To think we should get the best room in a villa?

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We’re going away as a family to celebrate two birthdays: my husband’s 60th and our son’s 30th. There will be five adults: me, my husband, our two sons (30 and 28) and older son’s partner.

We’ve rented a five-bedroom holiday house. The plan is:

• One room for me and my husband
• One room for our older son and his girlfriend
• One room for our younger son
• Two smaller spare rooms

Everyone is paying an equal share, and our older son’s girlfriend organised the whole booking.

All the bedrooms are nice, but one is clearly the best (great view and a fancy bed), one is also very good, and one is more basic but has a small kitchen.

What’s the fairest way to decide who gets which room?

I suppose I was speaking personally. I would give my parents the best room in recognition of everything they have done for me. I do appreciate that might not be the same for all families.

The organisers get the best room, and to be honest it sounds like the best bedroom is the most romantic. Let the younger couple have it, they'll make better use of it no doubt...

So your son's girlfriend has kindly organised a holiday to celebrate her boyfriend's 30th, handily your husband's 60th happens at a similar time so instead of being exclusive about it she's now organised a holiday for her boyfriend's whole family for the double celebration. Lovely!

Presumably she'd not have arranged a holiday for her boyfriend's dad's 60th if they weren't happening around the same time. So how kind of them to include you all and widen the birthday celebrations!

Why would anyone except them get the best bedroom? You could organise a joint 70th/40th and have the best bedroom then?

But the person booking it is not going with THEIR parents. The OP hasn't done everything for the GF. I think the OP should concede the best room to the GF in recognition of everything that she has done for them, in booking this trip

To me it's always the most senior couple who get the best room. Or first choice.
So if your parents were coming, I'd hope they'd get it. Then you'd get second best etc.

As it stands you and husband, then second eldest, then younger ones. That would be how my family would do it.

Obviously with the caveat that whichever younger one has a partner has a double room where possible.

I think organiser should get first choice of which room they want. I always organise trips and it's far more time and effort than most non-organising people realise.

I wouldn't necesarily take the best room for myself though, it would depend who I was travelling with, what their needs were.

But in your case, all adults, I think the gf should probably get the nicest room.

It doesn't mean she'll take it though.

DH and i would expect the best room, but we’d be paying for everyone else’s holiday though!
If you're all paying individually, organiser has first dibs.

Sure but the organisers parents are not coming,

Yes organiser gets the best room and since it’s your son and it’s his 30th, it’d be the nicest thing to do anyway!

This is a good point, if I was taking my partner away for his 30th, doing all the organising, and then kindly invited his parents, who were just fronting up and not contributing, then I’d want the lovely bedroom as part of the birthday gift to my partner, not give it to his parents, the ops asking a lot.

Your son and his gf should get the best room. I'm a bit confused about why you think you deserve it.

I'm surprised you, as parents, are not footing the bill, tbh. Hell would freeze over before my dad let my brother and me pay equal shares in this case, especially if it's one of our birthdays. It's a point of pride for him.

He'd pay, and then get the best room automatically, due to paying and seniority. If everyone pays equally, then the organiser gets the best room, obviously.

Poor girlfriend. She's going to spend her boyfriend's 30th with his parents, in an inferior room, paying an equal share, and after organising everything herself. Jeez.

This too! OP is so selfish and entitled. No way should she get the good room.

Organiser should get the best room and your youngest DS sounds more than R to be paying the same as the couples.

I think 50 trumps 40.

40 used to be the big birthday when I was younger but I agree 50 is a big one.

I have absolutely no idea why people on here seem to think 30 is significant in any way though.

Personally, I'd be surprised that your boys didn't want their parents to have it as they're celebrating a 60th birthday.

The son is celebrating his 30th birthday.

Organiser or names in a hat

The Op simply asked: 'What’s the fairest way to decide who gets which room?'. She didn't demand anything. Maybe the organiser should have considered rooms of equal appeal if they want to split 5 ways.

The title does say she thinks she should get it.

How bad are the less good rooms? I wouldn't be wanting to make too much fuss about this.

Read the title!

No she didn’t! She thinks she should get the best room!

The person organising should definitely get the best room.