Nursery teachers snarky comment

[CheekyTealFawn]

I’m livid, wondering whether to bring it up or just leave it if I’m overreacting.

DD is 2 yrs 9 month old, and just started nursery today. She’ll go 2 days per week, 7.30am-6.30pm.

I work two jobs (one evening and one Saturday per week), as I am studying 30 hours per week for my BA in English, which I do on my childcare days, in nap times, and every free evening I have. So, I could really use every minute of help I can get.

I dropped DD off at 8.30am no problems. When I go to pick her up, I get there at 6.20pm. I see I have two missed calls from the nursery. I ask why they called, worried, and the manager laughed and said “because we want to go home.” I was confused, and said “oh, I’m so sorry, I thought pick up was before 6.30?” And she pulled a face and said “yes, but it’s Friday and your daughter is the last one here, and she has been waiting and asking for you and wondering why she is the only one”

All of the staff had their hats and coats on waiting by the door when I arrived. DD was also sat by the door with her hat and coat on looking out the window waiting for me. it’s made me feel like the worst mum, and extremely embarrassed as I felt like the staff were all looking at and judging me. My daughter loved her first day, seems very happy there, but I don’t know whether to say something to the manager about it?

I understand it’s Friday and of course the staff want to go home, but I didn’t initially want Fridays, but they made me pick that day since it was quieter and we’re only part time, to make room for more full time children on the other days .

i don’t know what I’d say, and I don’t know if mum guilt at leaving my daughter there last is making me more sensitive, but now I’m anxious to leave her there until 6.20, even though I could really use it since I’m constantly playing catch up with my university work because I’m forever lagging behind due to not being able to afford enough childcare.

am I being sensitive? Should I say something? If so, what?

Thank you for all of the very kind messages! I’ve read all of them and I truly appreciate it ❤️ and thank you to those of you who offered your advice and opinion on what I actually asked about in the original post. I’m going to stop looking at this thread now because I’m getting really tired of seeing the same negative comments passing judgement on why I need childcare, what I use it for, etc.

thank you again to all of the kind people!☺️

i think they’ve treated you and your daughter terribly, OP.

You took the days and times that suited them, not you. And now that doesn’t suit them either?

I would absolutely be sending an email stating that, as well as the details of exactly what happened, and asking for clarity on what times are being paid for. There’s been some good examples on here already. They’ve been really unprofessional and I’d be asking the manager who you cc in on the email you will be sending. Don’t let her talk you round. Just advise that you would like a few things confirmed in writing.

6.30 finish for a Friday is a red herring anyway. At least on the Friday, evenings are hopefully a little more relaxed once you get her home, than say getting home at that time twice midweek. Yes, it’s a long day for your DD, but I’m sure you wouldn’t do it if there was any other way.

FWIW, my DS and another little boy were always last two to be collected. Both of them always expressed their delight/disappointment depending on who was collected first as they loved that last bit of one on one time with the staff 🤣

Please stand up for yourself from the off. You’re doing your best and it is absolutely good enough.

They are massively out of order if they have agreed to and charged you until 6.30pm

@CheekyTealFawn keep us updated with the response 👏

Poor kid. You should give him up for adoption or let him loose in the woods to be raised by wolves.

10/10 idea thanks so much x

They just about support it and I don’t work one of the days so I can pick him up whenever.

Well that’s me and I wouldn’t go anywhere 10 mins before the place shuts.

People used to come into the office at 17:28 (we shut at 17:30) when we had started to lock up. I couldn’t say at 17:30 after helping them for 2 minutes that we shut and they have to leave, I got out of work late so many times and that’s probably why I like to not leave things til the last minute ..including picking my kids up 🤣

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I don’t agree that giving nursery staff ten minutes to handover is last minute. But we are all different.

Honestly I wouldn’t leave it that late to go anyway I usually know I’m running low on something or will run out that night before I leave.. or I’d sent my fella and he can be the ‘problem’ 🤣🤣

Contact the manager. Id be so upset! This is a horrendous attitude to have around your child!

@GotStrands

I did go to uni and became a midwife. I definitely wouldn't have been in uni with a child that young.

@Lamentingalways

Of course it's a bad time if it results in your 2 year old being dumped in nursery for 11 hours.

A few posters gently suggested that but apparently that make us nasty.

Gently? 😂

Don't you mean wait until you can dump your child at school?

Idiotic comment

Yup, started off gently but OP went straight to suggesting mental health problems on my side so that escalated quite quickly from there..

judging from OP’s posts she said this in reply to you asking why she had children

OP didn't go straight to that. That was only her response after your ''gentle'' suggestion about having kids at all.

You escalated it by suggesting OP shouldn't even be a parent.

“dumped” — they’re spending their day in a nursery, a care setting, not left to fend for themselves on the street

Nope I never asked her that. It was in reply to someone who said that most kids are in nursery 11-12 hours every single week day.

It was in response to @FancyCatSlave. OP’s child is not on nursery for the majority of her waking hours.

fair enough, but I do think it goes without saying that it is still an unkind thing to say to another parent. i’ve not read the whole thread, it’s very long 🤣 just OP’s posts and the first few pages and the last few pages, and I do think that there has been a distinct lack of gentleness overall