Called an ugly cow by a child

[Happilyobtuse]

Dd is 9, a boy in her class insulted me and told her I was an ugly cow. She cried as she was so upset at him saying hurtful things about me. She told me in the evening and I had a laugh because he is a very very ugly looking child! And I am a good looking fit woman who has modelled previously. I am asian though so I think he was singling me out as I am obviously different from others. His own mother is very fat and much much bigger than me. I have told Dd to tell him with a face like yours I wouldn’t go around insulting others! And if he continues, to tell her class teacher. Is there anything else I should be doing?

Yeah, my advice would be tread carefully with getting your own back. a boy told my DS how ugly I was. So DS retorted that his mother was so ugly his dad had left her. Which was true. The leaving bit, anyway. So even though DS was the first scorned, he ended up in a heap of trouble with his teacher.

Kids often say rude things. Don’t take it to heart.

I would tell my child not to react at all and they will soon get bored but would give the school the heads up so that they can address with the other child./ whole class about being kind and respectful and working on resilience at school and at home. Kids shouldn't be saying hurtful things to upset other kids but they will.

Although the advice I would give would fall on deaf ears with my own child who loves a roast battle if someone else is up for one. (10 Yr old with a very dry sense of humour and quick wit - both a blessing and a curse)

His own mother is very fat and much much bigger than me

Well he called you ugly not fat so I’m not sure why his mothers weight is remotely relevant.

Do you think fat people are automatically ugly?

No there's nothing else you should be doing

Pretty unpleasant all round:
A child who thinks it ok to insult OP's appearance.
An OP who thinks it's ok to describe a child as ugly and his mother as fat.

I think both could do with some lessons in acceptable behaviour.

Sorry but with being called a cow I assumed he meant fat as cows are hardly shapely?! Also in this case it is true. She has turkey teeth, botoxed lips, fake orange tan and is obese. If she had stayed natural she probably would have looked ok.

Well thank goodness you’re better looking than a 9yo and not, horror of horrors, big. 🙄

I wouldn’t encourage your child to get into an insult competition, tell her teacher if she’s upset but why engage otherwise.

And I am a good looking fit woman who has modelled previously.

This actually shows that you HAVE taken the words of a 9 year old child to heart, otherwise you wouldn't be checking it and squaring it with yourself.

And of course you wouldn't be comparing your looks to him or his mother.

Try not to because while you're up at nearly midnight, fretting and posting about this on the internet, he'll be tucked up in bed fast asleep.

Guarantee he won't be thinking about his words.

You told your child to make disgraceful physical comments back to him/his family?

Surely not. You can't be that bad a person.

Well I was trying to give context to strangers on the internet. I have often seen people reply, oh maybe there is some truth to what was said etc.

Sorry, someone was nasty and I was asking about how to handle it and you are attacking me instead. I am only stating facts.

People piling on because you dared to say you are good looking 😂 @Happilyobtuse yhat child sounds horrible, don’t stoop to his level by telling your dd to insult back though!!! It’s not very nice ( although I can see the temptation) we must be good role models 😆. I would say something to the teacher though

I don't know if there is any truth in what the 9 year old said about you.

But you shouldn't let it worry you to this extent, or even at all.

It would illicit no more than an eye-roll and 'cheeky git' from the majority of confident adults I know.

No idea why you are supporting his mum?! She brought her child up to go around insulting other adults and you think she is someone to get praise?! What a world we live in!

You are being nasty about this woman and her son's appearance. If she was beautiful and her son handsome, how would it change anything?

I am upset that my daughter was upset and crying. His comments don’t bother me. I don’t know how to make her more resilient. She was told she looked like a muslim last week by a classmate. We are not muslims and as far as I am aware one cannot look like a religion! Hence you can get why I am frustrated with these kids!

What on earth have I just read?!😂😂

Kids say all sorts.Teach your child to be resilient yes, but there are ways of doing this .Unfortunately you are doing it the wrong way.

Well he started it! And I am only stating facts. You know how they say, people in glass houses should not throw stones! 🤣😂

You could maybe have a word with the class teacher?

This cannot be real

Is this a troll post, surely OP isn't upset a 9 year old called her ugly cow?

No you are belittling someone else's looks in a very vitriolic fashion. I am not attacking you, I am observing the fact that your comments are unpleasant and revolting. If you can't see that what you said about her is disgusting then you have no moral compass.