To think we should get the best room in a villa?

[hwange]

We’re going away as a family to celebrate two birthdays: my husband’s 60th and our son’s 30th. There will be five adults: me, my husband, our two sons (30 and 28) and older son’s partner.

We’ve rented a five-bedroom holiday house. The plan is:

• One room for me and my husband
• One room for our older son and his girlfriend
• One room for our younger son
• Two smaller spare rooms

Everyone is paying an equal share, and our older son’s girlfriend organised the whole booking.

All the bedrooms are nice, but one is clearly the best (great view and a fancy bed), one is also very good, and one is more basic but has a small kitchen.

What’s the fairest way to decide who gets which room?

I think where there is a significant difference between rooms there should be more paid by someone getting the master.

I agree that organiser gers the pick of rooms. I also think it's really important you choose rooms before you get there if you can. Otherwise agree that rooms will get divided out on arrival not just claimed by whoever.

Aa a goodwill gesture I'd get ahead of this and offer to pay a larger amount and say as its DH /DF 60th it would be nice for him to get the master suite.

Organiser gets the best room. Why would you think it would be you when paying equally?

noooo! Surely the rest of you aren’t that grabby?!
youre going to make him pay the same as a couple for a shitty room?!
the one “with the kitchen”. Is it a fully separate kitchen like a small apartment, or is the bed in the kitchen?

Oh and try to be gracious about it. We stopped our holidays after c 15 years when the entitlment of my relatives got too much.

Why do you deserve the best room op?

When I saw the title of your post, I was expecting to read that you and your H were paying the full cost of the rental. Or that you were doing all of the organising.

But you are all splitting the costs and your son's GF is doing all the organising legwork, so why would you think you should have the best room? Unless it's purely because you are the parents and older, and therefore think this entitles you to it?

IMO the organiser should get the best room. If she's feeling generous she could offer to draw straws with you for it, but really you should be encouraging her and your son to take it as a thank you for doing all the sorting out.

This house sounds like it wasn’t a great choice really - too many of the wrong sort of rooms.

Thinking about it, regardless of your logic, I don’t think this is worth potentially souring what could be a nice family holiday. Your daughter in law has been very good to sort this and include everyone so maybe don’t sour the taste! We hear enough about difficult mil/dil relationships on here!

Unbelievable that the single brother is paying the same for a crappy room too 😅

Defo defo the organiser.

there should be a perk for doing all the work

Not with my friends and family! So couples get to share the cost of a room and singles pay full price alone?!

Blimey.

I was going to say ‘pull rooms out of the hat’ but now I think it should go to the Organising Couple.

Controversial (or not), should go on seniority. No way would I be bagging the best room over my parents. Just basic respect.

Well I think it’s inevitable the younger son gets a smaller room but I think he should be paying half the amount of you and your husband and his brother and his girlfriend. It doesn’t matter what he would pay in a hotel because you’re not in a hotel. I have this very scenario with a house and my husband and I are paying twice as much as my mum who is coming with us.

As to the best room if were the organiser I might offer it to my parents but if they don’t then I would suck it up. Finding these places and booking them is not an inconsequential amount of work to do.

If per person means dividing by 5 then yes, it’s reasonable for the younger son to get the smaller room - if it’s by 3 then it’s not fair.

Hotels are different, when we had a family weekend in a hotel everyone booked their own rooms.

Just sprint in there when you arrive and bagsy it first.

Why do you think you should get the best room? You’re not organising it and it’s your son’s birthday as well as your husband’s… difference is, his partner is organising it.

Organiser gets first choice obviously!

She booked it so they get the best room.

The organiser gets the best room if you’ve all paid the same. Why should you get it do you think?

In your thread title you say you think you should get the best room. Can I ask why you think this?

Without a doubt, the organiser gets the best room. It’s a lot of work to research and sort things like this, best room should automatically go to her.

Why don’t you offer to pay more if you want the nicer room?

Every individual should be paying 1/5th.

Names in a hat to get the best room, including younger son. This still means you as a couple have a 2/5 chance of getting the best room.

Your younger son should pay one fifth not one third. He is just being polite/compliant. I actually cannot believe you expect him to pay one third (more than everyone else and subsidising everyone else) AND get the shitty room. Your sense of entitlement is off the charts. If he is paying more than everyone else then he should get the best room.

Absolutely no reason why you would get the best room

Are you going to come back and tell us why you think you should get the best room op? Or are you going to ignore us because you don’t like the answers?

Organiser gets first dibs.

Yeah it’s not fair that your younger son is paying the same. Maybe if the rest of you pay for more meals out you could balance it out.

Organiser gets the best room, however if it was me I’d probably let my boyfriend’s older parents have the best room. But you should wait for them to suggest that especially as it’s an important birthday for them too.