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Parents want to take grandchildren away

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Olive72 · 10/01/2026 13:05

My parents live abroad for several months a year. We visit them every summer and they are back in UK a lot too. We are close as a family and they are very involved with my DC. This included 5 days a week 8-4 free childcare before DC started school and drop off and picks ups every day since. They didn’t start living abroad until youngest started school and always come back if we need them to have the kids.
We are planning to go over again in the summer and they have asked if they can fly home and pick up the kids 2 weeks before that and have them until we get there. I have said No but feel I may be being unreasonable. Opinions would be very much welcomed

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Superscientist · 10/01/2026 18:53

titchy · 10/01/2026 16:58

Alternatively OP could look forward to the fact that they’ll all be there together for two weeks in the summer (in addition to pretty much every school day between now and then and a few random weekends), not discuss/debate/converse about the matter any further. And perhaps look to fill the void in her life some other way - because in a few years time her gcs will be teenagers, won’t need picking up from school and will probably want to be doing other things than regularly seeing them.

Then they can say that. They might be sat there stewing that they only ever want to see them on holiday and never offer help. Life, generally, I find is easier by talking to people rather than making assumptions about what they want and what they mean by things

titchy · 10/01/2026 19:21

Superscientist · 10/01/2026 18:53

Then they can say that. They might be sat there stewing that they only ever want to see them on holiday and never offer help. Life, generally, I find is easier by talking to people rather than making assumptions about what they want and what they mean by things

Have you read how much OP actually helps?! She seems to look after them more than their parents!

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