To dob in family member - benefits

[Dragonsfoot]

I have a relative that does have health problems. They went to tribunal and were awarded higher rate PIP and have a motorbility car apparently supported by a Rottweiler of an advocate. I have no gripe that they deserve something - occasional falls, mild mental health problems, physical health problems that require monitoring and support and mild difficulties dressing themselves due to joint problems but don’t actually need to be helped. They do have a disability.

However, they are able to walk miles most of the time, decorate their home, complete domestic tasks and attend social activities on a very regular basis on foot. Morally torn. They probably will struggle without the money. Would DWP even do anything kind of thing. Either way I feel a bad person.

What?? You have said they have disabilities and the tribunal have judged that they should get this benefit. What makes you think you are a better judge than the tribunal in deciding what they should have? These people, your relatives, trusted you enough to tell you their business. I'm sure they wouldn't have done that if they had felt; many way not entitled to what they received ...or that you would make a harsh judgement and think about meddling in what is not your business.Leave well alone.

Mind your business.

I wouldn’t say they lied, I would say it was exaggerated.

Well stop seeing them, they don’t need people like you in their life.

Spite that's what they would gain.

Jealousy.
I am expecting a drip feed of OP not being able to afford a brand new car like their relative gets (which is never owned anyway)

And meanwhile those without a Rottweiler advocate struggle to get any help at all.

Mind your business! What you jealous or something? And this is your family member who you should love and care about and acknowledge they do suffer and have problems. Why would you want to cause them more suffering? They were obviously awarded that money fairly and squarely and ate entitled to it leave them alone!

You’ve been quite specific about their life so maybe they will recognise themselves and give you a full account of why the tribunal disagreed with you.

So you don't actually understand the process...

Your relative will have been assessed, likely had a medical, their gp will have been contacted to corroborate their application and they will have had to provide evidence of what they're struggling with. All completed by professionals with a healthcare background.

The issue here is that YOU feel YOU are qualified (with only a snippet of the information) to make a judgement on how much assistance you think your relative should get. You are the problem here. Stay in your lane and mind your own business.

Would DWP even do anything kind of thing. Either way I feel a bad person.

Well to be fair, you do come across as a bad person.

They've been awarded the benefits, and it's not up to you to decide whether they've 'exaggerated' or not.

Can I dob her in for pretending to be morally torn?

They went to a tribunal! Mind your own business. With family like you - who needs enemies?

I wouldn’t tell my family everything about my health because they’re nosey and interfering. I don’t see how you could know about their difficulties really. The system is unfair but what benefit would there be to you reporting one person? Really you come across as a bit jealous.

Mind your own business

It’s a criteria you have to achieve. You get a certain number of point in each section and then the sum in the mobility section has to be above a threshold to get the highest rate. Once you are awarded the highest rate you then can apply for a mobility car and they take the benefit in exchange (plus a hefty downpayment in many cases). If your relative fits the criteria he or she can get the benefit and use it to rent a car. They can work or not as can you.

I'm in genuine disbelief, this is a member of your family? YABVU.

Tbh even if they were genuinely taking the piss I'd think you were being unreasonable to dob them in, but it sounds like they aren't, you just personally don't feel they are "disabled enough".

Well, that seems to be fairly unanimous. I am being unreasonable to even contemplate it. I knew this thread was harsh. I do have related knowledge and do know what I’m talking about. No I’m not jealous. I’m quite happy with my life and standard of living thankyou. It’s about fairness. Hopefully I can now wonder off and put it out of my mind. Ta

I presume you enjoy perfect health and an iron cast income from salary in a job that will never be under threat?

Life can change in an instant for all of us. If you knew just how hard it is to get PIP you might not be so sanctimonious.

Have you seen the medical evidence with your own eyes? For all you know they're furniture walking to the loo or the kitchen or sitting on the bedroom floor sobbing with pain in the middle of the night.

Keep your anger for the dodgy politicians, tech bros and other grifters who are the real villains...

Yeah that's not the criteria for higher rate.

You talk about social duty. Your social duty is to be a respectful and engaged citizen, to support those close to you with care and compassion, and to do what you can to make the world a nicer place. Hole and corner meddling conducted from a position of spite and ignorance is very far from that.

Most of these types of threads run in the same vein,jealousy,spite,hatred and what it boils down to is 'look what they're getting that I'm not'.

Thanks. I am not angry. Possibly a little sanctimonious though! I do know the ins and outs and I do know the process.