly beneath a flat roof) was extremely noisy all day, making it very difficult to rest, especially given my health conditions.

Considering the costs, I would send a harsh email to the estate agent and the landlord requesting some money back due to all the issues. If he wants you out by X date I am sure he will come to an agreement. You've paid over the odds for this and mention all the curtains and extra costs - surely he can refund for this.

CactusSwoonedEnding · 20/01/2026 14:17

This is awful.

You do not have to leave until your landlords have a court order requiring you to leave. It may take them a year to secure that court order so sit tight and keep paying the rent. Ask Shelter for help in establishing whether the landlords have done everything correctly (eg gas safety etc) - if the landlords have made any mistakes do not tell them so - if the mistake is still uncorrected by the court date then tell the court and they can rule that the eviction order can't be granted yet as the landlord hasn't followed correct procedure, so that might give you another few months grace

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 14:30

TinyCottageGirl · 20/01/2026 14:04

Considering the costs, I would send a harsh email to the estate agent and the landlord requesting some money back due to all the issues. If he wants you out by X date I am sure he will come to an agreement. You've paid over the odds for this and mention all the curtains and extra costs - surely he can refund for this.

I think so too. Not only that when we moved in there was a machine machine provided. This wasn’t checked on their inventory in fact none of their appliances were. The washing machine was so mouldy and dirty I sent photos to which they aparently was horrified at. Offered us to either have a basic replacement or I can buy my own. I bought my own to my cost which I wouldn’t have had to do if I had rented another place with a suitable washing machine. I also purchased new sofas as my old ones were knackered and didn’t survive the move! I had to carpet the utility garage as it was concrete floor and extremely cold. She said when she lived here she done the same so was amused I had done the same. I think I should be asking for costs back.

OP posts:
shouldofgotamortage · 20/01/2026 14:33

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 14:30

I think so too. Not only that when we moved in there was a machine machine provided. This wasn’t checked on their inventory in fact none of their appliances were. The washing machine was so mouldy and dirty I sent photos to which they aparently was horrified at. Offered us to either have a basic replacement or I can buy my own. I bought my own to my cost which I wouldn’t have had to do if I had rented another place with a suitable washing machine. I also purchased new sofas as my old ones were knackered and didn’t survive the move! I had to carpet the utility garage as it was concrete floor and extremely cold. She said when she lived here she done the same so was amused I had done the same. I think I should be asking for costs back.

Definitely ask for some of the costs back, if they don’t make sure you rip up that carpet and take it with you.

Cookingupmyfirstbornson · 20/01/2026 14:33

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 14:30

I think so too. Not only that when we moved in there was a machine machine provided. This wasn’t checked on their inventory in fact none of their appliances were. The washing machine was so mouldy and dirty I sent photos to which they aparently was horrified at. Offered us to either have a basic replacement or I can buy my own. I bought my own to my cost which I wouldn’t have had to do if I had rented another place with a suitable washing machine. I also purchased new sofas as my old ones were knackered and didn’t survive the move! I had to carpet the utility garage as it was concrete floor and extremely cold. She said when she lived here she done the same so was amused I had done the same. I think I should be asking for costs back.

You won't be refunded for buying your own washing machine? I've never rented with a machine included apart from renting a student room in a hmo. Choosing to add carpet etc as well is your choice. And buying your own sofas!!

MJstarterbefore40 · 20/01/2026 14:39

It's shit but needing a house long term and signing an agreement with a 4 month break clause was so silly. You've rented a long time you must know that you can't trust landlords with things like that.

We were privately renting and got kicked out when we had a 2 month old so I know how awful it is. We ended up in a tiny flat and saved enough to buy within 18 months so is that an option?

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 14:39

shouldofgotamortage · 20/01/2026 14:33

Definitely ask for some of the costs back, if they don’t make sure you rip up that carpet and take it with you.

Definitely

OP posts:
SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 14:41

MJstarterbefore40 · 20/01/2026 14:39

It's shit but needing a house long term and signing an agreement with a 4 month break clause was so silly. You've rented a long time you must know that you can't trust landlords with things like that.

