Learning to drive is my husband bu

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Early 30s and learning to drive have weekly lessons my driving instructor had suggested I try practice driving during the week with out him if I can. My husband is refusing saying he won’t take me out as he doesn’t feel comfortable. I have no one else who could either. I am on the insurance for the car and I paid the deposit for it if that makes any difference. Today we had a 3 minute journey from our house to pick our toddler up and I suggested I drive there but he said no. I’ve had a lessons for a while now and just waiting for my theory test before we can look at me being ready to book my actual test. I couldn’t get a date for theory for a while. I’m desperate to get some more driving in but actual lessons are so expensive and I really just want to be able to practice driving with out being told go left go right etc I just want to be able to practicing driving myself to say the supermarket with someone sat with me in the car. I find 6 days between lessons a very long gap but can’t afford any more and husband can’t take any more time off to allow me to have lessons he goes in an hour late to work on a certain day.

@JudgeJ True. We went to a local school car park at the weekends, it was also a good place to practice reversing and getting between the lines in parking spots. We all need to get into tight spots sometimes!

As for parallel parking…I live in a city and have seen some atrocious parking attempts outside my house. That takes practice too, although much easier now with sensors and cameras.

I think your H is being unkind. 3 minutes? Can’t even give you 3 fucking minutes? I bet if it was the other way round you’d help him and give 3 minutes of your time. He’s being an arse.

Oh read the thread for goodness sake.

It's not about the 3 minutes

It's about not feeling comfortable supervising an inexperienced driver on the roads, with no dual controls.

If the license holder is not comfortable then no its not a good idea, they will transfer their nerviousness to the driver - who will then feel it and it will effect them and its becomes a circle where it ends in a huge row and possibily worse.

And you’re an idiot

While learning to drive I only had lessons from the instructor apart from once with my dad and 2 with my sister which were slightly a bit fraught.
My mum would have been a disaster too high strung. I passed 1st time much to her astonishment.

Mine made me drive everywhere when I was learning. I agree with a pp about having the right temperament for it though, my dh was very good but still there was times I threatened to pull over and get out! It was lot more stressful than being with my instructor!

My husband took me aout when I was learning. Oh, the rows we had, the tantrums, the atmosphere. I hated it! Also, a PP is right about bad habits and your husband can easily undo all the standards you learnt with your instructor. I would not be able to teach someone to drive first I don't know how the passing standards are now second I would shit myself. Don't do it, OP, he has a reason why he won't do it. The instructor should have the confidence he could teach you, is a bit of red flag if he tells you to exercise with someone else.

Not straightforward. I always thought I'd be really chilled and take my DD for lots of driving practice. In reality i was hopeless, absolutely terrified and hated every minute. She passed her test at 17, first try so the problem was me. If your husband can't, can you find a calm friend?

I can get that he doesn’t know how competent you are and may worry about an accident. Would driving on an empty car park be ok? At least you could practice parking.