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Sorry long post alert - misled by landlord..

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SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 10:20

AIBU to feel completely misled by our landlords after being promised long-term tenancy and now being served notice after 4 months? What can we do?

I’m honestly at breaking point and need some perspective (and possibly legal knowledge).

We moved into a 4-bed rental in Surrey at £3,000 pcm after being absolutely clear — repeatedly — that we were only looking for a long-term home. We have three children (now 5, 9 and 14). My eldest is approaching GCSE years, my middle child has learning difficulties and will be transitioning to secondary school next year, and stability was non-negotiable for us.

Before we agreed to take the property, we had an in-person meeting with the landlords, where they met our children, walked them around the house, asked which bedrooms they wanted, discussed decorating, putting things on walls properly etc. We explicitly asked for a minimum of 5 years.
The landlords told us they wanted long-term tenants, and that the first year would be to ensure both sides were happy, after which a longer contract would be signed.

This was reiterated to the estate agent we viewed with — they knew we were only looking long-term because we’ve already had two previous tenancies end through no fault of our own (one due to Covid/job loss, one because the landlord decided to sell following new tenant legislation).

On the day of signing, we were told the landlord wanted a 4-month break clause. I thought this was unusual (I’d only ever seen 10–12 months), but we’d already had the verbal assurances, the children were emotionally invested, and we trusted what we’d been told. So we signed.

Fast forward:
After just two months, we were told they would be serving notice at month four, meaning we must leave by April.

The only reason given for this is that the landlords’ adult daughter is going through a messy divorce, and they now want to give her the house to live in. She has one child aged 5.
This situation was never mentioned prior to us moving in, and the landlords had specifically said they were seeking long-term tenants.

So effectively, we were encouraged to move our family into a large, expensive property under the promise of long-term security — only to be asked to leave almost immediately due to a change in the landlords’ personal circumstances, not because of anything relating to us as tenants.

Financially, this has been devastating.
Because the property has very large windows, we had to buy multiple sets of extra-long curtains (hundreds of pounds — including one bay window costing over £400 alone). I tried to budget with Dunelm/IKEA, but it still added up fast. When the notice came in, I had to return what I could, pack things back up, and now we’re living in a half-empty house paying £3k a month knowing we’re being forced out.

We’d also put all our savings into a business project we believed we were secure enough to do — we won’t see a return for at least 18 months. We now have no savings to fund another move.

Emotionally, this has destroyed our sense of safety.
The children are upset about losing their bedrooms again. This is the third time in a row we’ve had to move due to landlords’ decisions. The stress has been so severe that my partner and I have temporarily separated under the strain.

On a practical and physical level, this move is especially hard for me. I have fibromyalgia and arthritis, and I find moving extremely difficult physically. It’s taken months for my body to start settling after the last move, and the thought of packing, lifting and relocating again is overwhelming.

On top of this, the property itself has had significant issues since we moved in, including boiler problems and ongoing repairs that required repeated chasing. It often felt like the house wasn’t truly ready for tenants, yet we were paying full rent throughout.

Housing have told me that if we can’t secure somewhere else, I may be placed in temporary accommodation — potentially a one-bed unit in Wembley for myself and three children. We wouldn’t be able to take our furniture or belongings. Given my health conditions and the children’s needs, the thought of this is genuinely terrifying.

It now feels like the landlords wanted someone to cover winter costs, council tax (Band F), and keep the house occupied while repairs were done — then move us on.

My questions:

  • AIBU to feel this is deeply unfair and misleading?
  • Does a verbal agreement / assurance of long-term tenancy count for anything here?
  • Is this something worth pursuing legally or via the agent?
  • Has anyone successfully challenged something like this, or negotiated a withdrawal of notice?

I feel completely broken by this and don’t know what options we realistically have.

OP posts:
Friendlygingercat · 20/01/2026 16:07

CactusSwoonedEnding and some of the other PP upthread has given you good advice.

As you are already liasing with the LA they may well tell you to stay until the bailiffs evict you otherwise they will regard you as having made yourself homeless. In that case they can wash their hands of you. That is the way this corrupt system works.

