To think we should get the best room in a villa?

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We’re going away as a family to celebrate two birthdays: my husband’s 60th and our son’s 30th. There will be five adults: me, my husband, our two sons (30 and 28) and older son’s partner.

We’ve rented a five-bedroom holiday house. The plan is:

• One room for me and my husband
• One room for our older son and his girlfriend
• One room for our younger son
• Two smaller spare rooms

Everyone is paying an equal share, and our older son’s girlfriend organised the whole booking.

All the bedrooms are nice, but one is clearly the best (great view and a fancy bed), one is also very good, and one is more basic but has a small kitchen.

What’s the fairest way to decide who gets which room?

Sorry but if you are all paying equal shares then the organiser gets the best room. Don't underestimate how much of her time will have gone into finding, agreeing and sorting it. Personally I would then give it up to parents but she should be offered it first.

If the older sons gf organised then they should get first dibs imo

The organiser gets the best room if everyone is paying the same.

I would draw it out of a hat, it’s the only fair way. If you’re all paying an equal share then why would you get it? I could get behind the organiser having this nicest room I guess but otherwise I’d do it fairly.

Older son with girlfriend who organized it.

If everyone is paying an equal share then draw straws or rock paper scissors. Or the organizer picks their room.

Or weight the cost against the rooms.

Why do you think you should have the nicest room if you’re neither organizing or funding the trip.

The organiser gets dibs

Organiser gets best room.

curious as to why you think it should be yours ?

Offer to pay more if you want the best room?

Why should you be entiteled? You pay " an equal share, and our older son’s girlfriend organised the whole booking".

Tbh I think it goes to the girlfriend for doing the admin.

Son’s gf for organising

Definitely older son’s gf who seems to be doing all the leg work. How does your younger son feel about paying the same share, but getting the shit room?

I would offer it to the older couple if I was organising in this situation but I’d want that to be appreciated as a generous gesture not demanded or taken for granted!

Organiser gets first dibs.

Older son and GF get best room

If all paying equally then the best room goes to the organiser.

The organiser has first choice, especially since the villa cost is being split between you all.

When you say "evenly" - by person or by room? Is the single brother going to get stuck with the basic room but paying more on a per person basis than the people staying in the nicer rooms?

The organiser but if were me I would offer it to my parents.

Obviously the older son and his girlfriend get the best room. She organised it. Why on earth would you think otherwise?

He actually said that’s fair enough, because he is getting his own room. If we were staying in a hotel, his room would cost more because you’d split the cost per room not per person.

Obviously organiser gets first dibs then draw lots for the other 2

What’s your argument as to why you should get it? I assumed you were going to say that you’re paying more. Given that you’re splitting it equally (I assume that means 5 ways), the organiser should get the best room, as recognition that they’ve put more resources in to this holiday than anyone else.

Yes. This is my first question.

assuming it’s cost/5 then the choice is you or your son and your son wins for doing the work (well his girlfriend anyway)

if it’s cost/3 for each unit then everyone should have a chance at the good rooms

I organised a large family holiday annual for years for my extended family. Its an absolute ball ache.
Its also her bf (your son's) birthday.
They get the best room.

I can't imagine leaving someone else to do all the research and legwork then bagging the best room for myself. It would be far fairer to suggest DS1 and GF have it unless they don't care and offer it to you.

What doesn't sound fair is the bill being split equally and DS2 getting an inferior, "more basic", room (what's that about a small kitchen, not seen that in a holiday villa?). If the rooms are that different then is fair to divide the contributions so evenly?