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Aibu to feel humiliated by this

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Ionbroo · 17/01/2026 15:27

So my DH had a peloton ride today. When he finished he went upstairs (very sweaty) and sat on the ensuite toilet seat to "cool down a bit", had a shower then came downstairs and sat and had his lunch. While he was eating I took some clean clothes upstairs to put away. Part way through I needed the loo so went to use the toilet. I sat down and the seat was wet. I very quickly realised I was sitting in DH's sweat! 🤮

I feel pretty disgusted by this and we ended up having a big row over it. I feel justified in being upset but not sure if I'm making a bigger thing out of it than is necessary. Not sure what I'm asking, I think I just needed to vent. I'd appreciate some perspective.

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Illegally18 · 17/01/2026 17:59

Ionbroo · 17/01/2026 15:35

Maybe saying humiliated was a bit ott but in that moment when I realised why it was wet it felt pretty humiliating!

Humiliating?

mamajong · 17/01/2026 17:59

Humiliated??? Surely just some feedback to wipe up after himself would suffice, not sure why its humiliating 🤔

Allmarbleslost · 17/01/2026 18:01

Is humiliated the new mortified?

Ladymuckypuddle · 17/01/2026 18:02

There's obviously a lot more going on here op. This is the straw that broke the camels back sort of situation.

CremeCarmel · 17/01/2026 18:02

goldenlockets · 17/01/2026 15:43

At least we all know it wasn't Andrew Windsor Mountbatten

It could well have been. But I doubt Fergie would write on MN to complain. She couldn’t care less as long as the hush money keeps rolling in.

Berlinlover · 17/01/2026 18:03

Luckily for me I don’t find my partner’s sweat disgusting. I would just give the seat a wipe and say nothing.

shhblackbag · 17/01/2026 18:05

Humiliated? YABU. But I'd be annoyed he didn't clean up after himself. Not enough to argue about it, though.

kittensinthekitchen · 17/01/2026 18:12

Isn't this a man who has actually jizzed inside you?

CinnamonBuns67 · 17/01/2026 18:32

I think feeling humiliated by it and having a big row about it is a massive overreaction. I'd have been grossed out sure, and I'd have been expressed that I was cross that he'd not wiped the seat after he sat on it but I wouldn't have got in a row or felt humiliated.

FullLondonEye · 17/01/2026 19:17

kittensinthekitchen · 17/01/2026 18:12

Isn't this a man who has actually jizzed inside you?

All these people on here saying it's gross - have they never been exposed to someone's bodily fluids? It's a bit of sweat, we all do it, and a lot worse. Are normal people really this prudish in this day and age? Presumably they'd be horrified to find out what a blow job entails...

BuckChuckets · 17/01/2026 20:45

Ionbroo · 17/01/2026 15:35

Maybe saying humiliated was a bit ott but in that moment when I realised why it was wet it felt pretty humiliating!

Maybe you're thinking of a different word? Humiliated doesn't make sense.

LilyBunch25 · 17/01/2026 21:43

Ionbroo · 17/01/2026 15:35

Maybe saying humiliated was a bit ott but in that moment when I realised why it was wet it felt pretty humiliating!

It just doesn't fit the definition of humiliation though...Annoyed/repulsed etc yes but humiliated?

Screenager · 17/01/2026 21:45

Have you never had hot sweaty sex?

RobertaFirmino · 17/01/2026 21:48

Mischance · 17/01/2026 15:30

You are very easily disgusted!

When you ditch this chap, make sure you find one who does not sweat.

I believe this type of man hangs out at Pizza Express...

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