Friend being unreasonable .?

[Aprilmaymum]

Happy new year everyone.
Friend of DP arrived at our house on New year eve saying his wife and him having problems and can he stay the one night. We agreed to one night only as to be honest we don’t have the space. New year day he was still here and still here now. DP explained that with three young children we cannot accommodate him . He is sleeping on our sofa and doesn’t get up on the morning so we are walking around him. DP spoke to him this morning again and he said he would help us out anytime which made my DP feel guilty. I want him gone. Apparently his wife has said she doesn’t want him back and has changed the locks and no one else will have him. One night was fine but I honestly think we should be saying he has to go where as DP said we should give him until after the weekend. What are other thoughts ?

So you are now the #1 sofa surf option next time she kicks him out.

But you don’t know that. You’ve completely invented that scenario. For all we know, he’s just trying to flee from an abusive relationship.

True, I did just invent that scenario. Its a possibility. Anyway not really OPs problem.

I had a similar situation, set boundaries now and do not hesitate. Cos if he stays you fallout anyway. Get him to leave now and don’t be guilted, not up to you to fix his marriage.

you were kind enough to help in an emergency situation but as you have explained you have not the room long term.
as his wife has said not coming back he needs to look long term but in the meantime go to a travel lodge boarding house or similar.

Not a single comment by op includes anything about either of them telling him to go. That part is just you justifying you being an unpleasant person at the core by making something up.

I think she said at the beginning that her DP asked him to go.

I suggest you re read the OP's posts.
Her husband told him twice in the opening post that it didn't suit them to host him but he pushed in.
At 19.01 the OPs husband told him he would have to go tomorrow.
At 22.15 he agreed to leave the following day.

At 12.12 the OP told him go home but he refused as he didn't want to cause at atmosphere at home for his children.

He eventually left according to her post 17.26

Its there in the clearest of language.
He was asked to leave, told it didn't suit multiple times by both OP and her husband from the very first post.
Perhaps focus on reading the OP's posts rather than accusing other posters of making things up.

Literacy and comprehension issues are very tedious to keep reading here.

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If it were me I would take him down to Citizens Advice for first steps about his housing rights. His wife changing the locks needs looking at. He might also benefit from a reduced price or free initial appointment with a family Law solicitor lots of them will do this for a reduced fee or even free for an initial appointment. The local Citizens advice should have a list. He could also look at renting a room somewhere as he is working he should not struggle too much to find somewhere for the time being

Why? Why would the OP take an adult man to Citizen's Advice. This is not her problem to solve. What a bizzare thing to suggest

His wife throws him out so he becomes another woman's responsibility?

He's an adult, he's not even her friend but her husband's. OP has 2 children to look after, they are priority.