Nursery teachers snarky comment

[CheekyTealFawn]

I’m livid, wondering whether to bring it up or just leave it if I’m overreacting.

DD is 2 yrs 9 month old, and just started nursery today. She’ll go 2 days per week, 7.30am-6.30pm.

I work two jobs (one evening and one Saturday per week), as I am studying 30 hours per week for my BA in English, which I do on my childcare days, in nap times, and every free evening I have. So, I could really use every minute of help I can get.

I dropped DD off at 8.30am no problems. When I go to pick her up, I get there at 6.20pm. I see I have two missed calls from the nursery. I ask why they called, worried, and the manager laughed and said “because we want to go home.” I was confused, and said “oh, I’m so sorry, I thought pick up was before 6.30?” And she pulled a face and said “yes, but it’s Friday and your daughter is the last one here, and she has been waiting and asking for you and wondering why she is the only one”

All of the staff had their hats and coats on waiting by the door when I arrived. DD was also sat by the door with her hat and coat on looking out the window waiting for me. it’s made me feel like the worst mum, and extremely embarrassed as I felt like the staff were all looking at and judging me. My daughter loved her first day, seems very happy there, but I don’t know whether to say something to the manager about it?

I understand it’s Friday and of course the staff want to go home, but I didn’t initially want Fridays, but they made me pick that day since it was quieter and we’re only part time, to make room for more full time children on the other days .

i don’t know what I’d say, and I don’t know if mum guilt at leaving my daughter there last is making me more sensitive, but now I’m anxious to leave her there until 6.20, even though I could really use it since I’m constantly playing catch up with my university work because I’m forever lagging behind due to not being able to afford enough childcare.

am I being sensitive? Should I say something? If so, what?

Reported again.

Very, thanks for asking.

You seem very angry, considering you are still, 24 hours later, making digs. This thing you keep bringing up is like a broken record. For the last time, it was in response to someone questioning why I and others would have children if we have to put them in childcare. That is an absolutely hideously cruel thing to say. I’d think as a fellow mum, you would be outraged. However, you seemed to take no issue with? I still stand by the fact that anyone who says or truly thinks like that is likely a very unhappy person and they’d be better speaking to someone about it rather than being cruel and attacking others on the internet.

okay??😂😂

And again.

You’re absolutely right, I’m done now as it’s been fruitless trying to stick up for myself and getting nasty back is never the answer, so I won’t do it anymore . Thank you ☺️

My after school club used to do this crap. They were open until six or six thirty and I always got there before time and they made it look like ‘mummy’s late’ so I’d be picking up anxious little ones

Ok ..6.20 - the point remains the same

That’s incredibly rude and unprofessional of the staff. If you have her booked in until 6:30 they should be actively engaging her until 6:30 not say by the window in her coat waiting for you.

You are wasting your time reporting comments like this. If you can’t handle being challenged, then this is not the place for you. You have not addressed the main issue in the OP, but are choosing to be unpleasant to a hard working mother who is educating herself. Maybe have a think why this is and why you resent a mother studying for a degree and aiming high.

All the comments about the length of the day! Have people considered that not everyone works a 9-5, that some people (like OP) may not have any other option. My partner and I work full time and start work at 6.30 and 7.30, family support 3 days a week, our DD goes to nursery the other 2 and is also there from opening until around 4-4.30. Im sure OP feels guilty enough for the full day from reading her replies but she needs the time to study and work, enabling her to gain her qualifications and provide for her child - all of which I think shows a good work ethic, drive and determination and positive role modelling for her child! Give her a break!

they were rude and unprofessional but i would not dwell on it. You’re right, they’re wrong but I would not let it bother me

Id also consider raising that i think its not nice for them to say pick up in by 6.30 but they have have your daughter in her coat and shoes excepting you for how long? You showed up at 6.20 and she was ready for you and you could have been another 10minutes. So who knows how long she was dressed and expecting you and you werent there - not through any fault of yours. I think unless its 6.25 (or they see your car pulling in or youve text etc) they shouldnt be telling her mummy's coming because she shouldnt feel like you left her waiting that isnt OK for her

11 hour days are fine. It’s nursery, not the coal mine.

they eat meals, sleep, play. All the same things they would do at home

She was there on time she had plenty of time to ask how her child's day has been. Not her fault the staff were more focused on getting off work early rather than doing the job they're paid to do

You are not being unreasonable. Please don’t explain or justify to anyone. You make the decision about what works for you, your children and your family. Sometimes that can mean longer hours of childcare as an investment in you and your family’s future. It has been this way for decades. Making your daughter feel alone and longing for you to arrive was their bad behaviour, not yours.

Why is everyone commenting on op's decision to do OU, time it takes, how they did it with no work, and ops life choices. Not sure that is relevant to query or anyone's business....

The fact is she's paying for a service ftom 8 - 6.30 that she needs/wants/is paying for so that should therefore be available.

I would message, and say if it's a problem on a Friday, you'd be happy to switch days to your preferred day (when other kids might be staying later too). Understandably staff will want to go home early if they can, but if still a child there they cant...

They're like it on other threads I think. Best to ignore.

Especially threads that involve mothers daring to send their child to nursery.