New puppy...

[Doggynono]

I am not a dog person never have been...DP loves dogs all four kids love dogs. I am allergic to dogs some I can tolerate. Anyway they all went on and on DP told me for the kids childhood we should get them a dog I caved. He promised he would do everything with the dog. We got a 'hypoallergenic' breed I went and visited without taking antihistamine twice and all was fine. Anyway we're a week into having the new puppy and my allergies are flaring up. I just feel crap with them sore eyes, sneezing, a little bit wheezing thankfully no rashes. I'm trying not to be round her too much as I feel miserable have been taking 2 antihistamines a day but they aren't doing much. DP is raging at me he keeps throwing me dirty looks when I sneeze so there is no way I can say about Rehoming. He's also huffing about having to sleep downstairs with the dog while we crate train but again he was the one who wanted the dog not me. Plus I don't want to do that on the kids and dog.

any tips on what I can do here? Do hepa air purifiers work? I hoover, mop and damp wipe every day and she isn't allowed upstairs

Does your partner work?
Who will look after the puppy when he is at work/playing sport/out doing hobbies?
Who will walk the puppy if your partner is ill?
Who will have the puppy when you go on holiday or out for family days?
Where will puppy go if you have a family wedding, funeral, one of you is in hospital or during medical appointments?
Who will be doing all the dog related cleaning? Washing of muddy floors, blankets, towels, coats?
Who is responsible for socialising pup? During the formative months your pup will need to be exposed gently to all experiences from meeting other dogs, horses, other animals, all sorts of other people, traffic, noises, travelling by car and public transport?
Have you considered costs of pet insurance, vets bills, flea treatments, food, kennels, dog walkers, medication etc? Medication for you and the puppy?
Who will walk the dog on wet nights and dark mornings?
Who will scoop poop in your garden so your kids don't trail it into the house?
You go out for a dog walk and can't take the dog in a shop or cafe - who will stand outside with the pup whilst the rest of you sit in? Or will you all go home?
How will your partner react when pup soils the carpet or chews his best boots?
Will your partner always be available to take pup to the vets?
How will you travel in a car with the dog that makes you ill?

Honestly OP. Your allergy is only the tip of a 15 year iceberg.

You made a mistake in agreeing to get a dog when you know you are allergic to them. You are now going to compound that mistake by trying anything and everything to control the allergy and all because you don't want your partner to be pissed off and your children to be disappointed. What kind of partner is he if he'd rather you felt unwell than get rid of the dog or insist you reimburse him if you do have to re-home the dog?

You have three choices:
The dog goes.
You go.
You live like this for, potentially, 15 years.

If you care about the dogs welfare at all you will re-home it now. It will also be harder for the children the longer you leave it. Stop pandering to your sulky partner and put your foot down, it will be better for everyone in the long run.

My DD was desperate for a dog but is allergic to some. We got a puppy 2 years ago and use an air purifier and a spray I get from Amazon that kills the pet dander in carpets etc.

Fingers crossed she hasn't had a reaction since the 1st week.

Spray is Allasearch, might be worth a try.

Ah you should never have caved (and I am a dog owner). Seriously I would rehome now while she is still little and your children haven’t bonded too much with her.
Your allergies are likely to get worse not better and you can’t live for the next potentially 15 years changing bedding and clothes all the time and endlessly vacuuming.
Aside from the allergy issues your DH is annoyed already after a week, training a puppy takes a lot of time and patience in the first year! I think he thought you’d cave and end up doing everything for the puppy.
After the paying him back for the puppy comment I’d be tempted to ask him to leave and take the dog with him.

Another vote for petal cleanse. My sister is allergic to cats but I use to wipe the cat over and she was fine.

Just re-read your post OP. You hoover, mop & wipe every day? At the very least the rest of the family should be doing all the extra house work required by having this dog. I agree with others that the only fair thing for the dog is to rehome asap. But you'll be left with an awful partner who is not modelling the right way to treat you in front of your children. Good luck, I hope you sort this and find someone who will treat you with respect.

If he won’t give up on a dog would he consider a different breed. He should have had a contract from the breeder which means he returns to them within a certain number of months and I believe gets half the money back. So could you afford to pay him back half the money and then he gets a different breed? I had a miniature schnauzer for years who never shed once in her life, and now have a daschund who couldn’t shed if he wanted to! In contrast my poodle breed leaves whole carpets of fur everywhere if he isn’t brushed!

They absolutely should never ever get another dog again. They can't abandon this one, try another just to give that poor creature up too.

