Partner won’t give me a lift in the ice …

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So during the night the snow has started to melt and it’s icy out there.
The main roads are clear but the paths are Ice.
Went out this morning and even with my boots on I’ve fallen over.
I get really anxious about falling over so that’s knocked my confidence.
My partner is a manager of a company 5 mins around the corner and I asked him could you drive me to the bus stop just so I can get to my dads and take out his dog and get him essentials (he’s 86 and I don’t want him falling over )
He said no he’s not doing that and I just need to get a grip and walk to the bus stop (about 10 mins but it’s thick of ice )
Bare in mind last night he was on his way home when his work friend text saying the bus hadn’t come so he immediately said “no bother mate il take you home “ 20 mins in opposite direction.
Aibu to be a bit sad he won’t even drive 5 mins to help me out.
Now before anyone comes at me,last year I slipped on the ice and broke my wrist so ever since then I’ve been scared…I have bought decent boots but still it’s a ice rink.

What kind of jobs are you all in that you can just come and go as you please. The only way id be able to leave my job in the middle of a shift would be for an actual emergency. Are you not busy in your jobs. I don't even have time to pee at work and I bet your all earning triple what I do.

It wasn't a dig at you - it was a general comment on the idea that partners shouldn't be asked to do anything for each other. He just sounds like he can't be bothered and people think that's fine. Sounds like he's better suited to a relationship with them where nobody ever does anything nice or helpful.

Fuck i winced reading that. Hope he's ok.

Well he is shit so dump him and instead go on Amazon and buy a set of crampons. They cost less than £20 and you fit them over your shoes and they stop you slipping over. REALLY. I found out about them living in Norway and without mine I am like Bambi on ice, with them I am striding down the icy pavements like a goddess!

I would offer to help. I would say 'it'll be icy at your dad's as well, I'll drive you over instead of to the bus stop and give you a hand'. I guess that just doesn't occur to come people.

I would say: 'I'll take the car today so I can go and do jobs at my dad's. Are you ok to walk to work or shall I drive you?'

He's working, so busy-and she can drive.

I think the fact that he is in work is a decent reason. Why can’t OP just take the car when he gets home and go? How would she get from the bus stop to her dads house, or across the road with the dog if she’s scared to walk on ice anyways?

for her to then take a dog on a walk and go shopping if have read correctly?

My partner is a manager of a company 5 mins around the corner

So it makes perfect sense for you to be the one using the car on days like today!

I don't think this is worth all the 'dump his sorry arse' comments. Just starting a conversation about you having the car today would have made sense though.

I wouldn't ask someone to
leave work
come home to get me
drive me to a bus stop so I could get a bus to my dad's, then get
a taxi home again,

when I could have just taken the car myself and driven!

YANBU.

Do you drive or have your own car? I'd work towards removing your dependency on him.

I work for myself so set my own hours and often pop home between jobs to do bits of housework or feed the cats, or grab a coffee.

What's the problem with having to find a parking space? And how does his driving alleviate that - doesn't he have to find a parking space to wait for you? Or does he drive around the block until you're finished?

I'm surprised at the comments saying he is a prick. The paths were thick with ice this morning but all the DCs were walking to school, toddlers going in to the nursery up the road and people have still have jobs to walk to. It could be like this all winter, do you intend to rely on your partner for the rest of the season? Not being able to drive is not an excuse to rely on other people to get you about. Do you work yourself? Is it possible that he is getting fed up of being relied upon for everything.

She does drive!

She seems to have problems with using the words, 'Shall I take the car today as you only work 5 minutes round the corner?' though.

Hope your DP will be okay and heals quickly, that sounds horrible. 💐

Why does she have to think about all winter? She asked her partner for a favour, end of story.

The 'favour' asked for wouldn't have been terribly helpful-there would still be ice by the dad's house and presumably where the dog was going to be walked. There will probably still be ice tomorrow as well. Asking for a lift to the bus stop wouldn't have stopped all those risks.

The best favour (or more like actual conversation) would be around who should have the car today, really.

Ah bugger, missed that, thank you. It just seems a bit helpless to haul someone out of work to take them to a bus stop so they can then walk a dog and walk to the shops on the same pavements.

Yes she needs to plan ahead and drop him off a work if she isn't at work herself or ask him to walk if she has things she needs to do.

That was very unkind of him. How is he towards you in general?

He found the time and generosity to give a colleague a lift, but not you. I would not be impressed.

Perhaps OP doesn't drive in ice either.

But he wasn't at work then, unlike he was when she asked,

This is insane - people would dump their partner for not LEAVING THEIR WORK to drive them to a bus stop. When they will have to walk again at the other end of the bus, and plan to walk a dog when they get there?

My brain is baffled at this.

Presumably the guy is at work actually working! Sometimes you can’t just down tools for 10:15 mins, my job can be full on that I would be lucky to pee never mind go off on a jolly.

So you’re not married? Who owns the car?

If he owns the car are you in a position to get your own car?

He’s a tool , I’d be fuming
Hes the manager at work and can come & go when he wants !
He takes his mate last night a 20 min drive because bud didn’t turn up

YET
can’t take you to the bloody bus stop a 2 min job
doesn’t really matter what the reason is
it’s the fact it wasn’t doing it

what else doesn’t he do

Why did you think you could go and buy groceries for your dad and walk the dog if it's too dangerous to walk to the bus stop? You shouldn't risk it at all unless the roads been gritted.

Get husband to go into your dad's on way home and check he's alright and you can send him delivery app food?

Your husband sounds pretty unhelpful though. I understand he may have been too busy in the middle of work to go at a specific time I suppose.

My partner is a manager of a company 5 mins around the corner and I asked him could you drive me to the bus stop just so I can get to my dads and take out his dog and get him essentials (he’s 86 and I don’t want him falling over )
He said no he’s not doing that and I just need to get a grip and walk to the bus stop (about 10 mins but it’s thick of ice )
Bare in mind last night he was on his way home when his work friend text saying the bus hadn’t come so he immediately said “no bother mate il take you home “ 20 mins in opposite direction.
Aibu to be a bit sad he won’t even drive 5 mins to help me out.

Your Partner is an absolute twat and doesn't give a shit about you.

I'd be looking to end the relationship. Make a plan.