To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

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DD (11) had two friends for a sleepover last night. About 9pm I walked into the kitchen to find them playing some 'game' where one of them was trying to make the other two laugh when their mouths were full of water. The girls were holding soup bowls and spitting the water into them, except they were obviously missing the bowls and there was spat-out water on my kitchen floor. I asked them to stop and to clean up the mess they made.

When i returned to the kitchen they were still playing the game, with the manky water still on the floor so I asked them to stop again. I have a mirror in the kitchen and saw the two other girls rolling their eyes behind my back and trying not to snigger. At that point I told them it was time for them to go home, so I called their parents to collect them. One parent was pretty apologetic, the other was less than impressed and was pretty snippy with me.

DD still isn't speaking to me for sending her pals away but I was pissed off with the lack of respect from them. AIBU?

I’m not surprised that parent was snippy, I’d be fucking livid if you demanded I come and collect my child at 9pm because you threw a tantrum over some spilt water, were slow to obey and shock horror rolled their sodding eyes! OP, you should be mortified at your behaviour….

Over-reaction 100 fold. You could have just supervised the clean-up. They were kids being a bit silly, but not hurting anything. Well done for making your child's friends hate being at your house - how to help your kids be unpopular 101!

Sleepovers can just be really exciting and fun and kids act unusually silly during them.

Carrying on, after being told to stop and clean up, justifies being sent home to me.

To me, being sent home is pretty serious. Some kids may get into serious trouble by their parents for that, so for that reason alone, it would need to be super bad for me to pull the rip cord.

Your house, your rules.

They're just 11 year olds being silly and having a great time. I feel really sorry for your dd that you went in so hard.

I dont think you overreacted. You told them to stop a few times. The eye rolling was disrespectful. I could never imagine doing that to a friends mother at that age. Not on.

I'd be more annoyed with my child for not doing as they were told in some one else's house.

Doesn't matter what the game was, they were asked to stop & clean up.

Gosh did you never have sleepovers as a kid OP? I remember getting shouts at a fair few times 😆 rather than jumping to chucking them out you should have just told them off? At least you probably won’t have this problem again…

Have any of you read OP? She told them to stop it and clean up. They didn't and were disrespectful. They had to take the consequences and if they have another sleepover they'll know that OP means what she says. It's no surprise that some children turn into such badly behaved teenagers when so many on here say OP is BU.

Also, I'll bet my house on the fact there is not one single person on this thread, who didn't eye-roll behind an adult's back when they were growing up.

Only difference here is that they were caught out by a mirror.

"Errrrm Felicity, I did SEE that eye-roll you know. Don't be so rude!"

That's how you deal with it.

Not "Right, get out of my house you two, the sleepover is cancelled and I'm phoning your parents".

A hundred million times this!

No, I wouldn't have sent them home. I would have insisted again that they stopped and cleaned it up, and hung around to make sure they did. Then perhaps told them to go and play in a different room.

You were not BU, you were setting your standards. You could offer another sleepover soon and I think you'll find that they will behave better. Stick to your guns.

And the eye rolling ? Rude and disrespectful to their hosts’ parent and likely to lead DD down that road. I’d have sent them home too.

My son would never talk to me again if I embarrassed him like that!
All absolutely fine to ask them to stop and clean up but if I'm honest, I probably would have put a big towel on the floor and told them if they wanted to carry on, then they needed to do it where the towel was.
You need to pick your battles with pre-teens and I think this one was a massive over reaction.
I wouldn't have been off with you as a parent but I would have thought it was a bizarre response to some water and eye rolling.
I hope the girls don't give your daughter grief for it.

You’d let kids spit on your floor for fun? Jesus.

DD is 9 and her friends don’t act like that, absolutely disgusting behaviour. As for the eye rolling- cheeky, little shits. No wonder kids these days are the way they are.

That's very rude and for them to do his in your own home and not have been apologetic and tried to make amends is poor behaviour. Bad influence on your daughter too.

Exactly what I would have done!
OP, it was a bit of harmless fun. It was minimum inconvenience to you and you have now created an uncomfortable situation for your daughter. Well done!

The eyerolling was behind your back had it been to your face it would have been rude, but it wasn't. They didnt know you were peeking in the mirror.
Your poor DD - why, oh why would you do this to her??

I don't think you were being harsh, OP. I am really stunned you're getting such flack for doing basic parenting. The poor judgement involved in starting the 'game' is one thing, but disobeying your instruction to stop and rolling their eyes is another. It's rude and disrespectful. I would have sent them home too. And they wouldn't be invited back.

The eye rolling was disrespectful.
The not doing what you reasonably asked was disrespectful.
Yes, send them home, then they might listen to what you say next time. And you nipped it in the bud.

Your poor dd. How embarrassing for her. No wonder she's pissed off at you.

It's a funny challenge game. It's all over tiktok and Instagram. Sometimes they use a wrap to slap the other around the face to try make them laugh.

You have literally chucked kids out because they were trying to make each other laugh. They weren't smashing things or setting fire to your curtains. And a few mouthfuls of water isn't exactly going to flood your kitchen, is it?

At least you won't ever have to worry about any children having fun in your house again. And your dd will probably have the piss taken out of her at school.

"An uncomfortable situation for your daughter"

oh give over!! She's 11!

You gave them a second chance, they made it clear that they had no respect for your boundaries in your own house. You're the adult - they don't make the rules in your house.