To think it was my curry?!

[Lolabear38]

Bit of background - we’ve had guests staying with us for the last 5 days. During that time I’ve cooked and paid for 90% of the meals and cleared everything away. There’s been large meals (they’re big eaters), snacks, puddings, alcohol etc. Relevant just to show I’m not (or at least I don’t think I am) being tight I suppose.

Last night we ordered an Indian take away (I couldn’t face cooking for us all again). We all ordered a curry and rice each, and a variety of sides. For no particular reason I didn’t eat all of my main meal, everyone else finished all theirs. We all had roughly the same amount of the sides. I got my curry and put it in the fridge.

Today we went for a pub lunch so when it came to dinner in the evening I said it was leftovers from the last couple of days and put out everything/ cooked up a few bits and pieces that needed eating. Everyone helped themselves and as they were eating I heated up my curry. DH’s friend, with a plate full of food already, suddenly said ‘oh I didn’t realise there was curry on offer! I’ll have that’. Somewhat put out I said ‘this is actually the curry I ordered last night and kept what was left, I thought I’d finish it tonight’. He replied with ‘But we can all share it can’t we? Leftovers are all fair game’. I kind of laughed it off and when the curry was warmed through I quickly put it on my plate and just sat down to eat - I’m talking maybe 1/2 of a regular portion of curry was left? He looked at me, raised his eyebrows and said ‘I guess Lola doesn’t share food, hey?’

Who is BU?

YABU - leftover curry belongs to anyone who wants to eat it, whether they ordered it or not, stop being so weird.

YANBU - you ordered that curry. Everyone else ordered their own and ate it all. The leftovers of your curry belong to you.

We split the cost of the take away fairly between us all, if that matters.

I am real. ALL food goes in the middle of the table. She could have hidden the curry if she wanted it, instead of being rude and weird about it

That may be what you do but I don't know anyone that has their meals that way. But even if that is what OP does half a curry is not going to go very far among that many is it? It would be pathetic and silly to put it out for sharing

No reason for her to hide it and she was not rude or weird about it. They ALL had curry the night before but OP was the only one that did not eat of all their order. Therefore the leftover curry was her curry.

Also, as I said, I think it weird that in your house ALL food goes in the middle of the table. I don't know anyone that does that.

What a bunch of fucking wankers on this thread trying to make something of nothing

OP it makes total sense what you did and he sounded like he didn’t want some of the curry, he wanted the curry instead of what you offered. How rude of him.

I also love cooking. Really enjoy time to myself in the kitchen. Sorting the washing out and putting away clothes though is proper rubbish job so my DH does that.

I would also never even have half a curry left, knowing its from a meal where according to the OG no one else had any left, so they were left unsatisfied and still hungry, while this curry sat being guarded.
No one would ever go hungry in my house, the food in plentiful and shared.

I think men often think leftovers are fair game when they ate all theirs and have no leftovers!

It was 100% your curry but I almost died once from reheating leftover Indian takeaway, because of the rice so would never again. (Almost died is an exaggeration but it was bad.)

Some right weirdos on this thread op! I’m with you, there was nothing wrong with you eating your own curry and your houseguest is the rude one.

This! I can't believe he was so rude and entitled after all the feeding of them you have done!

I would have repied 'There ISN'T curry on offer. It's MY leftovers from yesterday!'

What a CF.

Yes, all food is served from the middle and if you find that weird, im ok with that.
At least no one goes hungry, guest or otherwise and no one is crying and arguing over a half eaten warmed up curry.

Greed isn't the same thing as hunger. It is greedy to eat an entire takeaway curry and then expect someone else's because they are full and want to save the rest for tomorrow.

This is the key thing, feeding someone for five bloody days and them having the cheek to start moaning about the food on offer.

Does anyone else really fancy a curry now?

Only someone else’s!

No. Particularly not leftover curry.

King of the CFs visited you!

no one else had any left, so they were left unsatisfied and still hungry, while this curry sat being guarded.

What are you on about?

Greed. So its Greed to eat an entire curry.
No, its not. Unless there had been significant starters, its not Greed. He was probably still hungry. But then, having said thst, if sharing is so awful, he could have ordered more, then hidden his leftovers for tomorrow I suppose

Why do you assume that the others who ate all their curries were still hungry & unsatisfied? I nearly always finish all my food & am very rarely still hungry

I do think it’s a little odd to serve guests various leftovers and then heat up your curry separately. I would probably have picked at the communal leftovers and then snarfed the curry once they were in bed 😆

However - I think it’s unbelievably rude for a guest to say “I’ll have that” of your plate of food and then “Lola doesn’t share food” when you have been generously hosting for 5 days!! Who does that? Hope he has looked back and is embarrassed for himself.

(and I also think they should have offered to pay for the entire takeaway as a thank you, although perhaps this is ok IF they cover everything when you go stay there).

It isn't greedy to eat an entire curry but it is greedy to eat an entire curry and then expect someone else's curry too.

What on earth makes you think they were all unsatisfied and still hungry? They all ate their curries (that's what people do) but OP left some of hers. They also had side dishes so almost certainly they were not left hungry unless they have gigantic appetites.

No talk of the curry "being guarded". I expect OP just cleared the plates etc away and put HER leftover curry in the fridge.

OP obviously does share food but is not ridiculous enough to think sharing half a curry between so many is a good idea plus it was HER curry. The others all ate theirs

Of course you couldn't have shared about the curry. It would have been touched by your cutlery, saliva etc unless you only served some and left the other in the packet, as opposed to serving it all into a plate and then putting what wasn't eaten in the fridge.

Why do you think anyone was going hungry, @Twinkletoes127? @Lolabear38 had laid out a spread for everyone else - where does she say they were going hungry - or is that a conclusion you have leapt to, with no evidence?