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To think this is silly and unfair to slim women/skinnyphobic?

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skinnyphobianamechange · 01/01/2026 04:10

I was looking at this swim dress https://snagtights.com/products/only-one-swim-dress-polka for myself. I'm a rather small woman, 45kg and 162cm tall. I usually wear a 4-8, depending on the brand.

Whereas I'm delighted to see that they make it from a 4-38, all of the several models featured in this dress and seemingly almost all on this site, are obese. This is rather odd to me, and a bit annoying as I cannot see what these items would look like on me - if some items look good on skinny women but not on obese women surely the same also applies regarding some items the other way round.

Also seems unfair to me - if underweight women cannot be models because of 'promotion of unhealthy weights' why are these women not affected as well too? Surely a size 38 is not any more healthy than a 0 or 2.

Skinny hate seems to be on the decline, but still disappointing to see the double standard.

To think this is silly and unfair to slim women/skinnyphobic?
OP posts:
BillieWiper · 01/01/2026 09:58

I think we all know what a skinny model looks like. Up until very recently you did not see models at all above about a ten. And most were 4-8.

I honestly don't think you can call one website who actually specialise in larger sizes skinny phobic?! Being skinny gives you a massive privilege. How do you think bigger people feel looking at the majority of fashion images?

KimberleyClark · 01/01/2026 10:00

Well I can see why that would cause concern, the trousers are really baggy and loose round the hips, and her head looks huge in relation to her body. Do you have any other examples of banned ads?

sidneytweeney · 01/01/2026 10:01

BillieWiper · 01/01/2026 09:58

I think we all know what a skinny model looks like. Up until very recently you did not see models at all above about a ten. And most were 4-8.

I honestly don't think you can call one website who actually specialise in larger sizes skinny phobic?! Being skinny gives you a massive privilege. How do you think bigger people feel looking at the majority of fashion images?

It’s not a privilege!! It’s a reward for hard work and it’s available to the vast majority of the population.

Pedallleur · 01/01/2026 10:03

sidneytweeney · 01/01/2026 10:01

It’s not a privilege!! It’s a reward for hard work and it’s available to the vast majority of the population.

Is that you Victoria Beckham?

Wonderwall23 · 01/01/2026 10:03

I am slim/bordering underweight. When I look at clothes on pretty much any well-known retailer's site they are being modelled by women who look similar to me. It's only relatively recently that sometimes there is a model shown (usually in addition to a slim one) who is a larger size. So much so that it had literally never occurred to me previously that women of a larger size never see a dress in a model their size in a standard store.

KimberleyClark · 01/01/2026 10:04

sidneytweeney · 01/01/2026 10:01

It’s not a privilege!! It’s a reward for hard work and it’s available to the vast majority of the population.

So no one is naturally slim then?

ehb102 · 01/01/2026 10:05

The founder of Snag tights has lipoedema, that same fat disorder I have. So all of you hating on fat people, your hatred is as unjustified as being disgusted with someone with a difference like a port wine birthmark or a misformed limb. People have different bodies and we're okay with that.

Snag do wonderful products. To hear this post it sounds just like men when they aren't centred in everything.

HangingOver · 01/01/2026 10:05

OP, just shop somewhere else. (I say this as an extreme skinny). We are disproportionately favourite almost everywhere. Go to Zara, you'll be grand.

sidneytweeney · 01/01/2026 10:06

KimberleyClark · 01/01/2026 10:04

So no one is naturally slim then?

Of course, but no one is naturally obese. That’s a consequence (in the vast majority) of laziness and bad habits.

Cazzovuoi · 01/01/2026 10:10

sidneytweeney · 01/01/2026 10:06

Of course, but no one is naturally obese. That’s a consequence (in the vast majority) of laziness and bad habits.

Jesus wept.

The ignorance.

tachetastic · 01/01/2026 10:13

Maybe the word means a different thing to you, but I would say that only two women in those photos could be obese in my eyes. The rest look fairly normal, perhaps with a couple having large breasts, but definitely not obese.

NotAnotherPylon · 01/01/2026 10:13

sidneytweeney · 01/01/2026 10:06

Of course, but no one is naturally obese. That’s a consequence (in the vast majority) of laziness and bad habits.

I know you're probably on the wind up, but I'm still pissed off that this sort of ignorance around obesity still exists. If you want to go around making statements like this, you should probably do a bit of research on the causes of obesity and be absolutely sure of your ground. Rather than, ya know, look foolish.

JeannetteBlue · 01/01/2026 10:18

Snag does also use thin and petite models. They also used models with disabilities too.

