To think we should get the best room in a villa?

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We’re going away as a family to celebrate two birthdays: my husband’s 60th and our son’s 30th. There will be five adults: me, my husband, our two sons (30 and 28) and older son’s partner.

We’ve rented a five-bedroom holiday house. The plan is:

• One room for me and my husband
• One room for our older son and his girlfriend
• One room for our younger son
• Two smaller spare rooms

Everyone is paying an equal share, and our older son’s girlfriend organised the whole booking.

All the bedrooms are nice, but one is clearly the best (great view and a fancy bed), one is also very good, and one is more basic but has a small kitchen.

What’s the fairest way to decide who gets which room?

Indeed. I think it's more than kind of the OPs son to drag his parents along to his 30th. I wouldn't have done that in the first place!

Personally I think all the 0’s (with the exception of 20 due to 21 being a big one) are big ones, we are only going to have a maximum of 10 of them.

I'd get the two couples, each of which is celebrating a landmark birthday, to toss a coin for the best room. Not the single guy who will have plenty of room and in effect is paying less.

This is a significant 30th birthday gift trip for OP's son that his gf planned and has done all the work for. She was nice enough to invite OP and her husband along.

OP is coming off really entitled here to think she and her husband should get the nicest room. If it wasn't for gf, OP wouldn't be going at all.

She did say 'Am I unreasonable to think we should get the best room in the villa'. She hasn't actually demanded it though.
I think that if one of the rooms was less comfortable it should go to the younger couple, unless they have a particular reason to find that a problem. Simply because people in their sixties are more likely to be suffering aches and pains and experiencing poor sleep than they were 30 years ago; the fact that sixty-somethings are still working doesn't mean they aren't feeling their age! No reason that being older should mean you need, or deserve, a nicer view or a four poster bed, which seems to be the difference here.

I think if you're upset by this, maybe don't go.

From your title, I immediately assumed (incorrectly) that you & your DH were paying for the whole trip. In which case, yes you should have the best bedroom.
However, seeing as that's not the case at all, and that your son's GF actually organised it then no, you're not entitled to the best bedroom just because you're older/the parents.
Either the organiser gets it, or both of those celebrating their birthdays toss a coin for it.
Please don't try to persuade/convince the others that you deserve the room, it'll only cause underlying bad feeling and put a damper on the holiday.

Best room to the organisers.
Unless someone is paying more than the others to be in it.
eg recently my parents and siblings and I holidayed in a big air bnb, my parents paid for it all so they had the best room.

30ths are more significant now that it can be that the majority of a friend group won't have kids yet, and at 40ths, the majority of kids will still be in the "tricky to look after hungover" stage.

Or at least that would be the case in my friend group. Our 30ths came post the "big wedding wave" that occurred between 25 and 29, but before the onslaught of babies that meant everyone was too caught up in family life for a proper piss up. By the time we hit 40ths, kids will still mostly be between 5-10.

I could be wrong but I think the OP is saying if they WERE in a hotel then cost would be allocated by room, but as they are in a villa they are allocating cost by person.

I think given everything said that it's fair for the older brother and his girlfriend to have it.

Ffs NHS’s 59 turning 60, not 79 turning 80 and he’s not sleeping on a sofa bed 😂

I think they should have the room organising can be.hard work plus that way u also show your appreciation don't have to say that the holiday is about time to enjoy yourselves the views are out side so enjoy them bedrooms are not important enjoy company an sights

I also think you should show your appreciation and not cause bad feeling , it’s very kind of them to invite you, don’t then go in deciding you’re the most important and should get the best room as this is clearly a trip primarily for your sons birthday organised by his partner.

True, but a 60th is the much bigger birthday ...

is It? Are the organisers then Dittons to give the best room? I don’t think so.

Op should’ve organised and then dished out the rooms.

Why? Both don’t really signify anything different from each other - it’s just an age ending in 0.

Auto correct fail, the organisers don’t have to give them tfe best room! 🤦‍♀️

Organiser unless there's a pressing reason for others to have it - eg ground floor for someone disabled.

It's just celebrating someone special to you has been around a long time. 60 is 30 more years than 30 and if I were the son I'd want my mum to have the best room.

I think that it would be kind for your son and his girlfriend to offer up the nicest room to you and your husband.

Seems like the generous and respectful thing to do.

But clearly I'm in the minority to think that.

I thought everyone was paying equally? As I said before in my mind 60th is the bigger deal ...

I'm with you @roaring mouth :)

I think the OP and her DH paying a bit more and the single DS a bit less would be a nice thing to do.

Bit more here, bit less there......it doesn't matter (to me, anyway).

My mum and dad would be offered the best room, even if they weren't paying anything.

And I would do the same for my partner's parents too.

D'oh, I forgot about the AIBU bit!