Aibu to feel humiliated by this

[Ionbroo]

So my DH had a peloton ride today. When he finished he went upstairs (very sweaty) and sat on the ensuite toilet seat to "cool down a bit", had a shower then came downstairs and sat and had his lunch. While he was eating I took some clean clothes upstairs to put away. Part way through I needed the loo so went to use the toilet. I sat down and the seat was wet. I very quickly realised I was sitting in DH's sweat! 🤮

I feel pretty disgusted by this and we ended up having a big row over it. I feel justified in being upset but not sure if I'm making a bigger thing out of it than is necessary. Not sure what I'm asking, I think I just needed to vent. I'd appreciate some perspective.

Do you have sex with this man? Have you come across his bodily fluids before?

Hiw old are you? Is this what people are talking about when they talk about millenial or Gen Z snowflakes?

I think you humiliated your DH more than the other way around.

This.

Youve had sex with him before right? Surely you’ve had his sweat on you before, and other stuff.

Yes this! How ridiculous to make such a mountain out of a molehill

LTB, ducks in a row

Why on earth would any one be “humiliated” by that?

Hmm, yes.

He probably didn’t realise just how sweaty his thighs and arse were, hence he left a wet patch………but getting so worked up and having a row when simply pointing it out and asking him to be mindful next time would suffice is just OTT.

And feeling humiliated when all you needed to do was grab a wash cloth and wash your legs and bum…….sorted!

Too easy 😂

Massive overreaction. Not particularly nice but it's a bit of sweat. Not like it was shit.

Do you know what humiliate means op? I think you are confused about the word.

I hope you're not thinking about Andrew M-W!!!!!!!!

😂

Best get over it. He was sweaty, and hadn’t covered anything in crap or anything. 🙄

No idea why you’d be humiliated. Yes I’d be annoyed and would tell him to make sure he cleaned up after himself. But there’s bigger things to worry about surely. Unless some massive drip feed is coming….

Humiliated is an odd response...maybe a bit grossed out if you're a particularly hygienic person? I mean he's your husband, not a stranger so I presume at some point you have had contact with his bodily fluids.

A question to you, Ionbroo, do you worry about the power and water you are using to be a large language AI model? You are also grabbing the entire suppy of the World's RAM which as a PC computer gamer makes me very sad.

Unless there is a huge backstory here then I think you massively overacted. If this is genuinely a big deal to you amidst all of the rest of the things going on in your life then I’ll admit to being jealous. I want your life.

Are you sure you mean humiliated. I think your DH might have felt a bit humiliated..do you never make mistakes OP?

Does he not sweat all over you at other times 🤣🙈
Wash it off, job done

Well, if this is all you have to have a ‘big row’ over then I’d say you’re winning at life.

This is perhaps the biggest none event I have seen posted about on Mumsnet in a long while. I suggest you learn the definition of ‘humiliated’, apologise to your husband for having had your emotions go rogue, tell him to wipe his sweat up next time then move on with your day.

Is this a windup? He was sweaty sat down on the loo and didn't realise he had left sweat on it. It definitely doesn't show a lack of respect, it wasn't deliberate and now you feel humiliated in front of your husband who is the sweaty party, why? Then you have an almighty row about his accidental sweat, annoying yes, row worthy, no. Is there something else going on between you? If not it all sounds a bit neurotic.

🤣

I don't understand why you said humiliated though. Did you mean another word. i would have been irritated, cross, disgusted - but not humiliated. Unless there is a back story.

Him not cleaning up after his own sweaty arse is definitely worth pulling him up about.

Did you overreact and lay into him immediately, which would BU, or did you let him know camly and politely that it was an unpleasant experience and ask him to clean up after himself in future?

If the row was a result of him overreacting to the latter, YANBU and he is a dick.