I would recommend you contact snag politely asking if they have any photos of the dress being modelled by a smaller size and I think you'd find they'd be willing to do that. It just depends on which models they have for which items; some have mostly slim models and others mostly larger people.

On this one, there's a normal sized woman, and a heavier woman. You could definitely request images of skinnier women if you find that helpful personally - does this give you maybe more sympathy for other women who don't normally see themselves represented? We should all be represented (no matter our health, or what other people think about us).

KimberleyClark · 01/01/2026 10:19

sidneytweeney · 01/01/2026 10:06

Of course, but no one is naturally obese. That’s a consequence (in the vast majority) of laziness and bad habits.

I have an underactive thyroid. That makes it very hard to lose weight and even harder to keep it off long term. But you can’t tell by looking at me. So you’d probably assume I am just lazy and have bad habits.

Pickledpoppetpickle · 01/01/2026 10:21

Not a fan of their advertising. Very much a fan of their tights. Changed my wardrobe, enabled me to be me with skirts and dresses. I am not confused or drawn into believing fat is healthy as some have suggested. I do deserve to be comfortable, regardless of size.

Luckyingame · 01/01/2026 10:22

SouthernNights59 · 01/01/2026 05:10

Welcome to the world of the rest of us! I'm not obese, I'm only just overweight, but I'm sick of seeing clothes modelled by the very slim (and tall) and not being able to see what the garments look like on average sizes.

Understood - from another side.

Clothes are now modelled also by obese/overweight ladies.
I'm not emaciated, but noted many times when this is the case, the image of said garment is so distorted I have no idea what it would look like on someone like myself.
Frantically scrolling among images then, before giving up.
Not only markets catering for overweight people, but most of them.

BillieWiper · 01/01/2026 10:23

sidneytweeney · 01/01/2026 10:01

It’s not a privilege!! It’s a reward for hard work and it’s available to the vast majority of the population.

But slim people are treated better in general than fat people. That's what I meant. Of course now with GLP1 practically anyone can lose weight.

I'm thin myself btw and far from healthy. But I just don't agree with what OP is saying.

PhantomOfAllKnowledge · 01/01/2026 10:28

The vast majority of clothes modelling is done by people who are not overweight. This retailer presumably wants to target a market inclusive of people who are - I don't see anything wrong with that at all. The retailer wants to make money - they don't care about being 'the fat police' - it's not their job to solve the UK obesity crisis, it's their job to sell clothes.

5128gap · 01/01/2026 10:29

sidneytweeney · 01/01/2026 10:01

It’s not a privilege!! It’s a reward for hard work and it’s available to the vast majority of the population.

A healthy well nourished and well excercised body that will offer you the best chance of a high quality of life into old age is a reward for hard work. Because it takes research, application of knowledge about what the body needs and time and effort to meet those needs.
However, people who don't put this work in, and there are as many slim people as overweight ones who don't, are often working too hard on other things to spare the time.
Looking at a slim person and imagining their body is optimum and the result of hard work is nonsense, frankly. The unhealthy habits in the fashion industry that enable some models to be very thin are not a secret.

Chafing · 01/01/2026 10:35

sidneytweeney · 01/01/2026 10:06

Of course, but no one is naturally obese. That’s a consequence (in the vast majority) of laziness and bad habits.

So the willendorf Venus - a prehistoric figurine carved before TV, fast food and cars - doesn't depict natural obesity then?

Have you never heard of lipedema/lipalgia? Because 10 percent of us women out here have it. We aren't heavy legged from overeating. And menopausal weight gain is imaginary too?

You have no idea.

BonneMamanAbricot · 01/01/2026 10:35

KimberleyClark · 01/01/2026 10:00

Well I can see why that would cause concern, the trousers are really baggy and loose round the hips, and her head looks huge in relation to her body. Do you have any other examples of banned ads?

Why can you see how that causes concern but not the super morbidly obese examples?

RB68 · 01/01/2026 10:48

In my view size 4 to 8 is as difficult to buy for as size 20 and beyond. Esp to the smaller end - size 8 is ok but 4 or 6 is like hens teeth - same as for 20 plus at actually being in store and while better on line still tricky.

Strawberrryfields · 01/01/2026 10:51

All this hooha over that boring swim dress 🤨

sidneytweeney · 01/01/2026 10:53

Chafing · 01/01/2026 10:35

So the willendorf Venus - a prehistoric figurine carved before TV, fast food and cars - doesn't depict natural obesity then?

Have you never heard of lipedema/lipalgia? Because 10 percent of us women out here have it. We aren't heavy legged from overeating. And menopausal weight gain is imaginary too?

You have no idea.

Exactly why I said ‘vast majority’

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