New puppy...

[Doggynono]

I am not a dog person never have been...DP loves dogs all four kids love dogs. I am allergic to dogs some I can tolerate. Anyway they all went on and on DP told me for the kids childhood we should get them a dog I caved. He promised he would do everything with the dog. We got a 'hypoallergenic' breed I went and visited without taking antihistamine twice and all was fine. Anyway we're a week into having the new puppy and my allergies are flaring up. I just feel crap with them sore eyes, sneezing, a little bit wheezing thankfully no rashes. I'm trying not to be round her too much as I feel miserable have been taking 2 antihistamines a day but they aren't doing much. DP is raging at me he keeps throwing me dirty looks when I sneeze so there is no way I can say about Rehoming. He's also huffing about having to sleep downstairs with the dog while we crate train but again he was the one who wanted the dog not me. Plus I don't want to do that on the kids and dog.

any tips on what I can do here? Do hepa air purifiers work? I hoover, mop and damp wipe every day and she isn't allowed upstairs

Your dh is a selfish twat you tell him your not wanting to get rid of the dog but it is his dog as he paid for it so this makes it his responsibility and tell him straight your suffering daily and he seems more concerned about his dog. Tell him the dog is lovely and if you had to choose between the 2 of them the dog would win. He needs to meet you half way you cannot be near the dog or responsible and if he has to change his clothes tough luck.

I'm not sure if anyone else has suggested this, but please look into Avamys nasal spray. I struggled so much for years and this resolved so much for me.

Unfortunately I don't have an easy solution for your husband 😟

Three of my family have cat allergies, as do I. We always had cats as children and never really noticed any allergic symptoms. Once siblings moved out and lived without cats they noticed the allergic symptoms whenever they visited a home with cats. I kept cats and have the same allergic reaction but only when grooming them or getting the fur in my face. I do wonder if there is some exposure therapy at play and hopefully if you keep the dog your allergies will lessen? Your DH sounds awful though. If keep tye dog and ditch him.

That’s not a breed, that’s a mongrel (although cute) none of these breeds are “hypoallergenic” either, so it’s a double con. Poor dog.

That's awful 😔 he sounds selfish.
Take the dog back and let him sulk.
Hold back on helping him out while he is punishing you with his sulking and looks.
Just be distant and don't let him wield that power over you.
How totally despicable to resent you for having an allergic reaction. Sorry that's hit a nerve with me. Do what's right for your health.

Op!! I am a mad dog person!!! Love them bits and when my lab goes she will take a piece of me!!! but I wouldn’t have one if it made me sick/unwell.
i am petrified of snakes. Can’t even see a toy one it scares so even if my kids loved one I just couldn’t have it in the house and be comfortable. Any chance the breeder could take her back? Poor pup but it’s better she goes to a home where all family members want and love her and she doesn’t make any unwell. We have a good friend - hubby best friend from boarding school. His wife is terribly allergic to dogs bless her yet she always invites us with the dog and even keeps a treat jar in her kitchen for her. She also takes 2 tablets when we go there or she comes to us! We just don’t take the dog there because by the time we leave her she’s are red and watering! We had to chuck our Christmas tree out one year as with our dog and the tree she was so unwell! No matter how much you clean dog hair/drool and general dog bits gets everywhere so no advice other than to say hubby needs to put your first on this occasion!

Well, we don't know. OP should not have had a puppy if she is allergic to dogs. However, she did not want the dog so her symptoms may be emotionally heightened. A bit stupid all round.

We have two dogs, one is a rescue mutt. It took weeks of work to gain trust and train her. She is a family dog but MY dog as I chose to get her.
She’s got excellent recall, toilet trained in 2 weeks, a very bright and sociable dog and an excellent guard dog. She hates going in the car but loved our UK family holiday. I’ve put in unbelievably large amounts of time to get her trained. I won’t ever put either dog in kennels while we go abroad so it’s UK only now.
As I wanted dogs, I walk them, pay their insurance and vets bills, dog groomers etc. I pick up the dog poo in the garden, bath them and feed them.
These are all things that I would expect your DP and kids to be doing. They pestered you for a dog, they chose the dog and knew it could make you ill and the puppy has. Is your DP going to pay for all the wipes and antihistamines you will need? Are the kids going to help walk and clean up after the puppy and to train it?
If the kids are getting bored already and don’t want to do the garden bathroom breaks then I fear the Royal “We” is going to be just you OP.
I sense you have bonded with the puppy and feel responsible for her but this is just not going to work out. Either find a new home for her yourself and charge the £800 to the new owner so you don’t have to pay DP back (he sounds an entitled twat by the way!) or take the puppy back to where HE bought her from.
I worry about the effect on your body and health from taking strong antihistamines for many years. It will not take many years for your DP and kids to get over a puppy they’ve had for a week going back to the “breeder”.

Nah, she put herself out to try and give everyone else what they wanted. As a result she's ill and nobody cares.
If the dog makes you ill, it has to go.