We were privately renting and got kicked out when we had a 2 month old so I know how awful it is. We ended up in a tiny flat and saved enough to buy within 18 months so is that an option?

Yes I know it’s so annoying but that’s why I wanted to make sure it was long term. Guess you can’t take anyone’s word anymore.
thats the way to go definitely but not as easy when both are self employed and have 3 dependents. I’ve had multiple mortgage advisors tell us that having dependents they deduct income? So weird but true.
hoping we can get our investment back soon as can go for it. In the meantime I’m going to have to rent again just to see us through

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CraftyMintHedgehog · 20/01/2026 14:59

@SeenItAllMostly That absolutely sucks.

I agree it looks VERY suspicious putting a 4 month break clause into the contract.

You can do some research to check the break clause has been issued correctly (deposit protected within 30 days? correct information given to you?). Ultimately, you will have to move if they want their house back.

I would also be giving the agent some grief over this in person in their shop! they clearly knew about the LL wanting the property back.

It's up to you how awkward you want to make this. It is only an invitation to leave. If they want to MAKE you leave then they will need to take the S21 they have issued you to court, then when the court awards vacant possession they will have to get Bailiffs in. This whole process takes upto 6 months but will buy you much more time to find something suitable.

If they have made any mistakes in their S21 (https://england.shelter.org.uk/professional_resources/legal/possession_and_eviction/section_21_validity_checker) then keep quiet and they'll have to start the process all over again.

OR... you could negotiate with the landlord and agree to move out on their chosen date IF they pay you a cash lump sum of money to cover all your moving costs.

The LL clearly wanted his cake and to eat it. He knew full well he wanted it back so no doubt lied to get some cash in the mean time.

Thundertoast · 20/01/2026 15:17

I dont think you can ask for the costs of carpeting a utility garage back, its not exactly a room you 'live' in unless im misunderstanding so it doesnt matter if its cold or not. Nor the sofas - when you say buy new, are you saying you found some cheap on FB marketplace or are you saying you bought new new? Not sure you will get anywhere with the washing machine as they did offer to buy one.

Teeteringonthebrink45 · 20/01/2026 15:19

DoveTurtle · 20/01/2026 11:50

I’m so sorry this has happened to you. Some people have no morals.

I wish you all the best for the future and I know there are a lot of landlords who would love to have a nice family with a long term lease.

Flowers

Sorry but it’s super unfair to say that somebody has no morals because they prioritise their own child/grandchild over people who signed an agreement with a 4 month minimum term. I had a BTL because if owning my my own place when I lived in with my partner, had tenants for 5 years and unfortunately they left at the same point I was planning to leave an abusive relationship. I wasn’t in a position to sell immediately (couldn’t move in myself due to being in a different city) so I got new tenants and added a 6 month break clause - I then had to put it on the market once I had left my ex and got a clear head. I feel so bad for my tenants as they are a lovely family but I have to put my own children first - It’s not immoral!

Xkk · 20/01/2026 15:57

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 10:20

AIBU to feel completely misled by our landlords after being promised long-term tenancy and now being served notice after 4 months? What can we do?

I’m honestly at breaking point and need some perspective (and possibly legal knowledge).

We moved into a 4-bed rental in Surrey at £3,000 pcm after being absolutely clear — repeatedly — that we were only looking for a long-term home. We have three children (now 5, 9 and 14). My eldest is approaching GCSE years, my middle child has learning difficulties and will be transitioning to secondary school next year, and stability was non-negotiable for us.

Before we agreed to take the property, we had an in-person meeting with the landlords, where they met our children, walked them around the house, asked which bedrooms they wanted, discussed decorating, putting things on walls properly etc. We explicitly asked for a minimum of 5 years.
The landlords told us they wanted long-term tenants, and that the first year would be to ensure both sides were happy, after which a longer contract would be signed.