The LL obviously considers he owes you nothing. By the same token you owe him nothing. There is a lot of paperwork to get right for an s21 and if one thing is wrong the judge can throw out the case on a technicality. That means the LL pays costs.

Paperwork includes:

#1 Valid gas safety certiciicate if the property has a gas supply
#2 Energy performance certificate of at least E rating
#3 How to rent guide - the latest edition at the time the tenancy was granted or renewed
#4 Deposit protection information - must have been enacted within 30 days of start of tenency
#5 Electrical Installation Condition Report (EICR)

Summerhillsquare · 20/01/2026 16:10

I thought it has to be 6 months minimum under an assured shorthold tenancy?

KaleidoscopeSmile · 20/01/2026 16:15

I love the way people on here are saying that it's only to be expected when you rent like you're not actually paying for something.

Most private landlords are the pits in my opinion and their threats to sell up when the renters bill comes in are the best thing that could happen for renters. They don't have the empathy or wit to realise that having your home taken away on a whim is one of the most crushing things that can happen to someone.

You're much better off with a multiple property-owning landlord when you rent, not one of these inheritors who think they're doing you a massive favour, when actually the lack of security of tenancy they provide is soul-destroying..

WiddlinDiddlin · 20/01/2026 16:15

@SeenItAllMostly You seem to be ignoring several people pointing out the break clause lets you end the tenancy early.

It does not let the landlord end the tenancy before the min. 6 months though. Whilst yes, thats not the multiple year tenancy you wanted, it's still better than having to be out in a couple of weeks!

Xkk · 20/01/2026 16:20

KaleidoscopeSmile · 20/01/2026 16:15

I love the way people on here are saying that it's only to be expected when you rent like you're not actually paying for something.

Most private landlords are the pits in my opinion and their threats to sell up when the renters bill comes in are the best thing that could happen for renters. They don't have the empathy or wit to realise that having your home taken away on a whim is one of the most crushing things that can happen to someone.

You're much better off with a multiple property-owning landlord when you rent, not one of these inheritors who think they're doing you a massive favour, when actually the lack of security of tenancy they provide is soul-destroying..

Is not to be expected, no, but is for you to be prepared in case it happens. I agree with you on many points, don't get me wrong and I agree that they don"t realise the impact on your family. But is your family, so you have to be prepared for said impact. Due diligence.

Londonnight · 20/01/2026 16:27

This has just happened to my son. He has been in his flat for less than 6 months. Moved in with the thought if it being long term. The landlord owns the whole building of about 8-10 flats, so we thought it would all be okay.

Four days before Christmas he was served notice as the landlord has sold the whole building and he has to be out by 16 Feb! It's been an incredibly stressful time, especially as everything seems to shut down between Christmas and New Year, so it has given him less time to find something.

I think the new renters bill that is coming in in May has a lot to do with this. It looks like my son may have found a new place, but could have done without all this upheaval just a few months after moving last time.

loislovesstewie · 20/01/2026 16:32

Summerhillsquare · 20/01/2026 16:10

I thought it has to be 6 months minimum under an assured shorthold tenancy?

The landlord can serve a S21 notice after 4 months to coincide with the end of the 6 month assured shorthold tenancy. That has always been the case, the landlord then needs to obtain a possession order from the court, and many local authorities insist that he has to get a bailiff to evict the tenants. The only person who can legally remove a tenant from a property is a bailiff.

LaptopOnChargeAgain · 20/01/2026 16:33

As a starting point I would contact London and Country Mortgages, they are whole of the market, free and still recommended by MoneySavingExpert.

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See if you can secure a mortgage so you don't have the uncertainty of renting. There are also specific proven renter mortgages too, ie you can prove you have paid rent

https://www.skipton.co.uk/mortgages/first-time-buyers/track-record-mortgage

Just check the details very carefully and compare mortgage rates. Best of luck.

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nevernotmaybe · 20/01/2026 16:37

Londonnight · 20/01/2026 16:27

This has just happened to my son. He has been in his flat for less than 6 months. Moved in with the thought if it being long term. The landlord owns the whole building of about 8-10 flats, so we thought it would all be okay.