Bonkers.

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@francii I wonder if the partner would be any happier having to train, accommodate and open heartedly look after another breed of dog?

There's also the risk that OP would be allergic to another dog and repeat the same mistake twice. A mistake that's pretty appalling for the dog.

I'm willing to bet GOOD money there's no "contract" for this obviously puppy-farmed dog.

And the OP should under no circumstances at all even consider sending this puppy away and 'trying another one'. Have you even read the full thread?

Your husband sounds like an arsehole OP. Based on what you’ve shared on this thread I can’t imagine he’s particularly nice to you normally tbh.

That is ridiculous.

The way youre describing this man makes me wonder why youre married to him. He doesnt give a flying fuck that your allergic to the dog, now he wants you to pay him?

I'd be telling DH in no uncertain terms the dog goes - in reality it'd make me question the whole marriage if he can be so nonchalant about your discomfort.

Difficult one. I've always had dogs since I was a teen, mostly border collies, got 2 now. I wouldn't be with anyone who couldn't cope with dogs. I have read that if babies/children are exposed to animals, similar with peanuts that it lessened the allergens. It's usually fur or dander. We have dog proofed our place. No carpet, just washable laminate.we used to have a phalene lovely boy almost 18 when PTS January 23, supposed to be non shedding, they don't have oil or undercoat,so a lot of grooming and combing which he hated, they have hair not fur. He used to drop lumps like cotton wool balls. Lots of friends with cocky doodly things, discovered, not hypoallergenic and the very devil to groom, coat partly curly partly straight. How old are the kids? My DH won't let me have a cat, I have to respect that, but as it's causing you medical issues,that's different, either he does the load or dog goes.

I’m sorry but I think you really have bigger problems in your marriage than the dog, your husband is an arse and this is just highlighting it.

This is bad advice. I've made a post about how there's truly no such thing as hypoallergenic dogs.

Daschunds also do shed but their fine hair can be hard to detect.

As dogs age too, their coats change and in their elderly years they can be prone to dryer skin, looser coats that matt, more sensitive skin that makes it painful for them to be brushed, and generally get a bit crusty too around the eyes which can be a huge source of allergens.

Elderly dogs also require significantly more intimate care, but not many people consider their dogs elder years when getting a puppy.

You sound bullied by your husband. You knew this was a terrible idea for your health, yet he was able to strong arm you into it. You're now desperate to get your symptoms under control because he's angry and you're anxious about consequences. He has the absolute gall to tell you you would have to repay him, and you're worried about affording it, rather than that he'd dare to suggest it in the first place.
There is no outcome to this situation that's going to work for everyone, so is a cross roads in your relationship. If I were you I'd use it as the catalyst to reflect on whether you want to spend the rest of your life under his thumb or stand up for yourself and what's right for you.

What you have got is a mongrel, and there is absolutely no guarantee about anything: fur, health, temperament. However, it would not be difficult to find a new home for her, as a small, cute-looking dog.

Try fexofendine (allevia)

Sounds like it came from a puppy farm as the two breed mixes ending in poo are awful. Sadly the dog is likely to have major health issues and probably won’t live a long life so there is that to consider.

However, allergies are awful to live with and your husband is callous bastard if he can see you suffering and is nasty to you about it.

The dog is just one issue of what appears to be a very troubled relationship as he is horrible and abusive.

@Doggynono I'm also allergic, but I lived for more than 10 years with hypoallergenic dogs with no real issues (though my allergic response to dogs is likely different from yours).

Are you taking the antihistamine on a regular basis and at the same time each day? They are most effective when taken on a regular basis, and before symptoms start (less effective when taken reactively, after symptoms have already started).

Is there any possibility of keeping the dog away from specific parts of the house? At least then you can keep distance from the dog if needed.

Franky this sounds like financial control or abuse. Why have you no money or no access to it?

The dog isn’t the biggest problem in your home…

There's a product called Petal Cleanse that you can use on the dog to reduce allergens, particularly if it's the dander that you are allergic to. It takes a few days to work but it really does help - one friend of ours who was severely allergic to cats now has four, and another who was allergic to dogs has two, with no problems.

allergyshop.co.uk/product/bio-life-petal-cleanse-dog/

Make sure the puppy has had a bath since leaving the litter, as the dander and muck build up greatly in the nest. Then get your dick of a husband to PETAL CLEANSE the pup. We do ours weekly and it has to be done well - it makes a huge difference. I am allergic and manage fine as long as I don't sleep with Fido.