Nursery teachers snarky comment

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I’m livid, wondering whether to bring it up or just leave it if I’m overreacting.

DD is 2 yrs 9 month old, and just started nursery today. She’ll go 2 days per week, 7.30am-6.30pm.

I work two jobs (one evening and one Saturday per week), as I am studying 30 hours per week for my BA in English, which I do on my childcare days, in nap times, and every free evening I have. So, I could really use every minute of help I can get.

I dropped DD off at 8.30am no problems. When I go to pick her up, I get there at 6.20pm. I see I have two missed calls from the nursery. I ask why they called, worried, and the manager laughed and said “because we want to go home.” I was confused, and said “oh, I’m so sorry, I thought pick up was before 6.30?” And she pulled a face and said “yes, but it’s Friday and your daughter is the last one here, and she has been waiting and asking for you and wondering why she is the only one”

All of the staff had their hats and coats on waiting by the door when I arrived. DD was also sat by the door with her hat and coat on looking out the window waiting for me. it’s made me feel like the worst mum, and extremely embarrassed as I felt like the staff were all looking at and judging me. My daughter loved her first day, seems very happy there, but I don’t know whether to say something to the manager about it?

I understand it’s Friday and of course the staff want to go home, but I didn’t initially want Fridays, but they made me pick that day since it was quieter and we’re only part time, to make room for more full time children on the other days .

i don’t know what I’d say, and I don’t know if mum guilt at leaving my daughter there last is making me more sensitive, but now I’m anxious to leave her there until 6.20, even though I could really use it since I’m constantly playing catch up with my university work because I’m forever lagging behind due to not being able to afford enough childcare.

am I being sensitive? Should I say something? If so, what?

honestly I’m a team leader and wouldn’t let my team make a parent feel that way and I know my manager would be absolutely mortified too. Realistically what’s probably the case is they didn’t previously have children who stayed till that late so they left early and now they can’t do that- that is NOT your problem, and i think it’s terrible that a setting made you feel bad for that!
There really are some lovely nurseries where staff would never dream of making parents feel that way and it makes me sad that some nurseries show lack of comparison for parents. your child should have been sat with a staff member doing an activity, having a story, drawing or whatever they wanted to do, not sat looking out the window. I hope the rest of their nursery journey is more positive. Please don’t feel bad, you’re just trying to do your best xx

I don’t think it’s a competition of who is the nastiest

I’ve not been nasty.

Reported.

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The nursery acted unprofessionally. However you work one evening and ine weekend day and send your 3 year old to nursery for nearly 9 hour days that's shocking..

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Am I being thick? I would have assumed that at least some of the staff would work beyond closing time anyway to tidy up, clean etc, unless they do it in the mornings, doing it in the evenings would mean there's cover in case anyone is actually late to collect their child.

I'm picturing the last child having to sit with nothing to do whilst they are hoovered around, not being allowed to get toys out as they would need to be put away, not being allowed to use the bathroom as they would need to clean it again. Not being fed as they can't be bothered to clean up after.

Longing to know what this job is where you can take of endless time for a sniffle and your employer is just fine with it. HMRC customer support or single sign on tester possibly? It models a great work attitude for the children as well.

I have said many, many times that I study 30 hours per week for my degree

She’s studying. Read the OP

You would be very surprised I think. What attitude? That if you’re ill and contagious you take time to
recover and don’t go around spreading it. Nothing wrong with that.

What on earth happened to you to make you like this??

Nothing. Why do you ask? Because I have an opinion?

You need to read the post again..

Nice try.

Thanks.

Staff may have been there since 7am and have families too and want a swift pick up, not the child hunting for socks! they ought to work in a different job with different hours then. I have young children and work 13hr shifts in a care home...I don't just abandon my residents or do the bare minimum "because I've been there since 7 and have a family too". I chose the job knowing the hours as did they, they should do it to the best of their ability for the time they are there.

@JJWT I don’t think it’s fair to expect MN to read every post. They will review if someone reports it. But I agree OP is doing nothing wrong and the nursery are being unprofessional , but people will have their opinions.

Why do you seem so angry with me personally? I’ve already shared on here that I’d studied and worked 12 hours yesterday, was mentally checked out but struggling to sleep so I made the post when I was in bed. Today, I responded to comments on the train to work, the train back from work, and this evening once my daughter was in bed, I’d finished draft 1 of my essay. How I spend my little free time is also a problem for you for some reason. You seem very angry and it seems targeted at me in a personal way?

As someone who actually works in a nursery the whole situation surprises me. Yes of course we want to go home after a long day like everyone else but if you’re booked until a certain time there’s no way we would say something about you arriving 10 minutes before the end of your booked time!
We close at 6pm and it’s only if it gets to that time and a child is still there we will take them into reception and wait there and will call to check on the parent, but beforehand absolutely not.
If I were you I’d potentially keep an eye out for any other nurseries nearby which might have something open up which works for you- maybe somewhere that will let you book sessions which are more suited to you for a start.
Definitely raise it with the nursery too, you can just send an email.

Honestly it’s just constant digs throughout the thread 😂 like I had some time very late last night in bed and this morning on my commute, and again in bed, to post. What I do with my entire day, both free time and otherwise, is clearly a very big problem for this person

Are you happy in life? What makes you want to make nasty little digs at another mother?

I’m not in the least angry which is why I haven’t made remarks on other posters mental health the way you have. I suggest you look within.