To lock the bathroom door?

[Skater78]

This seems such a silly thing to ask but I’d appreciate opinions.
If I am going to have a shower or use the toilet I lock the bathroom door. I like to have privacy in these moments, nothing going on just a regular getting ready for the day routine.
My DH says I should not lock the door it’s not normal to do so he should be able to come and go as he pleases in case he wants to brush his teeth or something.
The bathroom is very small but I’m not sure that’s even the point. Is it a big deal if I want 10 minutes privacy to have a shower on my own. He can brush his teeth around that or after his shower. I just feel like it should be respected as my choice. I appreciate some might not care but
AIBU reasonable to lock the bathroom door?

Yes, that’s my view. You should be able to lock the door but you’d be unreasonable to do so if you haven’t given him fair warning so he can get his toothbrush if he needs to leave on 5 minutes.

Omg I cant even believe ppl even have locks on internal doors for reference the only door locks ive got is my front door and back door no other doors in the flat have locks on because I dont live with predators. If my partner wanted t9 come look at me whilst im in the shower it wouldn't even bother me in fact sometimes when im in the shower hell come and have a little perve which I always find hilarious and I do the same to him sometimes when hes in the shower but we never tale ourselves seriously so we dont worry about things like bathrooms and we only have 1 bathroom.

You shouldnt havevto lock the door he shouldnt just walk in so as he thinks its his right id lock the door

I like to shower and poo in peace also. I always just check that nobody needs the bathroom before I shower. If I need a poo, they can wait their turn!!

I'd be livid if someone walked in whilst I was showering. Much easier when DS has his partner over, we always lock the door then!!

I lock the door and so do my husband and children. We also have a knock first rule before just barging through a door.

It’s a personal preference and no one has to agree with how you feel safe. Tell him to plan his morning better and you don’t want him in the bathroom with you.

Every door in my house is lockable. I don't live with predators either.

It might not bother you, but it's okay that other people are bothered by it.

You’re right and he should respect your privacy. Lock the door 🚪 and if he needs it earlier, then he needs to get up earlier! What woman doesn’t want privacy in the bathroom and also 5 minutes to breathe, away from anyone else!! Totally wrong and bad etiquette on his part xx

We have no locks on our bathroom door- taken off when my neuro diverse kids were small in case of emergency. If the door is shut we knock to see if it’s occupied. If there’s just 2 adults in the house I really don’t see why he has an issue with you locking the bathroom door-unless you’re taking 4 hour baths or monopolising the bathroom all day for privacy for your Coke habit 😆 he’s being unreasonable & controlling.

You absolutely have the right to privacy and anyone has says you don't is nuts.

We actually didn't have a lock on our ensuite door for 12 years however if the door was shut you knocked. I was happy for dh to wander in and clean his teeth if I was in the shower but absolutely not just walking in with out checking if I was on the loo.

Your dh is totally unreasonable.

Which weird question? Did you read the comment chain?

We never lock the bathroom door but it’s kind of accepted that if it’s actually closed we wouldn’t just walk in without checking. I honestly couldn’t tell you when that last happened though, I think it’s kind of a given that if you’re in the bathroom you’d like a bit of personal space!

Not selfish at all, you could've taken turns to get up earlier.

No-one should ever tell any one they don't have the right to privacy in the bathroom.

Spitting in the kitchen sink is grim.

We don't lock the door, but we respect a closed door - the lack of door locking is purely in case one of us slipped and hit our heads or something, and the other needed to get in to help. We don't barge in on each other through a closed door though. Your partner needs to respect your privacy.

Why? Don't you rinse after you spit?

If you have kids then the second you close that bathroom door they all seem to need something and want to come in to show you a Lego brick they found. Lock the door!

You have multiple bathrooms so he's violating your boundaries as a control issue. He thinks you have no right to privacy and he can barge you when you're naked in the shower.

The toothbrushing or whatever is an excuse. He purposefully tries to violate your boundary and then frames you locking the door as wrong, when he knows it's not ok to barge in on other people using a bathroom.

I think it's disturbing that he argued it's ok for him to barge in on naked women in the bathroom when you've asked him not to do that especially when you have teen girls in the home.

You're going to have to have a sit down and discuss how inappropriate he's being and this needs to stop completely. He's massively controlling and unreasonable as well.

I get you! Most of the time I shower with the door unlocked as I’m not bothered but sometimes I just want 10 mins alone undisturbed! He should respect this! End of!

Dear Lord.

This has given me the ick. My gut says he is being controlling and you need to stand your ground and tell him what you’ve written; it’s 10 minutes of “me” time and you will have tp work around it - my needs are as important as yours.

Hopefully it’s just him being a brat and nothing more sinister.

have you actually expressed it to him in those terms?

Why is it jealousy?

I'm glad you're happy. I can't bear twee

And your life wouldn't suit me

And how does anyone have 2.5 baths? What is half a bathroom?
I agree with you about the rest, it's like a teen wrote it.

It's a major place for falls ... might not be a great idea as you get older. My hubby wouldn't come in bathroom if I'm in there, I find that strange coming from a large family.

US.

A half-bath is a downstairs loo I think ( I refuse to say powder room)