Nursery teachers snarky comment

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I’m livid, wondering whether to bring it up or just leave it if I’m overreacting.

DD is 2 yrs 9 month old, and just started nursery today. She’ll go 2 days per week, 7.30am-6.30pm.

I work two jobs (one evening and one Saturday per week), as I am studying 30 hours per week for my BA in English, which I do on my childcare days, in nap times, and every free evening I have. So, I could really use every minute of help I can get.

I dropped DD off at 8.30am no problems. When I go to pick her up, I get there at 6.20pm. I see I have two missed calls from the nursery. I ask why they called, worried, and the manager laughed and said “because we want to go home.” I was confused, and said “oh, I’m so sorry, I thought pick up was before 6.30?” And she pulled a face and said “yes, but it’s Friday and your daughter is the last one here, and she has been waiting and asking for you and wondering why she is the only one”

All of the staff had their hats and coats on waiting by the door when I arrived. DD was also sat by the door with her hat and coat on looking out the window waiting for me. it’s made me feel like the worst mum, and extremely embarrassed as I felt like the staff were all looking at and judging me. My daughter loved her first day, seems very happy there, but I don’t know whether to say something to the manager about it?

I understand it’s Friday and of course the staff want to go home, but I didn’t initially want Fridays, but they made me pick that day since it was quieter and we’re only part time, to make room for more full time children on the other days .

i don’t know what I’d say, and I don’t know if mum guilt at leaving my daughter there last is making me more sensitive, but now I’m anxious to leave her there until 6.20, even though I could really use it since I’m constantly playing catch up with my university work because I’m forever lagging behind due to not being able to afford enough childcare.

am I being sensitive? Should I say something? If so, what?

I certainly hope you didn’t raise your children to be as spiteful and rude as you are.

You said you did OU, did you actually try to do any studying when your kids were awake? We live in a flat as that’s where my office is the living room, play room, and dining room. There is nothing actually going in my brain when she is awake and in the room with me. She naps for an hour maximum, which I use for chores, because i would rather her go to childcare for 2 days so I can spend the other 4 days with her completely present and do fun things together, so her earliest memories are not “mummy was always stressed and on her laptop”. I’m not going to argue with you over what I do and do not have time for, nor my reasons for her childcare hours or why she is in it. That’s not at all what my original post was about and isn’t something I feel guilty about. And besides, It’s soooo strange that you keep insisting you know my schedule and how to fix it and what I’m capable of better than myself

We’ve just got to laugh these off! I have a feeling that some people on here are doing it on purpose because some of the things they’re saying are so ridiculous

you nrec to speak to the owner

how the fuck on her first day dwould you even think they get off early just because

ridiculous

this is also the other part of it!

Yes, they also seem unaware that if they post on a forum anyone can respond 🤣 They must lead quite sad lives if this is how they get their entertainment!

Hope your assignment goes well and you have a lovely weekend.

need . sorry

Thank you !!! Honestly, such a silly post. Though I feel bad for poor Bandit because they clearly have a lot going on and they need unnecessarily shit on other mums, completely irrelevant to my original post, to make themselves feel better 😢

Completely agree! Thank you, on track to finish Sunday after some more done this evening. I hope you have a lovely weekend too!

Picking up at 6:20 is fine. Don't pick up at 6:30 though as you won't get a handover because by the time they've done that it will be after 6:30.
We used to get the last two or three children ready to go at about 10 minutes before closing but we'd sit and read a book with them not just leave them standing there.
Your DD was probably upset at being last to be picked up but someone has to be last and I doubt they made her feel you weren't coming.
Speak to the manager, get her to clarify the hours and then say you are busy but will always pick your daughter up before closing time. Ask about Thursday but with their attitude they'll probably call you on Thursday too. Maybe give it a couple of weeks and see if they stop being ridiculous about pick up time but if it carries on I'd look for a different setting.
It's really too bad if the staff want to leave early, they are paid until 6:30 so tough.

That’s not helpful. Well done you if you never had to, but some people require their children to be in childcare for those sort of hours. Of course everyone would prefer not to but with working/ study hours and commutes either side, it’s not an option not to have their children in childcare for that length of time.

Definitely agree, I’ll always do early so I can see how her day went. I think I’ll do that, I’ll give it a chance since maybe as it was the first day they thought I’d show up at 6.30, and wanted to clarify, and maybe they made a poor joke. Let’s see!

That’s a ridiculously long day for a child to be in childcare. You say you need it due to work and studying but if that was me, I would have deferred my studies until my child is school age in this situation as it’s not fair on her. She will also be picking up constant bugs for the foreseeable and will probably have to skip a lot of days anyway which will make keeping up with your studies very difficult.

What absolute twaddle. My DD and most of her peers did 7.30-6 4 or 5 days a week in nursery and they do the same in school. It’s a perfectly standard amount of childcare for working families.

Tell me you didn’t understand the original post without telling me you didn’t understand it. Anddddd…. Go 🎙️🎤

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Going by the posts above by two posters you'll get a serve for that comment... 😂

Twaddle is a perfect word for that. I’m not sure why some are trying so hard to make me feel guilty about university it’s so odd

Going by your own post above @FancyCatSlave , I dont think it’s so standard to have kids in childcare for such long hours. Otherwise the staff wouldn’t have made such a big thing of it. I question why have kids if you’re going to outsource their care for the majority of their waking hours.

You sound like a very sad, unhappy person TJk. I’m wondering if you maybe need to talk to someone professionally trained to deal with it, rather than projecting onto mums net? Thinking of you ❤️🤗

Why not find another nursery and say what happened as a way of pointing out that this kind of behaviour will not be tolerated by you..If the new nursery backs you up snd agrees it was dreadful behaviour then maybe that would be a good place to go instead. I think the nursery staff doing whst they did was appalling. It shows a complete lack ofcdedication, care or professionalism. If you grt away from there perhaps you should call them out publicly.

Look, if you’re happy with your life choices then just continue doing what you’re doing and ignore the comments from nursery. The fact that you started to is thread and keep saying you felt guilty and like “the worst mum” makes me think that maybe deep down you know now is not the right time to do your studies if it means your daughter has to spend so much time at childcare.

It’s not at all that I felt guilty about university. It was about them making me feel like the worst mum and their comments, and I was wondering if I was being overly sensitive at their behaviour or if I was right in being furious about it

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I was thinking about speaking with our last childminder and seeing what she thinks about it! She lives round the corner and we bump into each other often. It’s a good idea to bring it up to other nurseries, as if this happens again I can’t see us lasting long here

I'd be furious. Do they understand that they are being paid - by you and / or the government- to be open? Do they know that working generally means doing your job rather than fannying off to the pub just cos it's Friday? Do they know what a contract is?

Complete fucking pisstake.