to consider going on holiday with this couple?

[Closetothewind]

Name changed for this, for what will be obvious reasons.

To cut a long story short, I have been having an affair with a close male friend for the last two years now. TBH, my relationship with DH has been tedious for years now, he's not a particularly warm man and the honest truth is that I don't feel any great guilt over seeing somebody else.

The man I'm seeing has a newish girlfriend and she's really keen for us all to go on holiday. I know it sounds like a bit of a nigtmare, but it's at a very exclusive private members resort and we'd never be able to get in there without her.

AIBU to even consider going on this trip?

Yes.

Save up and get in yourself.

Yes

Sounds loopy but quite understand that you'd like the holiday. Go for it - all your relationships are a total sham anyway.

is it an exclusive members only swinging holiday? oh, you simply must go....

leave your tedious DH , get divorced and act like a grown up

completely mad.

nice NOT

But do your DH and the girlfriend know their relationships are a sham? It sounds like you are extremely selfish and only really looking out for yourself, have a little compassion for the people who are going to get hurt for goodness sake.

Can't save up tiredemma, it's a private resort, invitation only.

Oh, they won't get hurt, they won't find out

Did you want to get flamed? Did you get up thinking "Wednesday. Today's the day for some e-flagellation."

don't go - could really end in tears. The affair is your business but going on holiday with your cuckolded husband and the other man's girl is a step WAY too far.

these things always end in tears

Unreasonable? NO, absolutely not, you owe it to yourself and let's face it, like the ad says, you're worth it. Don't feel guilty - grab any moment you can with your new love on this holiday, bollocks to the other 2, you deserve your happiness.

harharhar

Quattro - quote of the week, surely?

Why are you still with your DH? And why is this friend getting himself a new girlfriend if you are having an affair with him? Is he trying to make you jealous, maybe get you to leave your DH?

go. hopefully your dh will find out.

This is a wind up. It must be

You're sounding very much like a complete wanker if truth be told

Don't even think about going on this "holiday".

Why has your boyfriend got a new girlfriend?

or drop Dh now and go along as a threesome ?

Sooooo you are having an affair with a man who now has a new girlfriend. She wants all four of you to go on holiday together? Does she know about you?

This is a wind up isn't it??

OK, so assuming she knows nothing, then go, you'll get found out, she can go off with your "dull and tedious husband" and you and your lover can be together - you deserve each other everyones happy.

All three of you know, except for your DH? Then you are a pile of (sorry girls) horrible cunts.

All four of you know, including your DH AND he gets to screw the girlfriend - go for it.

PMSL at the OP.

Not AIBU to have an affair but AIBU to go holiday with my lover, his girlfriend and my husband!!!

Did you mean to write to Closer magazine and hit MN instead? Easily done, I know...

If you are posting on mumsnet I assume you are a mother, in which case I would suggest that the possibility of your children getting hurt by your deceit should be your primary concern.

Or are you just an attention seeker?

Well, as it's a very exclusive private members resort...

LOL at Quattro