This was reiterated to the estate agent we viewed with — they knew we were only looking long-term because we’ve already had two previous tenancies end through no fault of our own (one due to Covid/job loss, one because the landlord decided to sell following new tenant legislation).

On the day of signing, we were told the landlord wanted a 4-month break clause. I thought this was unusual (I’d only ever seen 10–12 months), but we’d already had the verbal assurances, the children were emotionally invested, and we trusted what we’d been told. So we signed.

Fast forward:
After just two months, we were told they would be serving notice at month four, meaning we must leave by April.

The only reason given for this is that the landlords’ adult daughter is going through a messy divorce, and they now want to give her the house to live in. She has one child aged 5.
This situation was never mentioned prior to us moving in, and the landlords had specifically said they were seeking long-term tenants.

So effectively, we were encouraged to move our family into a large, expensive property under the promise of long-term security — only to be asked to leave almost immediately due to a change in the landlords’ personal circumstances, not because of anything relating to us as tenants.

Financially, this has been devastating.
Because the property has very large windows, we had to buy multiple sets of extra-long curtains (hundreds of pounds — including one bay window costing over £400 alone). I tried to budget with Dunelm/IKEA, but it still added up fast. When the notice came in, I had to return what I could, pack things back up, and now we’re living in a half-empty house paying £3k a month knowing we’re being forced out.

We’d also put all our savings into a business project we believed we were secure enough to do — we won’t see a return for at least 18 months. We now have no savings to fund another move.

Emotionally, this has destroyed our sense of safety.
The children are upset about losing their bedrooms again. This is the third time in a row we’ve had to move due to landlords’ decisions. The stress has been so severe that my partner and I have temporarily separated under the strain.

On a practical and physical level, this move is especially hard for me. I have fibromyalgia and arthritis, and I find moving extremely difficult physically. It’s taken months for my body to start settling after the last move, and the thought of packing, lifting and relocating again is overwhelming.

On top of this, the property itself has had significant issues since we moved in, including boiler problems and ongoing repairs that required repeated chasing. It often felt like the house wasn’t truly ready for tenants, yet we were paying full rent throughout.

Housing have told me that if we can’t secure somewhere else, I may be placed in temporary accommodation — potentially a one-bed unit in Wembley for myself and three children. We wouldn’t be able to take our furniture or belongings. Given my health conditions and the children’s needs, the thought of this is genuinely terrifying.

It now feels like the landlords wanted someone to cover winter costs, council tax (Band F), and keep the house occupied while repairs were done — then move us on.

My questions:

  • AIBU to feel this is deeply unfair and misleading?
  • Does a verbal agreement / assurance of long-term tenancy count for anything here?
  • Is this something worth pursuing legally or via the agent?
  • Has anyone successfully challenged something like this, or negotiated a withdrawal of notice?

I feel completely broken by this and don’t know what options we realistically have.

Trying to break it down as much as I can:
You signed a contract with a break in cause. Alarm bells rang but you still signed. That is on you. Sorry
-you were told the tenancy will be long term. Never take anyone's word for it. Is someone else's house, circumstances change. You could not foresee the future, even of you own you could lose your home, let alone a rental
If you want stability, take out a mortgage and pay every month.
-your health problems are not your landlord's problem.
-your children being upset-not your landlords problem
-the issues with the boiler-you might get some money back if you chase it it court but small amount

  • your relationship breaking down, not relevant to anyone but yourself
-the curtains, if you manage to get some money back, good. Otherwise, it was your choice to buy them -improvement to home, again your choice. If I were you I would not have invested in the first 4 months at all untill I saw the long term contract. Take with you what you can, but no one owes you anything for what you chose to buy Legally, not much you can do. They want their house back. If you move out in 4 months or in 6 months you will still have to move. But spending 3k per rent is crazy where do you live? With these money you rent a mansion in countryside. Change the area. Overall a series of bad decisions got you in this situation. Try to learn from it and one way or another you will go past this. Sorry of I sound harsh in my reply. Best of luck!