to consider going on holiday with this couple?

[Closetothewind]

Name changed for this, for what will be obvious reasons.

To cut a long story short, I have been having an affair with a close male friend for the last two years now. TBH, my relationship with DH has been tedious for years now, he's not a particularly warm man and the honest truth is that I don't feel any great guilt over seeing somebody else.

The man I'm seeing has a newish girlfriend and she's really keen for us all to go on holiday. I know it sounds like a bit of a nigtmare, but it's at a very exclusive private members resort and we'd never be able to get in there without her.

AIBU to even consider going on this trip?

If this is a wind up, it needs to get a bit more outraged, or it'll never make it to MN classics.

right, so, just a pair of cunts then and two innocent parties. nice

can't be arsed , habbibu.. i have 3 epsisodes of big brother to catch up on

oooh, of course you should go

it is really claaaaaaaaaaaaaaarsy to go on holiday with your husband and boyfriend

imagine, all the dead of the night bed swapping - will be jolly good fun

and all those holiday snap discussions

There is no need for this thread to get heated, or outrage.

I just want genuine opinion's, and I'm sure I'm not the only one here who's marriage hasn't been entirely monogamous.

so then why the need for a namechange?

anyway, am orf.. have a super time, don;t forget the lube

Don't go, why would you spend time with a man that you want to be shagging and the woman (younger I assume) that he will be shagging? You seem to want to make yourself look desperate and pathetic....

Lulu, for a second I thought you were outing yourself as Closeto! No, I meant she was meant to get all stroppy at being called a troll and call us all judgemental witches. As it is, she's got some Xenia-zen going on (note - NOT equating Xenia with moral laxity - just unruffled posting style!)

I bet she knows about you.

Yes dear, I was being facetious.

Why exactly are you having an affair, and have no plans ever to tell your husband? Why?

is this where you were thinking of going closeto?

You have received genuine opinions. I personally wouldn't buy the Honda. It rates vey badly for fuel consumption in the latest Which guide. Happy to be of help.

I wouldn't buy it, just one more damn asset to split..

Not seen the DFS ad's DSM, they cut their sofas with a chain saw.

12legs

Hear that windy? Theres a plan. Get hubby told

Who needs a moral compass when there are signs everywhere saying "Don't do it".

Oh! Oh! do tell - who is the "bit of fluff" who gets exclusive invites the rest of you can't?

Still chortling at Honda comparision

You really shouldnt be on MN. Like you said your children can look after themselves now (thank god for that I doubt you did a good job at it!) so why dont you find a forum more suited to your current needs... I know there are sites dedicated to extramarital affairs they will not look down their noses at you the way people trying to maintain a healthy family will.

You are either a troll or a very very very silly woman who needs glory and attention. Go on, go on the holiday. I think it would be the best for all concerned. You will surely accidentally 'out' yourself and assests will be split accordingly.

(oh and dear, I think you are the silly bit of fluff!)

Pmsl at NKFs Honda Civic comments. Even my DH snorted when I told him and he is usually a little at MN.

Honda Civic? Pure class, ala the OP!!

I don't believe you stop being a mother when your children grow up. Besides, there are women on here who don't even have children.

I will stay here thank you, family life takes many shapes and sizes. It wouldn't surprise me if some of your husbands were having extra-marital affairs, that is just life.

I am sure you are very correct about men and women having affairs here. But come on - your thread has to be one of the most shallow I have seen. You could not have painted yourself in a worse light. And those who know me know that I am truly no saint.

Hope you do get caught.
You are clearly a very selfish person.
Feel very sorry for your kids who will be very hurt and disappointed in you.

Does anybody else remember that 80's sitcom Duty Free?