To think British men are almost always nothing like those portrayed in movies and tv series?

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As a foreigner living here for many years, I am sorely disappointed in the calibre of British men. 😒 Don't get me wrong, I don't live in fantasy, just be nice to meet a good man.

An advanced username search says it all. Goady shite thread.

Right, I’m still cringing over the “I’m ashamed and embarrassed to be British because of our history” thread

I did say she was generalising and I’m not as thick as your post would suggest. Pretending the movies we grow up with don’t shape our expectations is naive.
also I would say, of the countries I’ve lived in, uk is where reality differs from movies the most, and this is just because there’s less “middle ground people” - I.e. lots of posh types and also Jeremy Kyle show types compared with “normal” types.
But this is one of those threads where people just go against the OP from the start anyway

You mean stereotypes and tropes in films are not accurate in real life?! Well I am shocked!

I also find women from other countries are like this too, particularly European (some parts) or Middle eastern- think they're gorgeous (they're far from it), have an overestimated opinion of themselves, money-orientated, serious, aloof, boring, pretentious, zero sense of humour and high maintenence (when they have nothing to warrant it). I'm a woman BTW.

Well that tends to happen when once again it's the British being slated. What do you expect, everyone to join in on the bitch fest? As I said it's a goady thread anyway.

I am quoting this because I am called Newspaper Taxis...😎

I think you're being mean in your response, in which you do appear actually to agree with me. I didn't say women 'spontaneously' take pride in their appearance, I'm just saying they do, for whatever reason, including the ones you cite - having to fit in with the prevailing societal attitudes or whathaveyou. I say that at the end of one paragraph - we can argue whether that's right or wrong.

Hmmm... I wouldn't mind being in a reality where some of the men on Corrie pass me on the street. Kit, Adam, Carl... 😍

Just wait until someone starts a thread about "should I move to the US/Australia/NZ/Canada/insert any country?" - then you can watch the Brits slag off any country other than their own. We must be about due for another one of those.

Colin Firth 😍

I don't do OLD 🤢 meant Englishmen in OP, not British.

Well, I’ve met plenty. Married a diamond - and my son, grandsons, dad and everyone else in my personal life have been.

Bad men (and women) exist all over the world. 🤷‍♀️

I think it is funny that you refer to the bobble hat and short trousers as not expected as surely that's a kind of Shoreditch young man look, counter culture look (think maybe out of fashion now). British youth have always had that counter culture look since the 1960s, how do you not know that? If you think every man was going to be like characters in Richard Curtis films then you are a bit behind the times. My DH's friends are a bit like that but the modern version which IME goes hand in hand with cycling, skiing, snowboarding, surfing etc. But these are men early to mid 40s so maybe the men to follow are not that way inclined.

Oh sorry the wool hat and short trousers reference was to the OP.

😂 yes, character wise I know more men like that to be fair but they still do the cycling, the running etc. I was watching the Night Manager (?) last night and I only know one man like the lead character but in reality serious men like that are quite rare despite this portrayal as the British upper middle class stereotype!

Well, well, I am so sorry if I am disappointed in the men in the country I live. Arseholes are located all around the world, I agree. It's just that Englishmen are often portrayed GLOBALLY in film and TV as gentlemen and the majority of them are far from it.

Also true. Except I don't live in an Asian country. British men also want a skivvy and degrade women. Moot point.

Edit: Quoted a post deflecting my OP on to Asian men.

Oh dear. Someone has missed the mark.

Because I live here? And this portrayal of Englishmen is observed GLOBALLY. 🤔

I would like Henry Cavill to play me in the movie of my life.

Lad culture is so unattractive in even the most handsome and accomplished men.

I am sure though that the men of the women on here jumping on here to defend them are as lovely as they claim. I have met and made friends with a grand total of 3 genuinely lovely non misogynist men in my time here. Men are so disappointing and I often wonder if I'd have come across any of the same if I had tried to stick it out in my home country.

Are you a man? Henry Cavill is damn fine inside and out. A rarity!

True. The patriarchy has ruined men.

So what you are saying is that you are cross and disappointed because not all English men IRL are like characters in films played by Hugh Grant, Colin Firth and Tom Hiddleston et al. Is that right?

God you sound shallow and a bit thick, frankly. I expect they're avoiding you love.

This. Whilst patriarchy is a cancerous disease, men in many other countries I've come across do seem to be more like Colin Firth than any Englishman I've yet to engage with.