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To dob in family member - benefits

564 replies

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:16

I have a relative that does have health problems. They went to tribunal and were awarded higher rate PIP and have a motorbility car apparently supported by a Rottweiler of an advocate. I have no gripe that they deserve something - occasional falls, mild mental health problems, physical health problems that require monitoring and support and mild difficulties dressing themselves due to joint problems but don’t actually need to be helped. They do have a disability.

However, they are able to walk miles most of the time, decorate their home, complete domestic tasks and attend social activities on a very regular basis on foot. Morally torn. They probably will struggle without the money. Would DWP even do anything kind of thing. Either way I feel a bad person.

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averychoc · 06/01/2026 23:17

Wha evidence did they use at tribunal?

nzeire · 06/01/2026 23:17

Just leave them be.
fgs.

Bunnymcgee · 06/01/2026 23:19

nzeire · 06/01/2026 23:17

Just leave them be.
fgs.

This

BeardedBarley · 06/01/2026 23:19

Morally torn my arse.

SpiceGhoul · 06/01/2026 23:19

You feel like a bad person because you are. Do you think disabled people should just be at home and have no life? I can't believe anyone would feel this way especially since you openly acknowledge that they do have health and mobility problems. Why would you like them to suffer? What would you achieve from this?

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:19

averychoc · 06/01/2026 23:17

Wha evidence did they use at tribunal?

Haven’t a clue. They do have health problems as I say, just the award doesn’t feel proportionate to the problems they encounter.

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UserFront242 · 06/01/2026 23:20

What are you going to gain by dobbing them in?
They went to tribunal. They will have had to provide a lot of evidence.
You can be awarded PIP if you can prove you meet the criteria at least 50% of the time. You might be seeing the 50% where they feel able to do things.
You are also the reason some people on PIP are too scared to leave their house in case someone will dob them in.

averychoc · 06/01/2026 23:20

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:19

Haven’t a clue. They do have health problems as I say, just the award doesn’t feel proportionate to the problems they encounter.

What makes you think you know better than the medical evidence and professionals then?

UserFront242 · 06/01/2026 23:20

BeardedBarley · 06/01/2026 23:19

Morally torn my arse.

OP can claim PIP for that.

OhDear111 · 06/01/2026 23:20

@nzeire We are all paying for people lying. It has to be called out. This is because it takes away from deserving people and we then see assumptions made that everyone is cheating. If you can supply evidence op, do it.

CherrieTomaties · 06/01/2026 23:20

Do you feel envious of them? Is that the reason you want to “dob them” in it?

GrassMarketeer · 06/01/2026 23:20

Presumably their evidence for the award was properly investigated amd assessed at the tribunal? Just because you don't agree with the decision, it doesn't mean they have claimed incorrectly.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 06/01/2026 23:21

Dob them in for what? Because of what you ‘feel’ they should get?

People like you are unbelievable

Gahr · 06/01/2026 23:21

How mean. Of course you shouldn't say anything!

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:22

Fair enough. I see them regularly. I do know the ins and outs and they live a pretty normal life really. Yes, morally torn. Most of the family think it wasn’t appropriate.

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Interpink · 06/01/2026 23:22

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:19

Haven’t a clue. They do have health problems as I say, just the award doesn’t feel proportionate to the problems they encounter.

What a fucking appalling attitude you have. You acknowledge they’re disabled but don’t know what evidence they gave to tribunal and yet in your esteemed opinion based on being jealous or worse, you have decided that it’s too much? Sit down and keep your beak out. How disgusting.

Interpink · 06/01/2026 23:23

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Penelope23145 · 06/01/2026 23:23

If they are getting a motoribility car then they either are saying that they cannot reliably mobilise more than 20m or they cannot leave the house alone and plan and follow a journey due to psychological distress on the majority of days.. These would be the two main criteria for someone being awarded enhanced rate mobility which is what they need to participate in the motorbility scheme. If neither of these apply ( which you seem to be suggesting ) then YANBU.

UserFront242 · 06/01/2026 23:23

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:22

Fair enough. I see them regularly. I do know the ins and outs and they live a pretty normal life really. Yes, morally torn. Most of the family think it wasn’t appropriate.

The people assessing them did think it is appropriate though, and their decision is the one that counts.

SummerBreeze1980 · 06/01/2026 23:23

Are you a PIP specialist? Do you know how it is all worked out and the criteria. Because if not you have no idea if your family member is getting the correct award. So on what basis would you do this? Leave it to the professionals.

GingerPubes · 06/01/2026 23:25

Can you imagine do this to a relative, or anyone?

What makes you think the PIP pay judgement is not proportionate? Do you have training it this type of thing?

Redrosesposies · 06/01/2026 23:25

So are you saying they lied and exaggerated their disability to get a higher rate of benefit?
Surely no one does that......

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Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:26

UserFront242 · 06/01/2026 23:20

What are you going to gain by dobbing them in?
They went to tribunal. They will have had to provide a lot of evidence.
You can be awarded PIP if you can prove you meet the criteria at least 50% of the time. You might be seeing the 50% where they feel able to do things.
You are also the reason some people on PIP are too scared to leave their house in case someone will dob them in.

Nothing. Probably a load of guilt if anything came of it. More an issue of remaining silent and I suppose social duty. Have sat on it for years. No I don’t think they should never go out but higher rate is for people with major mobility problems which impact their daily life which they simply don’t have.

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