Hi all sorry we had a busy NYE. I have sneezed all day breathing is OK today I did have childhood asthma but the doctor said I grew out of it in my 20s.

I feel like an awful person if I have the dog back not just to the kids but the dog herself. DP stayed with her all day today in the kitchen watching football and bringing her out to the toilet. He's working tomorrow and I'm off so I will have to see how the two tablets go tomorrow if I am very bad compared to today she is just going to have to go. I don't feel as bad as I did yesterday but I still don't feel great. I spoke to my eldest child who has hayfever very bad in the summer and he understands and said he doesn't want me feeling how he feels on bad days with his hayfever.

My sister has said she will take her she loves dogs but I don't know if that would be a good solution

Yes, as things stand @Doggynono ranks lower than the dog in the household.
It's as if she is disposable, her health is sacrificed to the dog. And she has to do all the work related to it.
WHY are you letting yourself be subordinated like this OP??

She will not be going to kennels no way will I allow that. As I said my sister has said she would have her and a friend from work has also said they would have her.

Your dh is being awful

So the don’t get a puppy for Christmas message was truly lost on your family. Or your DH, though I am sure you were aware of the plan as he bought a hypoallergenic puppy specifically.
Foolish.

Mine's a mutt and we paid a cheap rate for him as he was an accidental litter, but some of the prices folk wanted for cross-breeds on the site we were looking at was ridiculous! They aren't designed breeds they are a Heinz 57!

We got two kittens last year and had to re-home them after a few months as our eldest child was allergic to one/both of them. I felt bad about it but ultimately my child's health comes before an animal.

Me too but I cant help but post.
Your husband has irresponsibly bought a mongrel. I'm also assuming that you didn't tell the breeder/seller you were allergic to dogs.
This puppy is a living breathing sentient being. The puppy should never ever have been brought into a household where not everyone was 100% on board.
IMHO no responsible breeder would have homed a puppy at Christmas time.
You cannot keep this puppy and you should surrender it to the Dogs Trust ASAP. The money is irrelevant. We are talking about a living breathing animal here and your husband will just have to take the hit for being so stupid.
The Dogs Trust will make surecthe puppy goes to a responsible home but do it now before the puppy forms emotional bonds with your household.
Bathing a tiny puppy is not something you should be doing (unless for it's sake ie: poo / unset tummy incident) not because of your allegies.
Also in my opinion and I know its none of my business but you have a big problem in your marriage if he treats you in this way and a puppy is the last thing that needs bringing into this mix.
As for him moaning about sleeping downstairs when im assuminghe said he would, well thats a big sign right there that he is never going to fully commit to looking after this pup.
Everyone brings up their pups differently but when our (now departed) puppy arrived, I slept downstairs with him while he was in his crate and set my alarm for every two hours to wake up and take the puppy outside to go to the loo. He was housetrained and crate trained in a week and yes I was exhausted and it's not how everyone does it but it's about the well being of this tiny soul that been taken from their mum and who you made a commitment to care for, for the rest of their lives.
Please rehome the puppy responsibly and then take a good long look at your marriage situation.

This is all such a sad situation, for you, the puppy and brought the family unwittingly into turmoil over a poor decision.

If the family were So desperate for dog interaction why didn’t they look at alternatives without it affecting you? There’s such a thing as ‘rent a dog ‘ schemes.
My daughter in law and 3 year old walk a Labrador three times a week for an elderly neighbour. Win/Win. They get to have a dog they haven’t got room for, the dog gets a walk the neighbour is grateful for the help.

So he’s not going to cooperate in keeping doggy clothes out of the bedroom? Which is going to be a difficult thing to do even when committed to it which he isn’t.

I agree with him that your main issue is the way he is behaving. I’d be really upset. I’m sorry.

Hey, I dont know if this has been mentioned as I havent had the time to read through the whole thread. Are your anti histimines prescribed from the doctor? I was allergic to my cat for 15 years and was exactly how u described. Over the counter ones didn't even help me so I had to ring the Dr's and get the strongest ones they have and that worked for me, for years.

Sorry I agree with you that should read, not him!

Ultimately, a kennels would probably find a better, more suitable, place for her. That way she would be in a long-term home, far away from your husband and children who will almost certainly still try and lay claim on her if she goes to someone you know.

You should do what's best for the dog. Not what is easiest for you.

Agreed this seems like it wouldn't be in her best interests.

Neither your sister or work friend wanted a dog let alone a puppy before this week or they would have already been looking for one. Either of them taking on this dog would just add to the chaotic shit show her life to date has been. She needs to be rehomed properly by someone who can do the proper checks and by people who have already planned to have a puppy join their family.

Try a different type of antihistamine.

Your husband should be moving heaven and earth to avoid the impact on you- buying the various filters and cleaning constantly.

Sadly I suspect he will get fed up of the dog because it’s making his life harder.

I’m so sorry. What a shame.

Please don’t martyr your health because of your petulant husband.