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Aibu to feel humiliated by this

114 replies

Ionbroo · 17/01/2026 15:27

So my DH had a peloton ride today. When he finished he went upstairs (very sweaty) and sat on the ensuite toilet seat to "cool down a bit", had a shower then came downstairs and sat and had his lunch. While he was eating I took some clean clothes upstairs to put away. Part way through I needed the loo so went to use the toilet. I sat down and the seat was wet. I very quickly realised I was sitting in DH's sweat! 🤮

I feel pretty disgusted by this and we ended up having a big row over it. I feel justified in being upset but not sure if I'm making a bigger thing out of it than is necessary. Not sure what I'm asking, I think I just needed to vent. I'd appreciate some perspective.

OP posts:
BunnyLake · 17/01/2026 17:03

Ionbroo · 17/01/2026 15:35

Maybe saying humiliated was a bit ott but in that moment when I realised why it was wet it felt pretty humiliating!

That’s quite a strange reaction to sweat. Yes it’s gross but it’s not piss or shit. You must have mingled with his sweat many a time before (still a bit gross but hey, that’s sex for you).

I would have just said (for fuck’s sake) clean your sweat off the seat in future, I don’t want to sit in somebody else’s rank sweat thank you very much!

Then got on with my day.

OneShyQuail · 17/01/2026 17:05

Am I the only one who wouldn't find this gross 🤣🙈 my DPs sweat doesn't bother me in the slightest and he has a sweaty job too

Miranda65 · 17/01/2026 17:06

Oh come on, OP, it's quite funny..... just make a joke of it. Why on earth would you start "a big row" about something so trivial?

Blondeshavemorefun · 17/01/2026 17:08

Was it sweat or did he pee on the seat

how do you cope with sex if he’s on top and he might drop a few beads of sweat on you

humiliated def ott !!

gross a little but not enough to have a massive row over

BunnyLake · 17/01/2026 17:09

OneShyQuail · 17/01/2026 17:05

Am I the only one who wouldn't find this gross 🤣🙈 my DPs sweat doesn't bother me in the slightest and he has a sweaty job too

If you are attracted to your partner their sweat can be quite sexy. Maybe not so much on a toilet seat lol but sweaty sexy man hmmm.

babyproblems · 17/01/2026 17:10

Why are you feeling humiliated..??
I can’t see the link tbh at all.
Im guessing you don’t have kids or there would be much more serious things to ‘have a big row’ about 😂

Growlybear83 · 17/01/2026 17:10

Why on Earth would you feel humiliated by sitting on a bit of your husband’s sweat or be disgusted by it? It’s a bit yucky of him not to have wiped the seat down, but your reaction is ridiculous. He’s your husband - have you never come into contact with his bodily fluids and excretions before?

Pancakeflipper · 17/01/2026 17:10

Humiliated?
Nah, not humiliation. But it is grim and he should have wiped it down.

honeyb3 · 17/01/2026 17:13

Try dating Prince Andrew.

Joking aside this is a bit grim but nothing to feel humiliated about. A quick ‘don’t do that again love’ would do it. Not sure it warranted a row. Chill.

MaggieBsBoat · 17/01/2026 17:14

I honestly think that the OP doesn’t know what humiliated means. Or accidentally typed the wrong word. Or she needs some serious therapy.

CoastalCalm · 17/01/2026 17:19

Offended / repulsed yep , humiliated nope

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 17/01/2026 17:21

WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 17/01/2026 15:39

a man who doesn’t sweat you say? That’s not the win you might think…

I know this is not in keeping with the seriousness of the thread......but I have creased myself laughing at this .
Obviously I clench so as not to embarrass myself !

Mlk8 · 17/01/2026 17:23

It's your husband's sweat.. he's depositted worse in you. You act like his sweat was never on your skin. You humiliated him.

Smartiepants79 · 17/01/2026 17:27

Why humiliated? Was a crowd of people watching you? Was it done in public and on purpose? It’s a bit icky but it wasn’t humiliating.

MTOandMe · 17/01/2026 17:33

OneShyQuail · 17/01/2026 17:05

Am I the only one who wouldn't find this gross 🤣🙈 my DPs sweat doesn't bother me in the slightest and he has a sweaty job too

My DP never looks sexier than when he’s worked himself up into a sweat!

PatheticDistraction · 17/01/2026 17:38

Surely he would be humiliated by the fact you brought it up? There seems to be a misunderstanding of the meaning of the word.

Seems like a non issue though

Lovelanza · 17/01/2026 17:44

LTFB

DameOfThrones · 17/01/2026 17:44

Don't be silly OP.

The sweat would well have dried up before he was even halfway through his shower.

The place gets odder and odder.

BlackCatDiscoClub · 17/01/2026 17:48

A huge row is a bit much. I'd say 'can you clean the seat off, its all sweaty and now its all over my bum!' But I wouldn't feel angry, humiliated, hurt or any of the other strong emotions!

Ponoka7 · 17/01/2026 17:48

A quick reminder to wipe the seat after himself would have been enough. I thought that this was going to be about wanking.

Sam9769 · 17/01/2026 17:49

Mischance · 17/01/2026 15:30

You are very easily disgusted!

When you ditch this chap, make sure you find one who does not sweat.

I believe Andrew's free😁

Daygloboo · 17/01/2026 17:55

Ionbroo · 17/01/2026 15:27

So my DH had a peloton ride today. When he finished he went upstairs (very sweaty) and sat on the ensuite toilet seat to "cool down a bit", had a shower then came downstairs and sat and had his lunch. While he was eating I took some clean clothes upstairs to put away. Part way through I needed the loo so went to use the toilet. I sat down and the seat was wet. I very quickly realised I was sitting in DH's sweat! 🤮

I feel pretty disgusted by this and we ended up having a big row over it. I feel justified in being upset but not sure if I'm making a bigger thing out of it than is necessary. Not sure what I'm asking, I think I just needed to vent. I'd appreciate some perspective.

You're crazy 😂

FeliciaFancybottom · 17/01/2026 17:56

Things women in literature have died from - second-hand sweaty arse.

Daygloboo · 17/01/2026 17:56

Mischance · 17/01/2026 15:30

You are very easily disgusted!

When you ditch this chap, make sure you find one who does not sweat.

Prince A ...he doesnt sweat 😂

ForTheForseeable · 17/01/2026 17:58

Is this an advert for the effectiveness of Peloton?