To think we should get the best room in a villa?

[hwange]

We’re going away as a family to celebrate two birthdays: my husband’s 60th and our son’s 30th. There will be five adults: me, my husband, our two sons (30 and 28) and older son’s partner.

We’ve rented a five-bedroom holiday house. The plan is:

• One room for me and my husband
• One room for our older son and his girlfriend
• One room for our younger son
• Two smaller spare rooms

Everyone is paying an equal share, and our older son’s girlfriend organised the whole booking.

All the bedrooms are nice, but one is clearly the best (great view and a fancy bed), one is also very good, and one is more basic but has a small kitchen.

What’s the fairest way to decide who gets which room?

OP - why do you think you deserve the best room? If you were all to sit in front of a judge and put your case forward why you deserve the best room, what would be your case?

The subtext to this seems to be that you think because you're the oldest, its like a respect thing or something.

I don’t think this thread is going the way the OP expected… 🤭

In this situation I’d let the organiser decide. But if you were my parents I’d give you the best room. But if I were you I’d give my son and gf the room!

In your position, since the GF was the organiser, it would be a nice gesture to assume that she plus the older son get the better bedroom.

However, if I were the GF, I would probably assume that you would get the better bedroom, regardless of having organised.

But that’s me, I don’t care greatly about which bedroom I get, and I prefer opting for being nice.

The younger son is paying the same to celebrate your birthdays? He definitely seems to be the one getting the shitty end of this deal!

I'm really interested to know why you think you should get the best room. You're not paying for everyone and you didn't organise it (both of which would be good reasons imo). So come on, let's hear why you think you deserve the best room.

Why should you get the best room??

Why would you expect to get the best room? You’re all adults, it’s a big birthday for two people. Im not sure why you’d feel you’re more entitled to it than the person who has organised everything…

What exactly is your reasoning for thinking you are more important than anyone else on this trip and should be given the best room?

It would be a different story if you were paying a bigger chunk to cover part of eveyone else’s fee as a kind gesture but you’re not.

You are just an equal person who’s paid their equal share, the same as everyone else. And don’t tell me age gives you priority either.

Think the organiser should get it. If it were me organising, I’d then offer it to the person whose birthday it is x

If the younger son is paying 1/3 then he should get the best room as he is subsidising the rest of you!

Or if he's paying 1/5 then the older son and his gf should get first refusal on the best room as she's done all the organising.

Why would get the best room?
Unless there are other circumstances at play, it's the person who organises everything that gets first pick.

It's the organizers bf's birthday too!

If it was a trip for just your DH’s 60th I’d say birthday boy gets the good room. Ditto if you’d organised it or were paying for it. But as it’s your son’s celebration too and his gf has done all the legwork, then no, best room is def theirs.

Younger son should pay 1/5, not 1/3

Why do you think you should have the best room @hwange ? What’s your thinking?

I agree the organiser always gets the best room in this situation.

Could you not have found somewhere of a similar price with three nice bedrooms - rather than one nice one, two meh ones and two that just go to waste apart from storing a few empty suitcases?

Oh, looks like the youngest is paying 1/3 not 1/5? Then he gets the best room. Ridiculous way to split the cost.

I think you should be paying the full cost, and also getting the best room. Unless there’s some backstory where your kids are much wealthier than you (unlikely). I can’t believe your single son is paying the same as a couple, wtf.

I agree with this. Son’s girlfriend should get first pick. In her position, I would definitely offer to parents. But if I was the one of the parents, I’d probably say ‘nah, you have it’. It’d be like Mrs Doyle and her friend scrapping over who was paying for tea and cake in Father Ted🤣

Why should you get the best room? You're 60, not 80!

Do you mean equally by couple, room or person…? it’s not clear. If all 5 adults are paying the same each (my guess from your update re son with his own room) then I’d go with the organiser gets to choose her room first.

If it were my family then my DPs would offer to pay the whole lot as a treat for the whole family (and would obviously also then get the best room - but they would have organised it all as well). But obviously that's not possible/sensible for everyone.

Why do you think that you should get the best room?

They're your sons. It's your husband's 60th birthday. Someone else organised it.

When we go away as a family @hwange we always have the best room. The difference is, we pay.

If you want to nickle and dime over costs and rooms to this extent, I assume you will be happy for this to be the last family holiday.

So wrong on so many levels.

YABU.

Why would it make a difference if they were 80 rather than 60?