To think British men are almost always nothing like those portrayed in movies and tv series?

[Sweetsfromheaven]

As a foreigner living here for many years, I am sorely disappointed in the calibre of British men. 😒 Don't get me wrong, I don't live in fantasy, just be nice to meet a good man.

Oh dear, 😂 This is actually funny. You seriously thought real life men were like movie men @Sweetsfromheaven ???!

NO man is the same as the men you see portrayed in the movies.. Many men are absolute dickheads at some point in their life. Many are guilty of being lazy when it comes to pulling their weight around the house (and with childcare/domestic duties,) flirty with other women (and more sometimes) and spending family money on his hobbies.... EVEN THE MEN IN THE COUNTRY YOU ORIGINATED FROM! Yes, really! 😆

Not saying ALL men, but yes, some men are lazy, and obnoxious, and check out of family life as often as they can once kids come along because they don't like hard work. Again, many men from your country of origin will be the same!

Not saying women are perfect, before the 'I don't know any men like that' NAMALT brigade appear, but this thread is not about women is it, it's about men!

Oh and colour me shocked, the OP posted this contentious thread about two and a half hours ago, and hasn't returned.

Nothing to see here.

Ha, I often thought this as a young woman. Why were all the TV and film Brits in sharp suits with clipped accents while all the lads in town wore football kits or black loafers with white socks (which dates me)?

This is deeply simplistic. Women don't spontaneously 'take pride in their appearance'. Having long been prevented from the same access to workplaces and the possibility of economic independence men have traditionally had, women's appearance has had to be what they trade on, their access to money via marriage. Men have traditionally been able to take little interest in their appearance because they haven't had to. They were a meal ticket via marriage to women who had few other options until recently. Now that things are somewhat more even, and women are outperforming men in education, you have incels complaining they can't bag a woman.

@Liissey0710 Where do you live, with
all these Jason Statham alike men? Asking for a friend! 😁😂

Sorry mines taken 😁😁

I disagree. I am basically a cross between Mark and Jez from Peep Show.

Go back a few decades and men DID take pride in their appearance. Most put on their "Sunday best" at least weekly, and many wore decent overcoats and hats, lots wore suits and ties, to go shopping, walks, etc. Look at the old photos of UK seaside resorts of the 50s and 60s to see virtually all the men looking very smart, just walking on the promenade or sitting in deckchairs. Even factory workers often wore decent hats and ties to work!

I think both men and women have become very slovenly in the past 3/4 decades with loose "sportswear" being the norm these days, or cheap "outdoor" clothing from Sports Direct or similar, and don't get me started on the "Dryrobe wankers" - both men and women!

Well, the good men are all taken - by lovely non-judgemental women. We've left you the scraps.

I can't image being so crass as to go onto a forum based in the country to which I've moved at some point and slag of half of the population like OP (to a lesser extent) and some of the more obnoxious PPs in this thread.

Not exactly classy is it?

British men? Britain is largely multicultural or was there a stereotype British man you had in mind?

Really as it just seems so crass & classless to me to take a lighthearted thread title super-defensively as a personal slight.

I don’t understand this kind of insecurity.

😆

Are you saying that other aspects of Britain have met your expectations? 😂

The country is about 25 years behind its continental equivalents and deteriorating fast. The men just reflect that...

I think that's more about age and life stage than income tbh. The majority of young men I know are very appearance conscious, and throw as much time and money at their looks as women. Far more so than men of previous generations. The outcome may not be everyone's idea of well groomed or attractive, but the gyms, barbers, tattooists and designer clothes shops are certainly full of them.
For some this will tail off when they're no longer trying to attract women or impress their mates. So older men perhaps pay progressively less attention to their appearance.

I sometimes think women from the south of Europe are disappointed that men here don’t flirt much

It is a sad fact that many of us Brits are on the ugly pill.

British men are great. They are good conversationalists (not all but many are). They have a decent, self-deprecating sense of humour. They can be witty. Some are a bit rough around the edges but some people like that!

Personally I don’t like men from other countries. They are misogynistic, condescending and have an over-inflated view of their appearance/superiority. They don’t know how to laugh properly. They bore me to shit. Why don’t you relocate to Afghanistan so that you can obtain a comparison? I’ve heard they treat their women really well.

What sort of films are you watching? Sherlock homes, Pride and preduice?
British men, have changed, the world has changed a lot in the last 10/ 15 years.
People are more selfish, and the women have changed too.
I think British men always played vilians in lots of american films over the last 20 years?
What are the men like from your country of origin?

Well, isn't that partly because sports clothing and elastic waists and runners didn't exist until comparatively recently?

You probably owned very few clothes, apart from anything else, and, depending on what your job was, your options were probably 'what I wear to work' or 'what I wear for Sunday best'.

No concept of 'leisure clothes' or beachwear, which is why old beach photos often look slightly comical, with men in suits paddling or sitting in deckchairs, with the only change to their clothing being maybe a jacket/tie off, maybe trouser legs rolled up, maybe a knotted handkerchief on the head?

Yeah we know, you've said so further up the thread

And yet the crass replies just keep coming.

We’ve even had an our first “fuck off”.

Is it their teef?

😂. You're right OP

the number of people online fantasising about rugged Scotsmen sweeping them off their feet is hilarious.

They need to spend the night in Mid Craigie in Dundee.

Where you from op.
Wait your another one that wont be back.