To lock the bathroom door?

[Skater78]

This seems such a silly thing to ask but I’d appreciate opinions.
If I am going to have a shower or use the toilet I lock the bathroom door. I like to have privacy in these moments, nothing going on just a regular getting ready for the day routine.
My DH says I should not lock the door it’s not normal to do so he should be able to come and go as he pleases in case he wants to brush his teeth or something.
The bathroom is very small but I’m not sure that’s even the point. Is it a big deal if I want 10 minutes privacy to have a shower on my own. He can brush his teeth around that or after his shower. I just feel like it should be respected as my choice. I appreciate some might not care but
AIBU reasonable to lock the bathroom door?

With two full bathrooms here thankfully, I don't care what I am. But if I only had the one, no one would get in while I was there, male female or child!

we always managed without doing this but maybe because it never occurred to us it was an option! We’d get up and someone would shower and the other would sort the packed lunches and then we’d swap… or whatever. To be fair we prioritised moving to a different house with more than one bathroom as it was quite annoying.

Firstly, we don't have a downstairs, not everyone lives in a big house

Why on earth would you need to have a big house to have a downstairs?!

It’s fine to lock it and expect some personal privacy, but if there’s only one bathroom including loo in the house, I’d be in the habit of calling out to check if I was going in for a shower if it’s a busyish time of day. That’s what we always did when in that situation, or when staying with family when we’re all sharing one bathroom. Just a quick “going in the shower” gives the rest of the family a chance to dash to the loo or grab toothbrush if needed. Wouldn’t bother for a loo visit of course.

Because the person in the shower doesn't want people coming in while they are showering?

With two full bathrooms here thankfully, I don't care what I am

Is one of those in the garden?

It's okay that the OP does want to have some privacy though. How you managed the bathroom in your bedsit wasn't really relevant.

You could definitely have expected on privacy at that time of day, if you'd wanted to.

I fuck my husband too but that doesn't mean I want him to see me having a poo or vice versa. If you don't mine, that's cool for you but it's not mainstream!

Wouldn't occur to me to lock the door from DH or him from me. We only shut the door if doing a poo as a warning not to come in. Neither of us have ever thought anything of coming in to brush teeth while the other one is in the shower.

But if that's something you want then of course he should respect it. Not unreasonable for him to find it a bit odd though.

Ok, let me spell it out, some people don't live in houses at all! Some people live in flats where the kitchen is 10 steps away from the bathroom. The fact that this didn't occur to you as an option is peak mumsnet 😁

I don’t lock my door but equally we give each other privacy, I wait until he is finished or vice versa. Admittedly we have another bathroom and a downstairs loo so would never be nipping in because desperate.

Neither of you wanted or needed privacy from each other, that is your business. But I completely disagree with your position that it would have been really selfish to do it any other way. Loads of adults share households and a single bathroom quite happily by taking turns in the bathroom, from student houses onwards. Nothing "really selfish" about it.

Yeah, but that isn't relevant to the OP. She can expect privacy because all relationships are different.

It's not about hiding your tits from your partner and it's weird that you keep saying that.

You shouldn't have to lock the door in the first place .
A shut door ( or even one just pushed closed ) in our house means no-one enters it .

Seeing each other naked in a sexual way and seeing each other having a shit or shaving your pits or whatever are two different things imho. Plus someone is allowed to have different privacy boundaries than you, you know.

DP and I don’t lock the door apart from going to the loo. We often share eg he’s shaving, I’m showering. But even so I can well imagine someone else has a different preference to that. I regularly go for a bath in the evening so I can listen to the archers and with nobody scoffing have half an hour to myself after a busy day. The only interruption allowed then is bringing me a drink.

Ps whilst my current house does have locks neither of my previous 2 that I lived in with my dc as children did and I can’t think of anyone walking in on me ever, we only had one bathroom (plus downstairs loo) for a family so we had to manage the morning bathroom schedule

We don't have a lock and I can't shut the door due to a cat who will then claw the door/carpet to come in (hates being shut out).. I had to remind my better half before Xmas that that is no reason to come in (he came in while I in the bath). My 20 min bath is 'me time'. He's been fine about it since and has left me alone.

Your hubby should respect your wishes OP. He's being a dick if he doesn't.

Something you agreed on

Not the same thing at all