New puppy...

[Doggynono]

I am not a dog person never have been...DP loves dogs all four kids love dogs. I am allergic to dogs some I can tolerate. Anyway they all went on and on DP told me for the kids childhood we should get them a dog I caved. He promised he would do everything with the dog. We got a 'hypoallergenic' breed I went and visited without taking antihistamine twice and all was fine. Anyway we're a week into having the new puppy and my allergies are flaring up. I just feel crap with them sore eyes, sneezing, a little bit wheezing thankfully no rashes. I'm trying not to be round her too much as I feel miserable have been taking 2 antihistamines a day but they aren't doing much. DP is raging at me he keeps throwing me dirty looks when I sneeze so there is no way I can say about Rehoming. He's also huffing about having to sleep downstairs with the dog while we crate train but again he was the one who wanted the dog not me. Plus I don't want to do that on the kids and dog.

any tips on what I can do here? Do hepa air purifiers work? I hoover, mop and damp wipe every day and she isn't allowed upstairs

Ten ..
Mine lived much longer
Dog needs to go back to the breeder asap

Try some petal cleanse - can help a bit

try an air purifier too. See if you can build up some tolerance to her over time - but this is only if your allergies are not very severe and breathing difficulties really need consideration here

switch up your antihistamine to another type to see if that works and keep a good air flow in the house

All you can do really, practicality wise. Partner wise - that’s a whole different ball game

The more you say, the more toxic he sounds, OP.

Either the dog gets rehomed or you do. Why does your partner care so little about your health?

Your DH sounds like a bully
The dog sounds delightful,and will make a family a loving pet
Just not your family..
Op ,you are important
,you count
,you can't be living like this

The dog absolutely must go back to the breeder,
and I'd probably think about sending the DH back home to his mil ,unless he started to be kinder to you x

You can’t help being allergic! Sounds like you shh rehome

Also allergic we chose hair not fur so got yorkies no trouble

agree with this - same happened with my friend. She was adopted by a cat who kept coming round in the summer when doors & windows were open. She was taking a huge amount of antihistamines but still was itchy & sore. After a few months it settled & their relationship is now mutual!! 😂😂

Don't know if it the same for dogs. I'd by mighty cross if my partner was so uninterested in how it was affecting me. That feels like this biggest problem

You went wrong getting two crosses. The father needed to be a straight poodle. Shame you didn’t research that.

He's an abusive twat and the puppy probably came from a puppy farm.

Honestly, WRONG mix!
While Poodle & Maltese don't shed, the cooker will and that could be the problem.

Honestly please re home, it's not going to get better. This is the wrong dog for your family.

oh I didn't know this I thought poodle being in both wound be ok.

Thanks for all the advice I really don't want to be cruel to the wee dog she is so lovely my partner works shifts so ultimately I will be left alone with the dog the most out of us both. My parents live near by and have said they would look after her during the day while I work so she wasn't alone. I haven't just got her on a whim and didn't think of the consequences ONLY this bloody allergic reaction.

we can afford her but I just don't have £800 a few days after Xmas to hand him if we rehome. We also have a holiday that has to be paid off (I have her booked in to a dog minder that week)

From the sounds of household arrangements includes ‘crate training’, I get the impression the pup has to live in a crate. This can lead to poor bone development as the animal has v. limited exercise. This alone makes me want this poor creature to be returned to breeder.

No the crate is just for sleeping in

I had read crate training is good for dogs for independence is it cruel?

Your husband's cross because it's clear that this is a bad decision and it's not going to work

Yep makes me so cross that people get dogs without thinking about fully then get rid when they don't fit in to their lives. They shouldn't have got a dog in the first place as one party wasn't keen and had an allergy. It's a recipe for disaster.

Op ,this isn't going to work
The sooner you give the dog back to the breeder the better for the dog and you .
Your DH is an absolute disgrace how he is treating you
For heavens sake stand up for yourself

When will people learn that decent breeders never allow nicely bred dogs to be used to create these random mixes?! I’m not saying the dogs can’t be nice, but good breeders do not churn out these dogs, no matter how convincing they seem.

There’s no such thing as a hypoallergenic dog, and having poodle in the mix means nothing. My dog is a labradoodle and fur-wise she sheds like a Labrador although her fur is quite curly. Aside from that, the fur itself is often not what people are allergic to. It’s the dead skin cells etc.

The kindest thing would be to rehome the puppy while it’s still young, no one is too attached to it and it’s more likely to find another family home quite easily. The longer this goes on the harder it will be. Your partner sounds like a dickhead and I would be reflecting on that separately as I’d be unlikely to want to remain in a relationship with such an unpleasant person. But you need to be firm about the dog right now. Will the breeder take it back?

Air purifier, Dyson hoover are my best buys. Also regular dog grooms from a good groomer

im also allergic to dogs and cats and have a hypo allergenic breed however it still took me 2/3 months to adapt. I’m absolutely fine now so hoping you have a similar allergy to mine… to be honest i don’t think it’s the hair im
allergic to but the dander etc so that’s why good grooming and cleaning is best to help

edit- to add I have lived with a dog before and a cat when I was younger so I did know I could live with an animal of that makes sense. I recognise not everyone’s allergies will get better over time

She needs to be re homed and fast.

what is your H going to do, sue you?? He’s being totally ridiculous.

Although you have bought a what some think is a ‘hypoallergenic breed’ of dog it does sound like you’re sensitive to the dander that the dog is shedding.

Your partner is a complete tool. I've just got to the bit where he is the one working shifts so you'll be left caring for HIS dog most of the time. And he's sulking about sleeping downstairs - did he think he was going to lumber you with that too? As for "paying him back" - that would just get a blunt NO from me.

I'm allergic to dogs and cats but we had both when I lived at home and I seemed too develop an immunity to my own pets. Other people pets would still set me off and the first few days back home for the uni holidays I'd be streaming and wheezing, but then fine again. I appreciate that might but work for everyone but it might be worth persisting longer especially if you are otherwise liking doggo.

You shouldn't have agreed in the first place. Did he bully you into it? I repeat, what a tool he is.

I'm allergic to cats, and we have 2. They were DD's dads, and when he passed suddenly, forcing her to rehome her beloved pets was not an option. My allergy used to be so bad that I would know which colleagues had cats based on being allergic to people who lived with cats.

HEPA air filters make a massive difference. We have a large, commercial-grade one on the stairs where the cats spend the most time, and smaller ones in my room and the family room. I found taking two different types of anti-histamine helped most, one in the morning and one on an evening. Petal Cleanse wipes also help, and obviously, cleaning daily. Hoovering is more effective than sweeping. If you can afford to changing soft furnishings and carpets for wipe-clean materials like leather and laminate also makes a massive difference.

I would wait a few months before rehoming. I found I built a tolerance to my cats. I can now touch them and interact with them for a short time without reacting, and I am no longer allergic to cat owners. I am still highly allergic to strange cats, but I can be in the same room as one as long as it doesn't come too close for too long. I no longer take antihistamines unless I need to interact with my cats for a long period of time, and we've gone back to hoovering twice a week instead of twice a day. I only have a reaction now if they crawl on me for extended periods, and the antihistamines are much better at managing the symptoms when I do react as the reactions are not as severe.

we can afford her but I just don't have £800 a few days after Xmas to hand him if we rehome. We also have a holiday that has to be paid off (I have her booked in to a dog minder that week)

You don't owe him anything, that's the worst thing about this. He should be packing his bags and leaving with his dog.