To lock the bathroom door?

[Skater78]

This seems such a silly thing to ask but I’d appreciate opinions.
If I am going to have a shower or use the toilet I lock the bathroom door. I like to have privacy in these moments, nothing going on just a regular getting ready for the day routine.
My DH says I should not lock the door it’s not normal to do so he should be able to come and go as he pleases in case he wants to brush his teeth or something.
The bathroom is very small but I’m not sure that’s even the point. Is it a big deal if I want 10 minutes privacy to have a shower on my own. He can brush his teeth around that or after his shower. I just feel like it should be respected as my choice. I appreciate some might not care but
AIBU reasonable to lock the bathroom door?

I think if you're so vehemently against other people have privacy in their relationships, then that makes you a very odd person 🤷‍♀️.

And what if you have one bathroom and children?

Working around each other is an essential life skill, as is respecting boundaries.

All these people arguing that it's weird to expect boundaries because they don't have them are missing the point. Personally I don't actually mind DP seeing me pee or vice versa, we camp in a camper van without a toilet so peeing in front of each other is pretty normal. But that's irrelevant. If OP wants privacy she has the right to privacy. Full stop no caveats. Her DP thinks she doesn't have that right. That's controlling.

Because she doesn't want someone in the bathroom then?

I wouldn't either

We don't lock.the door and wander in and out on each other I would find it weird to do so, but it's whatever you are happier with.

He’s ridiculous.

I don’t tend to lock the door, but that’s because I don’t need to because DH doesn’t think he can just walk in whenever he wants.

Wasn't in my house

Who cares. Seriously. You had boundaries that were agreed between you. That's still irrelevant to the question OP was asking.

I never lock the door but if I was in there my DH would not come in! And if he started doing that then yes I’d lock the door - though can’t imagine, if I asked him not to, that he’d think of coming in. Of course when my kids were toddlers no privacy whatsoever but really your DH should respect your privacy.

If it's locked, the person inside wants or needs privacy. The other person should respect that. 👍

Normal in our house. And you just made sure you got a move on

No, it was one of a number of options that you both agreed on 🙄

Of course you aren't being unreasonable. If you prefer to shower/bathe / use the lavatory in privacy that's your choice and should be respected. Its exactly what I expect, a bit of peace and quiet in the bathroom. If he doesn't get that he's an idiot.

Okay, so if your partner had asked for some privacy to get ready in the morning, you would have denied him that?

So you did something that worked for you. If it hadn't worked, you would have adapted.

Its called Respect.

Yes this, i have been with my husband 35 years we have never not locked the bathroom door, op it perfectly normal to lock a door so you can poo in peace.

Jeez
you know that tacit agreement is also agreement right?!

I never lock the door. Neither does DH.

Are you being deliberately obtuse? My partner is also “grown up enough” as you so PA-ly put it to know I shave my armpits and take a shit and cut my toenails or whatever. But I (me, myself) don’t necessarily want him to see me do it. I like to have privacy to do those things. As is my preference and right. Just because you’re so cool and grown up and have different boundaries, doesn’t mean that everyone else has to have the same. Is that clearer now? And if I made my boundaries clear to anyone, including DP, and they trampled over them on the daily, I’d be upset.

As an aside YABVU to use the phrase “snuggle time”.