Four days before Christmas he was served notice as the landlord has sold the whole building and he has to be out by 16 Feb! It's been an incredibly stressful time, especially as everything seems to shut down between Christmas and New Year, so it has given him less time to find something.

I think the new renters bill that is coming in in May has a lot to do with this. It looks like my son may have found a new place, but could have done without all this upheaval just a few months after moving last time.

You cant just get notice and have to leave during a fixed term, unless he did have a break clause as well. And if he does have a break clause, check the wording.

If it says the landlord can serve notice and end by x date, they have to serve the correct section 21 notice for that date. If it misses the date, the break clause is missed and can't be used.

If he doesn't have a break clause, he can't be removed until after the fixed term of the tenancy has passed.

He does not have to leave by that date either, that is the date the landlord can then go through the proper process for ending a tenancy by court, until a court gives the final date to leave, the tenancy is still fully active and the tenant has full rights to stay to that date.

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 16:39

WiddlinDiddlin · 20/01/2026 16:15

@SeenItAllMostly You seem to be ignoring several people pointing out the break clause lets you end the tenancy early.

It does not let the landlord end the tenancy before the min. 6 months though. Whilst yes, thats not the multiple year tenancy you wanted, it's still better than having to be out in a couple of weeks!

@WiddlinDiddlinyeah this has surprised me I’m looking into this awaiting a response thank you

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SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 16:43

KaleidoscopeSmile · 20/01/2026 16:15

I love the way people on here are saying that it's only to be expected when you rent like you're not actually paying for something.

Most private landlords are the pits in my opinion and their threats to sell up when the renters bill comes in are the best thing that could happen for renters. They don't have the empathy or wit to realise that having your home taken away on a whim is one of the most crushing things that can happen to someone.

You're much better off with a multiple property-owning landlord when you rent, not one of these inheritors who think they're doing you a massive favour, when actually the lack of security of tenancy they provide is soul-destroying..

@KaleidoscopeSmilei know ! I wasn’t born into generational wealth nor do I have any coming. We’ve had it hard and not been able to secure a Mortgage. We’ve just lived the flow and freedom of renting. Seams like reading back you can spot the landlords and in the replies they really do think they are above you for you renting one of their properties!

OP posts:
Cherrysoup · 20/01/2026 16:51

Namechangetheyarewatching · 20/01/2026 10:49

I would go to the council and sit tight until they evict you.

Then what will her reference be like? Doesn’t sound like she’s financially vulnerable.

Paying that much rent seems very high, so I echo pp, go get mortgage advice. If you are technically a first time buyer, then surely there’s a deal to be done so you can have stability?

Re the break clause, you can have whatever you like. My tenants wanted a 2 month one, although never used it.

cestlavielife · 20/01/2026 17:00

Speak to shelter.
Try a shared ownership if you have low deposit

nevernotmaybe · 20/01/2026 17:01

Cherrysoup · 20/01/2026 16:51

Then what will her reference be like? Doesn’t sound like she’s financially vulnerable.

Paying that much rent seems very high, so I echo pp, go get mortgage advice. If you are technically a first time buyer, then surely there’s a deal to be done so you can have stability?

Re the break clause, you can have whatever you like. My tenants wanted a 2 month one, although never used it.

Yes, the tenant can. The landlord can't end a tenancy before 6 months, except for at fault sections such as section 8 for not paying rent.

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 17:01

Thank you to everyone posting advice on this. I’m definitely seeking advice on the breakclause. But not looking to outstay this. It’s a shit situation but they need the house back for their daughter and after all this I’d rather move on and make a home for my kids where I can have my curtains up and enjoy my new sofa 😂
will need to get out this pickle as need to be out by April 2nd but once settled again I will look into a mortgage.
it’s awful on both sides I think it’s legally ok but morally wrong.
wasn’t for a lack of asking the right questions and wanting long term stability unfortunately just didn’t work out this time. But thanks to all for advice here definitely looking into making sure it’s been done correctly xx

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Slave2Avocads · 20/01/2026 17:06

I would fuck the landlord around and stand firm. What despicable behaviour from them and completely immoral.
Let the court decide and demand all costs for moving and locating a property.

