To want to leave my partner over a chocolate cake

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Been with my partner 3 years. The relationship has been fine and we have been genuinely in love. Lived together 2 years.

I’m unexpectedly pregnant, 7 weeks. Partner was terrified at first but has come round to it and says he is looking forward to parenthood but there have been repeated instances of unpleasant and lazy behaviour from him.

I work Monday to Friday 9-6. It’s been shit as I’m exhausted with this pregnancy but life doesn’t stop when you’re pregnant so I’m pushing through it even though it is shit. His work is having a quiet spell at the moment which means he’s only working around 20 hours a week but getting full pay (he’s on a 45 hour contract.) Cooking is all left to me as it “stresses him out” and occasions where I’ve begged him to cook as I’m exhausted and feel sick I have been met with weaponised incompetence, magically forgetting how to make meals he used to make all the time before I moved in. Even household stuff such as folding clothes after they’ve been washed, he will fold them in such a ridiculous manner that I genuinely wonder how the fuck he’s managed to fold it in that shape and then I have to do it all again myself.

I have snapped today. On Saturday I visited my parents who live in another city 2 train rides away. In the city where I changed trains I had an hour to kill. There is a viral slice of chocolate cake (I know…) on Instagram that has been my pregnancy craving, and they had a store in this particular city. They do online orders too but I can never get one as they sell out. I decided to go and treat myself to one. Keep in mind this is a HUGE slice of cake and is essentially a full-size cake just in the shape of a slice.

I had a tiny bit of it (literally one spoon worth) at my parents Saturday evening but it made me feel sick so I put it away. Partner picked me up in the evening and I went straight to bed as I was knackered, cake was left in the fridge.

I was in bed until 1pm today due the pregnancy fatigue, woke up craving the cake. I go down to find he’s eaten the entire thing.

I snapped a bit and stated he knew I’d been craving it. I explained I didn’t mind him having some as it’s huge but to eat all of it was horrible of him. He’s telling me I’m hormonal and need to get over myself but it feels malicious. His excuse was that he was hungry because I didn’t cook last night and didn’t make breakfast this morning. I’m so fucking annoyed at him

This! Sounds like the cake was massive and way too much for one person. Disgusting gluttony. Must have felt proper sick after that

To be honest, if he'd actually Thrown it away it would be a sign he's a spiteful shit.

Hopefully he's constipated or ended up shitting himself at work

Hey there OP, It's Eve from Get Baked.

We'd love to send you some free products to make up for whats happened here.

Let us know the best way of doing so.

Thanks,
Eve

This is so kind! 🍰

Awww 🥺

Ha, I knew you'd pop up eventually! I'm going to guess you didn't expect it to turn out quite like this. 😂

What does this mean?

I think there’s a suspicion that the entire thread was a GetBaked marketing ploy. Note the OP hasn’t been back.

Surely not? Faking emotional DV against a pregnant woman isn't a great social media tactic?

How did you find out about this thread?

Another voice saying please reconsider a pregnancy with this person as the father. You will be tied to him FOR LIFE if you go ahead.
I really, really would consider termination. And it is not the cake it is the whole attitude to you and your needs

How the F can a grown man not make his own dinner and breakfast if you are not there? Do you want two babies to care for??

That could have been sent as a private message. The OP hasn’t even been back to the thread… so it’s probably a bullshit marketing ploy.

This all feels very weird now.

I was thinking of OP last night (and all the woman who find themselves unappreciated) and to think it was made up to try and sell £20(??!) slices of cake is very disheartening.

It is in shockingly bad taste if it is a marketing ploy.

I think I know which famous cake slice and all I can say is LTB.

On a more serious note, his behaviour in general is shit and I’d consider whether you want to be tethered to this man child for the rest of your life

Hi there.

This is absolutely not a marketing ploy. I have never used Mumsnet before so did not know I could PM. Thank you for letting me know, I will do so now.

Thanks,
Eve

This 100%

I never understand posters who start a thread and don't return to respond to the replies. Why start it then? I can understand why some people suspect it was a marketing ploy. It's such weird behaviour otherwise.

Funny thing is, it almost worked! I’d forgotten about those cakes and since it’s mine and my partner’s anniversary this weekend, I actually thought that I’d order one as a treat. But then you posted and seeing you come onto the thread publicly and do this has changed my mind. I won’t be ordering. It’s either all made up as a marketing ploy, which is a really bad move or you’ve seen a woman in a horrible relationship and decided to try and use her situation to get yourself some publicity and sales. If you wanted to do something nice for her, you should have done it quietly and privately and let the OP post about it if she wanted to. But using her situation to get yourself name out there… nope. I won’t be ordering the cake now.

Yeah it’s left a bad taste in my mouth too. @GetBakedEve how did you hear about this thread?

If you have never used Mumsnet before how did you find out about this thread?

This is very unpleasant.

I’d be leaving him because he’s a selfish lazy bastard, the cake is the final straw.

We were sent it by multiple followers and wanted to help out where possible.

There is no intention to use during marketing. I am not a mum myself so didn't know PM was possible.

I have now reached out to OP personally. Thank you for pointing out the error.

But your user name itself means you are marketing just by replying on the thread!

It's cynical and unpleasant and you are using a distressed woman to make your company look good.

Leave her alone ffs. She didn't mention which company made the cake did she? So neither should you.

Edited to add, I've reported your first comment as being spam/advertising.

Wow, people are really cnuts sometimes. So what if get baked thought they would get a bit of free publicity. They are also offering free cake. Stop being snarky gits about it and let the woman have her free cake FFS.