Cherrysoup · 20/01/2026 17:07

nevernotmaybe · 20/01/2026 17:01

Yes, the tenant can. The landlord can't end a tenancy before 6 months, except for at fault sections such as section 8 for not paying rent.

I know. I had to give notice to a non paying, alcoholic aggressive tenant. Social services involved with the family.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 20/01/2026 17:08

Slave2Avocads · 20/01/2026 17:06

I would fuck the landlord around and stand firm. What despicable behaviour from them and completely immoral.
Let the court decide and demand all costs for moving and locating a property.

They can just say no to both of these demands.

Slave2Avocads · 20/01/2026 17:08

the daughter does not need to live in that house. She is moving into your home

loislovesstewie · 20/01/2026 17:17

Slave2Avocads · 20/01/2026 17:08

the daughter does not need to live in that house. She is moving into your home

Unfortunately, at present, the landlord can serve a S21. He doesn't have to have reasons, there is no defense unless the tenancy was not set up correctly. It's the downside of the legislation. I worked as a homeless officer for donkeys years and can remember protected tenancies where the landlord had limited reasons for serving notice and obtaining a possession order. Depending on your point of view that was either a good thing i.e good for the tenants, or bad as the landlord found it much harder to obtain possession.

ittakes2 · 20/01/2026 17:34

You can at any point (even after you leave) ask for reduced rent for not having full use of the house (like the scaffolding in the garden) maybe press play on that now so you can secure money for a deposit on the next house

stichguru · 20/01/2026 17:45

Landlords are people - situations change. I feel very sorry for you and your family, and everyone else who this happens to. However the bottom line is if we said "if you do this (buy and rent out a house), you will have to do it come hell or high water for 5 years" no-one would do it because no-one can see 5 years into the future. The private rentals wouldn't exist and many people would be screwed!

KaleidoscopeSmile · 21/01/2026 11:22

Xkk · 20/01/2026 16:20

Is not to be expected, no, but is for you to be prepared in case it happens. I agree with you on many points, don't get me wrong and I agree that they don"t realise the impact on your family. But is your family, so you have to be prepared for said impact. Due diligence.

I'm not talking about me but how often do you think it's possible for the people that it DOES happen to, to "be prepared" - once, twice, ten times?

What does this preparation involve and if they had the sort of money they'd need to KEEP having to be prepared don't you think they'd perhaps be owning their own property anyway?

Willowskyblue · 21/01/2026 11:51

Alarms would have sounded for me when they wanted the early break clause but it’s too late now.

GoldDuster · 21/01/2026 12:18

KaleidoscopeSmile · 21/01/2026 11:22

I'm not talking about me but how often do you think it's possible for the people that it DOES happen to, to "be prepared" - once, twice, ten times?

What does this preparation involve and if they had the sort of money they'd need to KEEP having to be prepared don't you think they'd perhaps be owning their own property anyway?

OP mentions having invested a lump sum after the most recent tenancy began into a business proposition, and having enjoyed the money they'd earned over the years, also enjoying the freedom and flexibility renting has provided.

You cannot have your cake, and eat it. You can't spend your money, and also save for a deposit for a house. You can't have flexibility and mortgaged bricks and mortar.

There are two sides to everything. This is the flip side to renting, lack of control and agency, and paying through the nose. Take the emotion out of it, you chose the big house, the new sofas, the carpet, the curtains, none of this will be reimbursed and nor should it be. You're winding yourself up listening to anyone advising you to rip up a square of carpet, you've got far bigger fish to fry currently. Perspective is your friend here, and a plan on how you're going to move forward and out of this position. I say this not as a landlord, but as someone who's self employed, and has spent the majority of the past fifteen years as a single mum. No generational wealth. Home owner as an absolute priority because the benefits of renting don't outweigh the pitfalls, for me.